Don't feel I fit in...

[PrincessKLS]

I grew up in a very rural area and I never felt I fit in her. BUt I also don't feel like I would fit into a large inner city or suburb.

I've always been interested in high or middle class city life but I don't know I'd fit into it. Or even a coastal city, I don't know. I wouldn't mind maybe European countryside but not American countryside.

[BlueSage]

so wishy washy i'm confused as to what you are sayin' there KLS lol.

[Cindlady2]

How about a small town within an hour to a city?

[MonSno_LeeDra]

Hate to say it but a European countryside is no different than a US countryside. The side of the road being driven on may change but all in all its the same. Farmers are farmers, cattlemen are cattlemen, the only change you notice is the crops being grown based upon the area climate.

The concept of the grass being greener on the other side of the fence just doesn't hold water.

I lived 2 years in Scotland, 3 in Spain and 6 1/2 in Japan. Take down the signs and the land looks the same.

[Brigid Rowan]

Well, I guess I never figured the location was the thing keeping me from fitting in. In every place I've lived, there were those I fit in with, and those I didnt. ~shrugs~ Find a hobby, and join in, thats all it takes.

Look at what you love, and do that. The rest falls into place.

[PrincessKLS]

My mom says all the time but the stuff I'm most interested in aren't available in my town.

[PrincessKLS]

How about a small town within an hour to a city?


I guess that would be okay but it would have to be a large city. Like one of those many cities of LA or Southern California or something.

[Brigid Rowan]

What kind of things are you interested in?

[PrincessKLS]

Arts, entertainment, business, finance, stuff like that, or minor politics. We don't have much of those things here. And of course the occult.

[alwaysfallingup]

Rather than move, why don't you try to cultivate what you want in your area? I'm sure there are many others in your area who are starving for art or theater or anything else you wish was in your area. You just need to find them and organize. Our area in the last few years has really blossomed because the citizens have taken the initiative to bring together the things they want. Community theater, art shows, circles and covens, craft fairs, cultural events, and more in our area are all grassroots projects started by one interested person with enough drive and creativity to make it happen.

[PrincessKLS]

I don't know, I just felt for a long time that my spirit didn't belong here. Like I needed to spread my wings.

[Brigid Rowan]

If that is the case (and I do believe some people just dont mesh well with certain places) then move. Start looking at areas that do interest you, and look for some jobs/look at apartment rents/consider if you can afford to live there, then do it.

[Against The Tide]

It sounds to me as though you have exhausted everything your hometown had to offer you, and now you want somewhere fresh and new to stimulate you.

I agree with alwaysfallingup's comment about creating the changes you want to see in your hometown, also - its people that make a place, not property - so look for like-minded individuals or jump onto the internet. Maybe make a good friend who has the same lifegoals as you and then if you are still going stir crazy in that cage of a town of yours, work your ass off, save every penny, THEN move out somewhere, pref with your reliable friend.

Just being away from your parents brings a good change. You have the freedom to do what you want - even if you don't live any differently, not living under your parents can take a huge weight off and allow you to look forward rather than sideways.

Citys arn't as bad as you think. I am a vet of inner city living. Yes I had some trouble with gangs and city pollution, but its easy to blend into the background and not become involved with trouble. I had a garden and small circle of friends. Life was good. You learn to desensitise yourself to the 24 hour lighting and noise and find peace within your pad.

Best of luck chickadee