She's EVIL!

[~*Sacred*~]

Ok, no not really. But my WORD do I work with one horrendous gal! She completely sucks the life & fun out of me I want to puke just thinking of working with her. She is sooooooooooo down & part of that is because she has a few MI's of which I cannot fault her for (obviously) but her attitude is also just NASTY. I have tried so many techniques while at work & while in bed at night to sheild me for the next day against her but it DOESN'T WORK!

I'm going out of my gord here. I've noticed that for some reason things have been stronger lately and... ta da..... it was like that when I was pregnant with my 1st as well. I dunno what it is about pregnancy.

Anywhoo, I'll catch myself walking on eggshells around her so as not to "upset" her on anything, but then I'm not acting like me!!! I'm SO TIRED of acting the way everyone else wants me to act so that I don't offend them but it's like I can't STOP myself when I'm around her. I don't know if it has to do with the sheilding or with the fact that I cannot STAND to have someone be mean/not like me when I knooooow I'm a really sweet person.

I just don't get it. This chick just muddles up my thoughts & emotions when I am around her.... So much that I have thought about quitting.

[Willow Rosette]

Im so sorry your feeling this way. I know how it feels to work with someone who raises the hair on your neck just looking at them. I dont have any advice hon but I have a big :hugz:

Congrats on being pregnant as well. Maybe you could move your focus to your precious bun and away from her some? I know easier said than done...but it is a try.

[Brigid Rowan]

Im not sure what type of work you do, but could you cleanse and sort of "sheild n smudge" to any degree? Maybe a nice crystal for your desk, a rosemary plant, you know, a mini-protection around you and your workspace?

[Xentor]

Sometimes the best defense is an offense...

[Brigid Rowan]

Sometimes the best defense is an offense...
~chuckles~...sometimes yes, it is. Mind sharing some things youve done to coworkers ideas you have? lol..:hehehehe:

[Xentor]

~chuckles~...sometimes yes, it is. Mind sharing some things youve done to coworkers ideas you have? lol..:hehehehe:
I tend to mirror. Harmless in itself, it can be highly annoying, depending on the person mirrored.

[~*Sacred*~]

What I have done is ground & center myself at work & then I focus on my solar plexus & repeat that this is MY energy & her's is not welcome to interfere with mine. I then also cast a circle around myself for the time being to keep her stuff out.

What's smudging?

[Cake-eating_Moth]

"A man should be loyal through life to friends,
And return gift for gift,
Laugh when they laugh,
but with lies repay
A false foe who lies. "
~The Hávamál

Sometimes the best advice is the oldest advice.

I don't like getting stepped on, and obviously niether do you.

Sugar is good to a point, but sometimes a bit of lemon juice needs to be squirted in their eyes to make them realize how mean and hypocritical they're being to others.

But don't literally squirt lemon juice in her eyes .... because it's um, really unprofessional... but you get my drift.

Good luck. And I hope this girl humbles up a bit and that you become strong enough to hold your own and not let her affect you.

[Brigid Rowan]

http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=170364

Shalaye is AMAZING, read her stuff, and really, she is the woman. I bet it will answer a ton of questions, and give you great ideas.

[BlackLili]

http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=170364

Shalaye is AMAZING, read her stuff, and really, she is the woman. I bet it will answer a ton of questions, and give you great ideas.
Good one! I was just about to add some Shalaye-inspired advice myself - if she's really getting to you, write her name on a piece of paper, put it in a baggie of water, and toss it in the freezer. See if she "cools off" for you and lays off a bit.

[~*Sacred*~]

Thanks everyone, I'll have to check it out.

See if she cools off...:rollingla

[1111]

Good one! I was just about to add some Shalaye-inspired advice myself - if she's really getting to you, write her name on a piece of paper, put it in a baggie of water, and toss it in the freezer. See if she "cools off" for you and lays off a bit.

Always works for me.

[~*Sacred*~]

http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=170364

Shalaye is AMAZING, read her stuff, and really, she is the woman. I bet it will answer a ton of questions, and give you great ideas.
I've read her class before, but what exactly in that link were you wanting me to focus on? I can't do those things at work. LOL!

[thought_on_a_wind]

I believe the pregnancy thing has something to do with your open link to the unborn one. Most women start to bond with a kid while it's still in the womb.

Have you tried phyically sweeping a hand briskly down the center chakra? Works for me... if that doesn't work, maybe it's about time you let it out. Better to let it out now while you have a modicum of control versus later when it comes out of its own accord. Another avenue depends upon this question. "Have you asked your supervisor to move/have her move? If they contest the idea, bring up the point that two cogs that don't match up won't let the machine function efficiently (or something like that).

I don't know what your ethics are on the matter, but I've had varying degrees of results with the following: Stare into a mirror till trance hits, then feel your focus pull to the person in question (best done when they are asleep) and tell her exactly how you feel, what it is that she's doing that bugs you, and what lines she should not pass from now on. If anything else, it's an easy way to organize your own thoughts on the matter. Similarly I guess this could be done while astrally projecting... just figure out where she be roamin' and have a communication, you might just run into a soul shard... if she's been through a lot like you suggest, that could be part of the root of the problem. I know I get cranky when that happens... on the off chance that the latter is the case, remind the shard that they are separated... I dunno if you could ethically do anything beyond that however.

Either way, hope it works itself out!!

[~*Sacred*~]

I believe the pregnancy thing has something to do with your open link to the unborn one. Most women start to bond with a kid while it's still in the womb.

Have you tried phyically sweeping a hand briskly down the center chakra? Works for me... if that doesn't work, maybe it's about time you let it out. Better to let it out now while you have a modicum of control versus later when it comes out of its own accord. Another avenue depends upon this question. "Have you asked your supervisor to move/have her move? If they contest the idea, bring up the point that two cogs that don't match up won't let the machine function efficiently (or something like that).

I don't know what your ethics are on the matter, but I've had varying degrees of results with the following: Stare into a mirror till trance hits, then feel your focus pull to the person in question (best done when they are asleep) and tell her exactly how you feel, what it is that she's doing that bugs you, and what lines she should not pass from now on. If anything else, it's an easy way to organize your own thoughts on the matter. Similarly I guess this could be done while astrally projecting... just figure out where she be roamin' and have a communication, you might just run into a soul shard... if she's been through a lot like you suggest, that could be part of the root of the problem. I know I get cranky when that happens... on the off chance that the latter is the case, remind the shard that they are separated... I dunno if you could ethically do anything beyond that however.

Either way, hope it works itself out!!
Could you elaborate on a soul shard?

She has been through a lot, but I have a strong feeling she has always been like this. She freely admits she knows she is a rude person. She rarely sleeps as her medication keeps her up at night. We cannot be moved, I do not work in an office but in retail & there are only 4 of us so it's not like I could request to not work on her days. LOL! I've done the hand sweeping of the chakra... I think I just need to try/focus harder & I'll see what comes about.

[thought_on_a_wind]

Could you elaborate on a soul shard?

She has been through a lot, but I have a strong feeling she has always been like this. She freely admits she knows she is a rude person. She rarely sleeps as her medication keeps her up at night. We cannot be moved, I do not work in an office but in retail & there are only 4 of us so it's not like I could request to not work on her days. LOL! I've done the hand sweeping of the chakra... I think I just need to try/focus harder & I'll see what comes about.

I suppose the most used term for soul shard is soul splinter. I can not describe it more concisely than they do here (http://www.shamans-cave.com/Soul_Loss.html) (they call it soul loss... there is another variation that works off the same principal known as soul-theft... where someone willingly jacks part of a persons soul to coerce or otherwise de-rail them).

I read about this phenomena after healing myself of it... although I'm having all kinds of trouble remembering which book I originally read about it in... I think it was Advanced Celtic Shamanism by D.J. Conway... unfortunately I cannot quote the book as someone stole it :atantrum: If you run across it give it a looksee 'cause the technique she used worked better than the one that I ended up improvising before hand...

[thought_on_a_wind]

Of course, if you think she's ALWAYS been this way, maybe you are dealing with a psychic vampire.. If you need some help getting info on that then I'll do what I can, just PM me, or bring it up in this thread... Can't promise that I'm the wisest on that subject though. (for other people that is)