Ziana
March 15th, 2008, 10:57 AM
We went back to court yesterday, only to find out that it wasn't a modification, but a contempt hearing. With my husband being the one in contempt for not turning the child over to his mother per court order. Several reasons for this:
1. the child in question is terrified of his mother and didn't want to go
2. We were court ordered to transport the child back and forth, a 2 hour trip one way, and she would never contact us for a place to meet.
3. My husband works weekends, and for him to ask off would cost us hundreds of dollars.
4. I have narcolepsy and was pregnant at the time and could not take my "stay awake" medicine.:zzz: Doctors said I was unable to drive more than 15 minutes away.
5. He did spend mothers day weekend there and came home in the same underwear, same clothes, smelled awful because he hadn't had a bath or brushed his teeth, and his head was shorn. He was not taken to the address she said she lived at, but to her boyfriends house, who is physically abusive to the boy, and who's address we do not have. Turns out she was living there, because that is where all her things were, and where he had a room set up.
Now we have the custody thing in our county, and yesterday she drove up here to go to the hearing. She refused to negotiate, even though her lawyer kept telling her to take the deal, and ended up losing everything. She even wanted us to pay her lawyer fees, because she opts not to work, and is living off said boyfriend. Judge denied everything once she found out that she hadn't taken the child to her stated address. She also said that the mother was not allowed to stay with the boyfriend when she had the kid. So mom stated that she and boyfriend had broken up and she was living at stated address. Judge also said that we had to stick to the previous agreement until May, or another modification is put in place, if one is done before that, stating that the mother gets 1,3,5 weekends and we are to drive him all the way, not meeting halfway. This is providing that she is not with the boyfriend, and we do not have reasonable doubt as to her whereabouts.
So get this. It's a Friday. Kids have early release due to Spring Break this week. She never once says 'hey can I see the kid' or 'since it's my weekend I will just take him back with me'. Instead she leaves town without contacting the boy, then calls us around 5 wanting to know if we are bringing him! We told her no. Number one reason is because she left the courthouse in boyfriends truck, and number two reason is the fact that she was in town and could have at any time asked about her son, asked to see her son, or asked that her son go home with her. Judge admonished her in open court to be more cooperative with my husband and vice versa. This does not seem cooperative. To honestly expect us to follow her 2 hours down the freeway, because the papers say we have to drop him off. I don't believe the people who wrote the document thought they would ever have to specify "unless you are already in the county the child resides in, in which case contact the custodial parent, and take the child with you"!
:rollingla
1. the child in question is terrified of his mother and didn't want to go
2. We were court ordered to transport the child back and forth, a 2 hour trip one way, and she would never contact us for a place to meet.
3. My husband works weekends, and for him to ask off would cost us hundreds of dollars.
4. I have narcolepsy and was pregnant at the time and could not take my "stay awake" medicine.:zzz: Doctors said I was unable to drive more than 15 minutes away.
5. He did spend mothers day weekend there and came home in the same underwear, same clothes, smelled awful because he hadn't had a bath or brushed his teeth, and his head was shorn. He was not taken to the address she said she lived at, but to her boyfriends house, who is physically abusive to the boy, and who's address we do not have. Turns out she was living there, because that is where all her things were, and where he had a room set up.
Now we have the custody thing in our county, and yesterday she drove up here to go to the hearing. She refused to negotiate, even though her lawyer kept telling her to take the deal, and ended up losing everything. She even wanted us to pay her lawyer fees, because she opts not to work, and is living off said boyfriend. Judge denied everything once she found out that she hadn't taken the child to her stated address. She also said that the mother was not allowed to stay with the boyfriend when she had the kid. So mom stated that she and boyfriend had broken up and she was living at stated address. Judge also said that we had to stick to the previous agreement until May, or another modification is put in place, if one is done before that, stating that the mother gets 1,3,5 weekends and we are to drive him all the way, not meeting halfway. This is providing that she is not with the boyfriend, and we do not have reasonable doubt as to her whereabouts.
So get this. It's a Friday. Kids have early release due to Spring Break this week. She never once says 'hey can I see the kid' or 'since it's my weekend I will just take him back with me'. Instead she leaves town without contacting the boy, then calls us around 5 wanting to know if we are bringing him! We told her no. Number one reason is because she left the courthouse in boyfriends truck, and number two reason is the fact that she was in town and could have at any time asked about her son, asked to see her son, or asked that her son go home with her. Judge admonished her in open court to be more cooperative with my husband and vice versa. This does not seem cooperative. To honestly expect us to follow her 2 hours down the freeway, because the papers say we have to drop him off. I don't believe the people who wrote the document thought they would ever have to specify "unless you are already in the county the child resides in, in which case contact the custodial parent, and take the child with you"!
:rollingla