What was my mother thinking?

[Mitsuko]

My ex and I have been broken up for 6 or 7 months now, but he contacted me recently and launched into this story about how much he loved my hometown and how small and quiet it was. Then he asked me if he could go back with me whenever it is I go. Needless to say, this pissed me off. My current boyfriend and one of our close friends told me it was probably a lie and that he was baiting me. Then he showed me the pictures.
So I called my mother, wondering if she knew anything about this. To my suprise, she was the one who invited him, let him stay at the house...AND SLEEP IN MY ROOM! I know its a grown woman's perrogative to do whatever she wants and invite whoever she wants to her house, but... my hometown was my sanctuary. The place that I grew up that would always be beautiful and where all my memories would live untouched by time or the things that happen to me here. Now he's been there, to a place I haven't visited in over four years, on a whim. He's stood at the end of Dolphin and stared at the gulf, just like I used to do. He's talked to all my old friends, he's met my family, my great-grandfather.... he's touched my home, and I can't see it the same way anymore...

[1111]

We must be related, my mother would have done the same exact thing.

Hugs, hun, I know just how you feel.

[Andeora]

I agree, it wasn't very thoughtful of her at all... she should've at least told you beforehand and asked your permission as far as the room goes. My own room at my mother's home is sort of a sanctuary and I'd probably be somewhat disturbed if my mother let anyone sleep there. The guy being your ex and (from what I could understand) the current relations not being entirely rosy, your mother should've definitely been more considerate of your feelings... Yeah, I can totally understand you feeling upset.

It's been done, past, history, though... you can't change it... and from what I could understand, you didn't feel any different about your room/home/town until you found out about him having been there, even though he actually was there some time before that. How long did he stay there, a couple of days? His presence and energy is just a tiny drop in the sea of ages... and will be forgotten soon. He may have visited your home, but now he's out again and powerless to stop you from removing whatever traces his presence might have left. Speaking of which... you could always do some sort of ritual cleansing in your room and other places important to you where he's been?

[Adora]

Sounds like your mom liked your ex and the possibility that the two of you would get back together. As others have said it would have been nice if your mom talked to you before inviting your ex to sleep in your room.

[Tullip Troll]

yes, even though your Mom had good intentions, she should be aware of how invading that would be.

it's actually a little creepy.

((((hugs))))

[Mitsuko]

Thanks guys...really...T-T My mom still says she doesn't see the big deal in it...grr...

[PrincessKLS]

:hugz: Sorry about all that.

[Glowy]

wow, glad he is your EX, because this guy seems to be able to worm in . ((hugs))

this would bother me too