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Amanda Mitchell
March 28th, 2008, 10:36 PM
I found an article writtenBy Stacey Chillemi (from http://www.authorsden.com/visit/viewarticle.asp?id=14754) (http://www.authorsden.com/visit/viewarticle.asp?id=14754) and I thought I would share.
It is my sincere prayer that this helps at least one person on MW (besides me)


Does the women in our society have to be toothpick thin? Do women really need face lifts or breast enlargements? Unfortunately, the society we live in make women think that they need to look and act a certain way in order to be accepted.
What’s most important is not what others think about you its how you feel about yourself. In order to feel good about yourself, you need to accept yourself. You must look at yourself positively and realize that there is no such thing as a perfect person. There is no need to feel a sense of embarrassment because you may not fit society’s make believe dream woman.



What’s most important in our life is that we try to master the daily troubles that come our way, and overcome the problems that have already occurred in our lives. Now this should be considered a triumph. If you are unhappy with yourself then you need to do something about it. Ignoring your problems and emotions, not dealing with them, is the easy way out, to face them and deal with then are accomplishments. Accepting our ourselves helps us grow mentally, physically and spiritually.


Remember, its not how we look on the outside that’s important, its how we feel on the inside that matters. In this life in order to survive it is important that we accept ourselves for who we are, feel good about ourselves and carry an inner strength so we can live a healthy, happy and productive life. When we are young, we have people in our lives that help to mold us. They help us develop the strength, wisdom and knowledge we need to survive in this world. Yet many of us forget what we learned and focus on what’s unimportant, such as how we look on the outside.
The results are in the long run you’re going to end up feeling emotionally drained and unable to live a productive life. Everyone is put on this earth here for a reason. We need to pass on what we have learned along to others.



It is selfish and pure laziness to pity ourselves because you may not have that model figure. You must learn to accept and love yourself. You are not alone, many women feel unhappy with themselves.


To live with and accept yourself, you need to open your heart and listen to what it is telling you inside. Your heart will never lie to you because it only tells the truth. You must have the courage to ask your heart why you refuse to love yourself the way you are. Usually when we are unhappy with ourselves, it is because we are embarrassed about whatever we are trying to hide. Your body is not something you should be ashamed of having. You need to help yourself by accepting yourself and loving yourself for who you are. This is the first step in order to heal yourself and feel good about you.


Ask yourself the question, what level of self-approval you have I reached on a day to day basis? I have listed seven steps to help you learn to love and accept yourself.




STEP 1- accept yourself for who you are and learn to love yourself for whom you are a person


STEP 2- understand yourself mentally, physically and spiritually


STEP 3- learn to control your mind, body and emotions


STEP 4- strengthen your inner self and make it apparent to others


STEP 5- begin changing what you do not like about yourself


STEP 6- notice the change in your self-esteem and self-confidence


STEP 7- have a tremendous amount of pride in yourself


People realize that to change and strengthen themselves they must accept themselves and learn how to live with themselves in a productive manner. You need to look at life in a positive way. You need to say to yourself, “OK, I’m not happy with the person, I have become. I need to change and this is what I am going to do about it.” Stop being lazy. This is the first step to healing and strengthening our souls and self-esteem. Be proud in who you are. Be thankful each morning that you can wake up and feel the warmth of the sun and the beauty that surrounds us all.

Myzterio
March 29th, 2008, 05:52 AM
*sigh* It's a shame this article takes a woman's stance. It was unnecessary on all accounts, and alienates men from embracing it.
There is an image in society of what men should be like as well. It's not just women. I wish this wouldn't get downplayed as much as it is. Like most areas, this isn't an area where men and women differ. Men care about their (social) appearance and social status as well! Okay, maybe they're not as obvious about it as women (no 'does my ass look fat in this?' comments out loud; men are more likely keep their thoughts about it to themselves, usually), but it's there.

Then, on topic of the contents of the article itself, I'd say she's right. Honestly, what she says seems pretty obvious to me. Of course, just because it's obvious doesn't mean it's an easy feat to perform...

acdb
March 29th, 2008, 06:40 AM
*sigh* It's a shame this article takes a woman's stance. It was unnecessary on all accounts, and alienates men from embracing it.
There is an image in society of what men should be like as well. It's not just women. I wish this wouldn't get downplayed as much as it is. Like most areas, this isn't an area where men and women differ. Men care about their (social) appearance and social status as well! Okay, maybe they're not as obvious about it as women (no 'does my ass look fat in this?' comments out loud; men are more likely keep their thoughts about it to themselves, usually), but it's there.

Then, on topic of the contents of the article itself, I'd say she's right. Honestly, what she says seems pretty obvious to me. Of course, just because it's obvious doesn't mean it's an easy feat to perform...
Too right! The constant reference to females only is quite alienating.

But, you're also right that at its core are very good ideas.

Amanda Mitchell
March 29th, 2008, 12:35 PM
*sigh* It's a shame this article takes a woman's stance. It was unnecessary on all accounts, and alienates men from embracing it. I agree and I'm sorry

Loukhos
March 30th, 2008, 10:55 AM
*sigh* It's a shame this article takes a woman's stance. It was unnecessary on all accounts, and alienates men from embracing it.

What's wrong with an article written for women? If you look I'm sure you could find articles that deal with this same issue from a man's perspective.

Myzterio
March 30th, 2008, 11:12 AM
I agree and I'm sorry
Well, it's not your fault. :p

What's wrong with an article written for women? If you look I'm sure you could find articles that deal with this same issue from a man's perspective.
There isn't anything wrong with it. I just think that in this case, it was totally unnecessary. None of her points were specific to women.

SphinYote
April 1st, 2008, 03:19 PM
We hear these messages all the time.

The question is, how?

Amanda Mitchell
April 1st, 2008, 03:24 PM
The question is, how? *sigh* I wish I knew the answer to that... I really do.

Adora
April 1st, 2008, 07:18 PM
An epiphany can lead to a change in perspective. We hear messages every day and sometimes the good messages take longer to be internalized.

Anubisa
April 2nd, 2008, 06:52 PM
Thank you for posting this! This helps me so much!

Amanda Mitchell
April 2nd, 2008, 10:45 PM
Thank you for posting this! This helps me so much!
It was my pleasure and I'm so glad it helped you.