binding question

[MidnightFire]

Ok, the deal is my boyfriend maintains a myspace page for a production show in our town. One of the co-founders asked him to put some pictures of her and the DJ on the myspace. My boyfriend forgot because we have a lot of things going on right now. Mind you she is not the main draw for this show. Well she got all butt hurt about this and decided that instead of asking again and being firm about, the best approach would be to become an absolute b*tch to my boyfriend. She has resorted to pulling other completely irrelevant events into her tantrum to make him feel bad. We have tried to talk it out, but all it comes down to is her telling him how much he has screwed up even after we fixed the issue and how he has hurt so many other people,WTF.:bangyourh

So backstory done. I have thought of a binding per se that will just let her see the consequences of her actions. Normally I wouldn't put the effort forth but she is a good friend of ours and we don't want to lose that. But the approach of talk it out hasn't worked. Her hateful accusations and all have really made his life hell, but she doesn't seem to care and doesn't show any hope of her letting up.

Any advice?

[RavensEye]

I have used bindings before but I have only used them in situations where it was a potential life or death situation. I am not sure if you would have to go so far as a binding with this person yet. Have you ever though of just shielding and having her negativity reflect back on her?

[aranarose]

Bindings are for keeping a person from acting in your life. If you want to remain friends with her, a binding is probably not the solution. As RavensEye said, some sort of reflection spell would be best. I've done them before. The wording depends on the situation, and I tend to be spontaneous, without pre-written words, but to make a person see themselves for how they really are, try a ritual that incorporates a mirror and their picture. I've used cheap makeup compacts, with the makeup taken out, and the picture placed facing the mirror, with various herbs depending on the intent.

The key is intent, what you want it to do.

[skilly-nilly]

Bindings are for keeping a person from acting in your life. If you want to remain friends with her, a binding is probably not the solution. As RavensEye said, some sort of reflection spell would be best. I've done them before. The wording depends on the situation, and I tend to be spontaneous, without pre-written words, but to make a person see themselves for how they really are, try a ritual that incorporates a mirror and their picture. I've used cheap makeup compacts, with the makeup taken out, and the picture placed facing the mirror, with various herbs depending on the intent.

The key is intent, what you want it to do.

That's what I was going to suggest. I do that by writing the person's name and taping it facing a mirror, but I like the idea of a photo and compact even better--particularly in this case where a photo is part of the kerfuffle.

Or a Working to let the upset feelings flow away (with running water) blow over (with wind) or be forgotten (with burying). But I agree that binding is likely to have friend-ending consequences.

[MidnightFire]

Thank you all for the advice and sorry about the wording. I meant a reflection spell as you all suggested because we don't want to lose her friendship as I said.

It's just become very frustrating for him to try and deal with her behavior and for me to deal with his stress level. She is still perfectly civilized with me and all and I have tried to talk to her one-on-one but it doesn't carry over when she "talks" to him.

Again thank you all for the advice.

[RavensEye]

By the way the way I do reflection spells does not involve a mirror, mine can be done with a candle and visualizing . The other is just visualizing your shields and what ever she says or bounces off the shields. For me both have worked well.

Good luck with your situation and hope it gets cleared up soon.