ethical boundries

[Tammy Sullivan]

I have a friend who works with a partner that is always talking really bad about everyone at work. She talks the worst about my friend,who I will call Sally. Sally has no idea and has blindly accepted this girl as her friend. We have all stayed out of it thus far, but now Sally is getting in trouble at work, because she is covering for her partner out of loyalty. Now it is none of my buisness and I do not want to stick my nose in, but I really hate to sit back and allow it all to go on. If I say something to Sally and clue her in, I may be interrupting a lesson for her or something. Then again maybe I am supposed to. This one is driving me nuts and I am hoping maybe someone outside of this can give me some logical advice or insight.

[shnen]

I guess I would ask myself who my loyalties stand with. If it was just a social thing I'd stay out of it, but if it is effecting her work... I think I'd say something if my loyalties were with Sally.
But be careful, you dont want to be pulled into the middle of it... but if Sally is a good enough friend, she will trust and understand what you are trying to do.

good luck! (((greta))) :)

[Grey]

IF you know for a FACT that shes a trash talker just explain it even if "sallie" dosent believe quite yet shell keep an ear open to it.

[cherrywind]

I second what Shnen said, if it's affecting her work something definately needs to be done about it *nods*.

[Phoenix Blue]

**Nods** Just because someone else may have a "lesson" to learn, doesn't mean you can't give them the opportunity to learn it the easy way. :)

[Myst]

If it was my friend I'd have already warned her that this other person tends to trash talk people and I don't trust her.

[Skye]

Originally posted by Myst
If it was my friend I'd have already warned her that this other person tends to trash talk people and I don't trust her.

I second that opinion, Talk to your friend.

[Flar's Freyja]

When something is causing me that much anxiety, it's usually an indication that I need to do something. I agree that you need to talk to her.

[Witchy Cowgirl]

Originally posted by Myst
If it was my friend I'd have already warned her that this other person tends to trash talk people and I don't trust her.

I once had a friend that I thought I knew quite well. Turns out I didn't know her well enough and although it wasn't a work situtation it was one that I wish someone had have warned me about!;)

[ChelleOfShadows]

While I understand Myst's point of view, friendships in the workplace can be very difficult. Especially in over large offices or very small ones. I work in a small office and we have a girl there who is the biggest gossip I know. She will stab you in the back to cover her ass everytime. It makes things difficult when she has to help in my department. I think your best approach to your friend would be the "getting in trouble" angle. Tell her that the other girl is just not worth losing her job for.

If a lesson is to be learned, unless you use magick you will not stop it!

[Phoenix Blue]

:eyebrow: If the Divine wants the lesson learned, even majick won't stop it. Any god is, by definition, more skilled with majick than any mortal.