Two-Face Traitor

[Bartmanhomer]

Hello. I'm very P.O. on Wednesday because one of my friends well about-to-be-ex-friends at my job training program was very upset because she hate the program and doesn't belong in this program in groups. I told her that people are very sick and you should be out of the program and get a job. She told me I don't want to listen to your advice so don't get me started. Hey she told me advices when I'm upset and I listen. And now I give her advices and she refused not to listen! She's more psychotic than the rest of the clients. FYI the clients are adults and severely mentally disabled. :flamer::flamer::flamer::flamer::flamer::flamer::flamer::flamer::flamer::flamer::flamer::flamer::fla mer::flamer::flamer::flamer::flamer::flamer::flamer::flamer::flamer::flamer::flamer::flamer::flamer: :flamer::flamer::flamer::flamer:

[Caitlin.ann]

Hmm...I'd just avoid her if I were so angry. You can't force her to do anything and its not your responsibility to watch over her. I say let it go and keep your distance.

[Bartmanhomer]

You're right. It's not my responisibilty at all. And I hate the program myself and I still do. And I'm sick and tired of complaining because I'll be getting a job soon and leave. I don't know why I hang out with and I swear to god I'm like the last person that she'll ever mess with!

[Toby Stimpson]

So let me get this straight...

- She complained to you that she didn't like the program.
- You gave her advice.
- She said she didn't want your advice.
- And you got upset that she didn't listen to you?

Did you think that perhaps, by chance, she didn't actually want you to giver her advice, that she just wanted to be listened to? I mean it seems like you were genuinly perhaps trying to help her... but at the same time when soemone complains or talks... they're not always looking or a solution, they're just trying to let off steam or frustration. I mean it's a little ridiculous to me that you'll become really angry over her saying that she didn't want to listen to you, especially when the advice you gave her wasn't really advice. What do you really have to lose over her saying that... I can't really see why you would become so angry unless she gave you major attitude, but even then that won't affect you other than having hurt feelings... which won't be hurt forever.

And to be honest if you have such a negative attitude, such as saying that people with mental disabilities in your program are psychotic... I'd look less at what she is saying and more at what you are thinking.

[Bartmanhomer]

So let me get this straight...

- She complained to you that she didn't like the program.
- You gave her advice.
- She said she didn't want your advice.
- And you got upset that she didn't listen to you?

Did you think that perhaps, by chance, she didn't actually want you to giver her advice, that she just wanted to be listened to? I mean it seems like you were genuinly perhaps trying to help her... but at the same time when soemone complains or talks... they're not always looking or a solution, they're just trying to let off steam or frustration. I mean it's a little ridiculous to me that you'll become really angry over her saying that she didn't want to listen to you, especially when the advice you gave her wasn't really advice. What do you really have to lose over her saying that... I can't really see why you would become so angry unless she gave you major attitude, but even then that won't affect you other than having hurt feelings... which won't be hurt forever.

And to be honest if you have such a negative attitude, such as saying that people with mental disabilities in your program are psychotic... I'd look less at what she is saying and more at what you are thinking.

Don't take this personally. But I'm mentally disable myself but I'm very stable compared to some of the clients in the program. I understand that people been through a lot of tough times and they're trying to go to work. But some clients act like little kids. And beside I feel the same way that she feel and it's true in some cases. But I was giving her advice because I was being a true friend. But she took it out on me and she believe that I'm one of the bad clients. When I'm upset I don't take it out on people and she should be very grateful that I've the balls to comment and sending feedback to her. Beside I act very well at the program.

[Xander67]

ok, I am going to give you some advice as a medical professional, I am a CNA (certified Nurses Aide)
I think it is best for both of you to let your councilor be the one to give you both advice since you both are in the same program. You each have different needs and your case is different from hers. I think you should concentrate more on you and your own improvement. Don't let this person hold you back because of her own problems, they are hers not yours.

[Bartmanhomer]

Well I got great news. My friend started to talk me and I ask her why. Because she knows that she not against me and she feel very stressed out because she didn't want me to cause a problem. :smileroll

[Bartmanhomer]

ok, I am going to give you some advice as a medical professional, I am a CNA (certified Nurses Aide)
I think it is best for both of you to let your councilor be the one to give you both advice since you both are in the same program. You each have different needs and your case is different from hers. I think you should concentrate more on you and your own improvement. Don't let this person hold you back because of her own problems, they are hers not yours.

You're absoulately right! I should've been worry about myself by now. Thanks. :smileroll

[KiNoRonin]

Dont let your Friend not taking your Advice Upset You.

Let it go. If she doesnt take your Advice, then that is her Problem, not yours.

KNR - 3X3