Darkblade78
April 17th, 2008, 06:02 PM
Wow....I haven't been here in a long time...I never posted often, but always came here for advice on many topics....and I need you guys again.
I have this friend at work (we'll call him Bob) whom I upset....
Bob has become like a brother to me...One of the most cheerful, bubbly personalities I've ever seen, and one of the most understanding people I've ever met.
About a month ago, he asked me to get a Myspace profile so that the two of us could chat...Things were going really well, until I noticed his attitude start to change rapidly. I asked him what was wrong, and he said things had been turning to crap lately, and that he would be fine. I left it at that.
Things didn't seem to be improving, and our conversations both at work and on Myspace seemed to be tapering off as well. I had a habit of being drunk whenever Bob and I talked online (didn't plan it that way, it just sort of happened) and when I'm drunk I tend to get overly emotional and self-conscious. I was beginning to think that Bob's changing attitude had something to do with it, so one day, drunk off my butt, I apologized to him for not being as crazy or as wild as his other friends, and I hoped he was okay with that....He told me that he didn't give a damn whether I was crazy or not...all he's ever asked of people is to just be themselves, so I believed him.
About a week later, I was online chatting (drunk) with one of Bob and I's friends at work... We'll call him "John"....Note that at this time, Bob and I still weren't talking like we used to....and I brought this up to John, since he knows Bob a little better than I do....He told me to calm down and stop freaking out....Just give Bob some space and he'll be back to normal.
The next morning I got a message from Bob asking why I was asking other people what he thought of me....He said it wasn't right....he said he thought I was past all that. I explained that I was drunk when I said those things, and had done and said a lot of things that night that I honestly didn't remember too well.
Well, he told me that until he sees the "good" me and stops drinking, to give him some space....I told him to give me a month (more of a personal goal for myself than anything) and in that time he could have his space....I had also said I would stay off Myspace for the duration (at least, so I thought...see Update below...)
So far I have upheld my end of the bargain....I stopped drinking cold-turkey, and have been giving Bob as much space as work would allow... But it's been so hard...He told me he'd be waiting at the end of this "dark cave", but as of yesterday (April 19), he didn't even say Hi to me or anything....he completely blew me off.
I want Bob back in my life so bad, but the more days pass and he continues to blow off even the simplest greeting, I start to wonder....Am I doing the right thing? Will this get any better? How much space should I really give Bob?
For any of you astrology types, I'm a Cancer and he's a Scorpio, if that helps....
4/19/08: Well, I decided to go back to Myspace, since I had a lot of other people trying to reach me and I wanted to be fair to them....I figured I could still honor Bob's space without getting into it.....I checked his profile today, and I'm now clear at the back of his friends list....I was 3rd row from the top yesterday....he's one of those that takes his list seriously....
....He didn't even say hi to me today....
Am I blowing this out of proportion? I'm so sad right now.... What do I do?
I have this friend at work (we'll call him Bob) whom I upset....
Bob has become like a brother to me...One of the most cheerful, bubbly personalities I've ever seen, and one of the most understanding people I've ever met.
About a month ago, he asked me to get a Myspace profile so that the two of us could chat...Things were going really well, until I noticed his attitude start to change rapidly. I asked him what was wrong, and he said things had been turning to crap lately, and that he would be fine. I left it at that.
Things didn't seem to be improving, and our conversations both at work and on Myspace seemed to be tapering off as well. I had a habit of being drunk whenever Bob and I talked online (didn't plan it that way, it just sort of happened) and when I'm drunk I tend to get overly emotional and self-conscious. I was beginning to think that Bob's changing attitude had something to do with it, so one day, drunk off my butt, I apologized to him for not being as crazy or as wild as his other friends, and I hoped he was okay with that....He told me that he didn't give a damn whether I was crazy or not...all he's ever asked of people is to just be themselves, so I believed him.
About a week later, I was online chatting (drunk) with one of Bob and I's friends at work... We'll call him "John"....Note that at this time, Bob and I still weren't talking like we used to....and I brought this up to John, since he knows Bob a little better than I do....He told me to calm down and stop freaking out....Just give Bob some space and he'll be back to normal.
The next morning I got a message from Bob asking why I was asking other people what he thought of me....He said it wasn't right....he said he thought I was past all that. I explained that I was drunk when I said those things, and had done and said a lot of things that night that I honestly didn't remember too well.
Well, he told me that until he sees the "good" me and stops drinking, to give him some space....I told him to give me a month (more of a personal goal for myself than anything) and in that time he could have his space....I had also said I would stay off Myspace for the duration (at least, so I thought...see Update below...)
So far I have upheld my end of the bargain....I stopped drinking cold-turkey, and have been giving Bob as much space as work would allow... But it's been so hard...He told me he'd be waiting at the end of this "dark cave", but as of yesterday (April 19), he didn't even say Hi to me or anything....he completely blew me off.
I want Bob back in my life so bad, but the more days pass and he continues to blow off even the simplest greeting, I start to wonder....Am I doing the right thing? Will this get any better? How much space should I really give Bob?
For any of you astrology types, I'm a Cancer and he's a Scorpio, if that helps....
4/19/08: Well, I decided to go back to Myspace, since I had a lot of other people trying to reach me and I wanted to be fair to them....I figured I could still honor Bob's space without getting into it.....I checked his profile today, and I'm now clear at the back of his friends list....I was 3rd row from the top yesterday....he's one of those that takes his list seriously....
....He didn't even say hi to me today....
Am I blowing this out of proportion? I'm so sad right now.... What do I do?