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Ziana
April 22nd, 2008, 04:52 AM
It's pretty much a done deal. We are going to homeschool our son and possibly our daughter next year. My son brought home a 52 on his report card for reading this past grading period and that was the final straw. We encourage him to read at home, and I ask questions about the books he is bringing home. Things like 'what happened in the chapter you just read, what is the book about', etc. However we have no control over what he does when he is actually in class. This wasn't his only failing grade, but to us it is the most important. We have no problems with his math and science scores, but reading and social studies are a nightmare. For him and for us. Also his school nurse has gotten to know him very well, since he is in her office at least twice a day for minor things. If he gets so much as a bump on him he is running to her office. The last time I spoke with her when I went to pick him up for a doctors appointment she couldn't even remember what it was he had gone to her for earlier that day, it was so minor. Even she knows that he is only going to get out of class and avoid doing whatever work it is he is supposed to be doing. So, homeschool. One on one time with just us, so that we know what he is doing and there is no more forgetting to bring home vocabulary, and we won't have to worry about frivolous busy work disguised as homework. Plus since he is really good at math and science I can advance him up in those subjects at his pace.
As for our daughter, she is a straight A GT student. But her mouth is starting to get her in trouble. She is bored in her classes, finishing her work quickly and then has nothing to do but read or talk. We discussed trying to move her up a grade, since she is also very mature for her age, but we aren't sure if the school system will allow it. I am going to discuss the possibility with her principle this week. The other thing is her school councelor is a pain in our patoots. I don't know how many of you will remember what we went through a few years ago. I know that I posted a lot about it here, and possibly the threads are here still somewhere. She is still having trouble keeping her thumb out of her mouth, and her hands from where they don't belong. We are working on these problems, but with the trauma that she had it isn't the easiest thing in the world to stop. We recently had a visit from CPS, and can only figure that the councelor is the one who called. This cannot be confirmed of course but logically she is the only one. I will post about that in a different thread, it's to much to go into on this one. So the idea is to pull her from public school as well, that way she can advance as rapidly as her mind will let her, and she won't be held back by teachers who are unable to feed her brain the way she needs it. For three years now I have had to explain to her teachers that she really can read and understand Harry Potter. She's been reading them on her own since the end of first grade. She doesn't like the idea, since she is very much a social creature, but I have to put her needs above her wants when it comes to her education. Besides, from what I have seen, there isn't much difference between 4th grade and 5th grade anyway. Both my children are bringing home the same science and social studies vocabulary, as well as roughly the same maths. I figure we will try it for a year at least and see what we see.

Ceres
April 22nd, 2008, 05:53 AM
To ease your mind: a Friend of mine pulled her children out of school when they moved to a new city a few years ago. She had always been open to homeschooling, having done it when her oldest was small. Their family was going through a difficult time and she felt dealing with it together as a family was the best thing for all involved at that point so she kept them out of school for a year and a half.

Fast foreward three years, now. All but one of the children went back to school and despite the fact that she unschooled during those years, none of her kids was behind. In fact, two of them were now eleigible for excelerated reading program because it improved to much at home with no instruction, other than what they asked for from her. This a common phenomenon. So I absolutely think this could be a great thing for you and your kids and I definitely think they arent going to get "behind".

A word of caution: Allow time for them to get their heads around the change. It often takes a few months to deschool after leaving school, especially when they leave badly. In that time, do fun stuff where they will learn, like visiting museums, going to the library every week, the zoo, if you have one close by, the park to play on the climbers and explore the pond etc. Read out loud from novels a lot, especially ones that have recently been made into movies like Inkspell by Cornelia Funke or The Golden Compass by Bill Pullman and then see the movie.

Treegoddess
April 23rd, 2008, 05:51 AM
Congratulations!!! You won't regret it and your family will grow in ways you thought not possible. I pulled my children out of 1st and 2nd grade years ago and never looked back. We didn't bother waiting for a new school year!

I would also urge you to read about DE-schooling. Children who have been in school need time to get *school* ideals out of their head. IF you attempt to school-at-home and do just what the school did, you may find that you meet MUCH resistance and trouble. Learning doesn't have to be a chore, it can be fun. BUT, in order for children to understand that, they have to get school out of their heads. I'm not talking about just summer vacation either. Reading about unschooling might help you to understand too, even though it isn't for everyone. Many people can take what they find useful and leave the rest.

Most of all, in the beginning, focus on being TOGETHER and enjoying each other! You don't have to be on a time schedule now, you will see that they will learn quickly and that school just teaches the same things over and over. Children remember things better when they are interested in them and learn them on their own! Have fun! You can play, go on field trips in the middle of the day, bake together...learning is everywhere! :woot:

Ziana
April 23rd, 2008, 10:17 PM
I really think we are going to enjoy this. The kids might not at first, but it won't stay that way. I spoke with an ex co-worker of mine who just graduated from homeschool and she is going to give me a lot of her old textbooks and things which will give us a start. They may not be exactly the ones we are going to use, but I would rather start somewhere than nowhere. I love the fact that the area we are in has a large homeschooling community. They have field trips, park days, prom and graduation ceremonies.

I know what you mean Treegoddess, when you said that school teaches them the same thing over and over. I had a chat with the kids principle about skipping my daughter into 6th grade. Over the course of the conversation I mentioned to her that both my children were bringing home the same science and social studies words. They may be weeks apart, but they both have had repeats many times this year. She got defensive real quick, trying to make me think I was mistaken, but I know what I know and I'm not.

Ceres
April 24th, 2008, 06:59 AM
I really think we are going to enjoy this.

It can be a lot of fun. You really get to relax and enjoy your kids when school nonsense isnt getting in the way of their education.