which sex?

[Bryony]

If you could choose which sex your child/ren would be, would you?

Just wondering, I have always seen myself having girls, (have had interesting dreams about having boys AND/or girls though.....long story):rolleyes:

[Flaire]

I'm not planning on having kids, my main reason being that I don't get along with them..I'm not a people person, and a multitide of other reasons. :)

[Yvonne Belisle]

I have 3 boys and a girl. :) Way too late for wishfull thinking

[Annyka]

I want a boy first and then a girl :)

[Witchy Cowgirl]

We got 3 boys and I wouldn't trade any of them off for anything or any body.

I'm glad I got boys....don't know how good a mom I'd be to a girl cause I'm such a tomboy. (Yes, I'm nearly 40 and still consider myself to be a tomboy.)

I did want a girl. Wanted somebody I could teach horsemanship skills to....the boys (2 of 'em)....like to ride....but aren't just blown away by horses.

I was afraid though that if I had a girl she'd be a "foo-foo" girl and we wouldn't get along.:T

[Faery-Wings]

I voted don't care/not sure.

I have a boy and a girl already. When I was pregnant with my son, I wanted a girl in the worst way even though I "knew" he was a boy. But the second he was born I was totally in love. Then I was pg with my second. Again I really wanted a girl. I ended up in the hospital at 33 weeks in labor. I realized that I could have this baby at any minute and not be able to hold him/her for weeks. I had to get it in my head, and quickly, that I had to be just as happy with a boy as a girl. I was scared the baby would be a boy and I would be disappointed. Then if the baby came this early, and I wouldn't be able to bond as well either. That was not the way I wanted my baby's life to begin.

The happy ending came that we were able to stop my labor and I had her at 38 weeks- yup, she was a girl. And I said "I am DONE!" :lol:

However, I also know how precious life is with either sex and the truly most important thing is that the baby is healthy. That is the only bottom line for me.

(On a side note-- boys are much much easier than girls!!!)

:)

[Old Witch]

Too late...way too late....3 grown men...well Sean is 17 and is convinced he's grown..............

[Melysande]

I voted Don't Care (although "Both" works, too). I find the option to choose which gender of child I would choose is a bit abhorrent. If it comes from your body, take whatever gift you're given and be happy. :)

If it's a case of adoption.... that's a different ballgame altogether because then you do have the option.

They're saying now that there are ways you can control the gender of your child (which is apparently becoming a big thing in China because they really only want boys) by controlling the temperature of the room (a cooler room slightly increases the chance that you'll have a boy) or by eating certain foods or taking certain medications.

It's one of my pet peeves. To me it just shows how much less value we place on people when we can pick and choose what we want as though our unborn children were radios or microwaves.

[Shy Hawk]

Wouldn't mind a couple girls and boys. For girl's names so far we've got Nova Lovinah (first and middle names). And, for boy's names so far we've got Wolf Atwood. Though I am fond of the name Aristotle as well....not sure why....but a little Ari would be nice.
Guess being Sara and Brian, we are fond of unusual names...

[shnen]

right now I dont want kids, and am not sure if I ever will...
but.. if I did... i think i would definately want a girl first... but I'm sure would be happy with whatever I was blessed with...

[Sequoia]

*silly grin* I want both first.

Yes I know I've probably got folks frowning down on me from all the high pillars of parent-dom, wondering what on earth I'm smoking. . . *chuckles* I'm waiting! I'm waiting! But I do want twins first.

However, I will be absolutely euphoric with whatever child I am blessed with. :)

[Bryony]

I guess it is one of those things, being 17, that teens think about. I realize--Wow, look what my body can do!! i can create another life, and I hold life as sacred, all of it. But, having this magic of life that I know I can create, creativity is a virtue. It seems that it can be ........lost my train of thought.
GOT IT BACK, lost it....this happens way too often.

Boy or girl, I know I will love it, even though I am not ready quite yet, and will wait till I am ready to have a child, not when I am told to or when the rest of the world is ready/wants me to.

But I have some really cool names for either sex:
Zephyr Minerva, Raven, Charisma Fyre, and Hermione Mariel are my favorites for a girl.
Oscar Rune, Julian and Quinn for a boy.
The ones with two names are first and middle.
Os

[Flar's Freyja]

Well, it's a little late since production has been shut down :T but I had three boys. And I wouldn't change a thing. I was scared to death when I ended up raising them on my own, but when I looked at friends and family who had girls, it seemed that they were much harder to raise. Boys are noisy and dirty and aggressive, but girls are whiny and temperamental......and I don't think I have the emotional make-up to deal with it when it's so blatant. Yes, boys have emotional stuff too and their puberty period is hard - but they just seemed to be easier to deal with.

And a lot less expensive! My youngest graduated last year and his prom tux cost me $85 to rent. His girlfriend's dress cost over $200! It also seems that lots of the girls' activities just cost more. I know that her parents spent a fortune on her cheerleading and gymnastics careers. I paid fees for athletic activities before they got into high school but after that the costs were minimal.

[Margie]

I have two girls and I don't think I want anymore. I love my daughters though. There were times when I was pregnant that I thought I'd like boys but as soon as you see that tiny baby's face, you don't really care what's between their legs. ;) hee hee

[Emaleth]

I want twins, both sexes. And since in my family twins are quite common there's a possibility that I'll get what I want:p .

Blessed Be

[reanna]

I was blessed with one of each here! My son is 11 1/2 and my daughter was 7 Aug 4th.
I would love to have had lots more.....my hubby had other plans though!

This is why I have taught children for more than 10 years....I get to have tons of youngsters....don't have to have all the hard work of the full time thing! lol


Hugs...
reanna

[)O( ~ Khara~ )O(]

I actually never planned on having children, I now have 2 boys and 1 very prissy little girl. BOYS ARE EASIER!!!! Thank the Goddess I got myself fixed this last time....... Now that I have them I love them more than anything. Besides they won't let ya sell them on ebay..... JK JK ROFLMAO!!!!!!

[Mocari]

:eek:
I have two little sisters and a little brother, and just thinking about all the noice and fuss they make at home.. well, I 'm horrified by the idea of having children myself.

But still, now I'm 17, I'm getting more and more attracted to the idea
*choking in my own words*
haha, but first I would need a girly I guess :D

(I would secretly hope for a daughter, but I think it would be easier for me to raise a boy..
off course, I would ALWAYS love my child or children)

[Bryony]

Originally posted by Emaleth
I want twins, both sexes. And since in my family twins are quite common there's a possibility that I'll get what I want:p .

Blessed Be

Twins are common in my family too, every other generation, a set of fraternal twins are born by one of the females (no male in the family has parented a set of twins). sometimes identical. it's my generation's turn!

[SagaDraco]

I car more about their health than I do their gender, but I want at least one son I can force to suceed where I failed(Im kidding), and one daughter so I can have a princess to spoil.

[Angelwulfe]

i voted both. we already have a girl. we would like to have boy next, it will be a few years btw.

[Silverfern]

I voted for I don't care. After having 2 miscarriges (sp?) all I want is a healthy baby :)

[Shadowulfe]

as many of you probably guessed by now, i voted both. Angel and I love our little girl and would like to give Kaitlyn a lil brother. but like she said it will be a few years before we try for the boy, although i would be just as content with another girl

peace, love, and all those warm fuzzy feelings,
Shadow

[Willow_Raindancer]

Too late!
I have 1 daughter and we don't want any more children
EVER! LOL!
If I wan't a baby, I'll visit someone with one, that'll cure me!
;)

[Faery-Wings]

Originally posted by Willow_Raindancer
Too late!
I have 1 daughter and we don't want any more children
EVER! LOL!
If I wan't a baby, I'll visit someone with one, that'll cure me!
;)

Ain't that the truth? :D

I had my tubes tied two years ago. I feel so comfortable in my decision. Each time a friend has had a baby since then, I hold the baby, coo a bit and hand it back happily.

Although I admit, after watching Friends and seeing how "easy" it is to have a baby and learn to breasfeed, and how skinny/gorgeous/made up etc you can look right after, I think I wanted another! (heavy sarcasm on the reality aspect heh!!)

Chris~mutters and yells at the TV all the time over how they portray labor and birth (Yeah right!, that is real...NOT!)

[FelixFire]

I picked "none". I don't want to have kids, for several reasons.

Don't get me wrong - I adore kids. I am absolutley enthralled with my 1 yr old nephew, he is just the most darling little guy, and smart, and funny too. (He has QUITE the sense of humor, and now that he's starting to get a few words it's freakin' hilarious when he goes off entertaining us all...) *ahem*, anyway...

I just don't want any of my own. All of my friends are talking about or trying to get pregnant now, and I'm really happy for them and I look forward to babysitting, but I just don't want to have kids myself. (Which thrills all my friends...I'm gonna have to open a day care, I swear, LOL)

One reason is patience...I don't have a whole lot of it, especially when someone is *deliberately* pushing me, which is what kids DO. I can handle it when it's short-term, as in babysitting, but all day, all the time? No...I just don't think I'd be a happy camper with that in my life.

Also, there are SO MANY people on this planet...do I really need to bring yet another one aboard?

So...my hubby is going through the various doctors, getting referrals and such to get "his system taken offline", LOL. It's taking awhile because we're young, but since we've been together nearly 10 years, we're both very sure of what we want. Eventually I'll probably go under the knife too, but I'm sort of hesitant...I nearly died while in surgery as a kid, so I'm rather timid when it comes to voluntarily putting myself into surgery.

We're both comfortable with the idea of adoption, too. So if we ever do change our minds and decide we MUST have children, I will feel very good about adopting someone who is already here in flesh, and who needs someone to love them. :)

I so admire the folks that have kids, and can actually deal with the headache, emotional turmoil and chaos that ensues. I think raising children has got to be the most difficult and under-appreciated job there is. So a big hug and two thumbs up to all the parents out there. :)

[Raevyn]

Either? Both? Just one? Please? Uh in short really really don't care which gender, I just want one (note to netjer, you got that?)

[StormChaser]

In view of a recent "comming out" of a friend of mine, and reading literature with given to me by said friend. I must say that genitalia does not equal gender identity. My friend Matt.. is 18.. and while the parts matt was born with make Matt a "he".. inside, and even quite outwardly.. "he" is a she.. "his" feelings are that of feelings of a "her".

I read someone people say "i dont know how i'd parent the other gender because of a tomboy" and making mention of having three boys... and not wanting to trade..

I urge caution in how you think on this matter.

EX: my friend is one of two born boys.. his mom didnt bet on having a girl.. but really.. she's always had one.. just born with the wrong parts.. or not enough male hormones to give "him" all the "him" impulses.

another reason is.. MY MOM is a tomboy and did a FINE job. Lol.
She rides motorcycles.. races.. has a short hair cut.. very straight.. but comes of.. quite frankly as a total butch sometimes. Yeah shes pretty and wears heels.. but shes quick witted.. fun loveing.. loves action movies over "sappy dramas" as she calls them.. "chick flix". She loves playing in the dirt.. being a landscape designer AND installer. But hey.. she also loves to dance... SHe's a LOUSY and i mean HORRID cook *glad shes not on this forum* .. i mean.. this woman can burn water... and forget about biscuits.. ive never seen them as anything but hockey pucks. She took me to watch her tae kwon do classes when i was little.. she never really was a total girl.. but somehow.. SOMEHOW
she got a make up wearing.. high heel loving.. dancing queen diva daughter.. who knows how to throw a punch.. but through some home ec classes.. can also make a decent round of circle cakes..that we don't have contests to see who can break em.

Don't doubt your parenting abilities because of your gender and the way you act.. if you know how to love.. you'll do just fine.

[Mythrel]

when I have children...I want at least one of each...

and if I can only have one, I need daddy's girl...

*gets out the shotgun for cleaning*

[Margie]

LOL Have you been talking to my husband?

[Jax]

We have two boys and a girl:heartthro . Although I always thought I'd have two girls and one boy! Things don't always turn out how you expected them too! I'd never change them for the world! (although I DO feel like it at times!LOL!!:rolleyes: ) I'd never go and actively choose the sex of a child prior to conception etc as I think that is best left to Mother Nature!:loveduv:
BB

[AstraSkye]

Well... I'm not planning on getting any kids anytime soon... and well, I'm not too fond of kids... But if I ever find myself to be pregnant and decide to keep the baby, I'd want a girl...

...because then I'd kick the gender roles in the butt!! :D

[Gaia168]

I don't know how I'll feel about it in the future but I have always felt like I wanted to have children some day in the distant future. Plus I also want to become a teacher. If I had to pick a gender, I'd say "girl", but that is just if I HAD to pick.

[Kahlan]

I wanted a Girl and got her, and now due to matters beyond my controll I can not have anymore children. So I am happy with my one miracle angle baby girl. She is exactly what I wanted (even if I didnt know it before I had her! :lol: )

[FaeFollower]

I voted I'm not planning on kids...If I did want children I would adopt (no way am I sticking the poor kid with my genes!), and in that case I would want a girl. I wouldn't know what to do with a boy, it's all girls in my family!

[Cappy]

when I have children...I want at least one of each...

and if I can only have one, I need daddy's girl...

*gets out the shotgun for cleaning*


HA!

That reminds me of something Mel Gibson said in an interview. His eldest daughter was starting to date and he said that he wanted to mount fake pimply heads of boys made from movie props in his living room and bring the courting boys there for a "chat". :lol:

[docdoo]

I voted boy though the point is moot as I already have 3. I wouldnt, even if given the chance, tamper with the sex of my child, having said that I readily admit that I wanted boys rather than girls when I was pregnant. I just thought of what I put my own parents through and decided that I would hope for boys *chuckle*

til next time

[Mindflayer]

I want both, but if I had to choose one of the other... well what can I say, I'm a guy, I'd want a boy :p

[FaerieGothMommy]

I have a daughter, and am pregnant. I don't care what sex this baby is, although i'm convinced it's a boy. And i'm not sure how many i want yet. May just want the two, or may decide to have a third later on.

[Biinasu]

In a perfect world, I'd have a boy, then two girls (if I'm lucky they'd be twins XD) and maybe another baby that could be of either sex. But if I could only have one, I would want....a boy!

[Élistariel]

I voted both, my aunts and uncles on BOTH sides, have a boy and a girl. Some have 2 girls and a boy, none have 2 sons. So girls is probably a definate chance for me. It'll be waaay off in the future if I do have kids. lol. I'm 20, never dated, and don't "plan" on dating until after college, or until I transfer. I just don't "get it". Now what I really want, is a horse. That 2-year old Me's dream never died... HORSEY!

[BethieRose]

I've had two boys and a girl...never truly cared what gender the baby was....just wanted healthy children.

[winter_goddess]

I'm not planning on having kids, my main reason being that I don't get along with them..I'm not a people person, and a multitide of other reasons. :)

Wow! Thank you for posting that honest answer! If only more people would own up to the real reasons that they do not want children, their future partners would be so much better off!

[winter_goddess]

If you could choose which sex your child/ren would be, would you?


Gender determination has made a huge impact on the medical world, and now, if you want a girl, you have a 98% chance of getting one, with this method. For a boy, you have about a 78% chance. Now, i voted that it does not matter. And to me, it honestly does not. I am very happy with my son and my daughter. The only thing that i cared about when i was pregnant, was that the baby was healthy.......gender did not even cross my mind.

[Salome]

I picked way to late. I had a boy first then a girl and I think that was the best for me,I think boys prepare you well.