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[LotusFlower]

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[Solya]

This sounds eerily familiar. Welcome to the club, then? ;)

Turning it off is something I have issues with as well. I learned to distinguish the energies of myself and others through the drawings and paintings I made, but I am not always consciously aware of energies flooding into my system. Some of my friends notice that I respond differently and they call my attention to it... but by then the energy is already in my system, and then it can be hard to get it out again.

Basically, I find most people to be very draining. I tend to stay away from pointless conversations and huge crowds because of it. I found that the books about highly sensitive people offer some good advice overall on how to deal with some things, but every empath works differently and so you will have to discover your own methods alongside that. For me, a warm shower works absolute wonders when I'm feeling particularly drained.

Anyway, just wanna let you know... you're not alone, and I'm here for you if you want to talk or vent or whatever. :hugz:

[Lady Shalymar]

Well joining in with my agreement, it's hard to turn off and can be very draining. For me I've learned to block out emotions of most people by shielding myself before I go around others. I take a moment, breathe deeply and center myself. I take stock of my emotions and how I'm feeling, then I visualize an area around myself that encompasses those feelings. Other people's energy can't get into that space. It works well for me and I can take down the shield when I want. Sometimes I want to feel other people's emotions.
It's hard not to mimic the emotions you're feeling from others. I still haven't mastered that when it comes to people very close to me. My shield isn't so effective against them because in my mind they're close to me and it's hard to block them out.
When your feeling overwhelmed by emotion and you're not sure where it's all coming from, or you know and you can't handle it, take a minute to yourself. Focus your attention on yourself and what you're thinking/feeling. I've found that by becoming more aware of myself and my emotions I'm better able to deal with feeling those of everyone around me.

[Solya]

Taking quick breaks to go to the toilet work wonders, I tell you. The break's just long enough for you to be able to regain a sense of balance.

I also do a cleansing of all aura layers sometimes. I start out with the physical layer that's closest to my body, and end up in the seventh layer which is farthest away from my body. I visualise all the energy I do not need streaming down into the earth or upward into the universe, and then recharge myself through adding to the energies of the respective aura layer. For the physical layer it is a blue/white light, while the second/emotional layer has bright and vivid colours. The fifth layer is something that needs to be totally vacuum and empty. It's been a great help for me to clean all layers on occasion, because I start to feel less cluttered because of it. :smile: Maybe something similar will work for you!

[Mandalena]

Sorry if this sounds a bit dogmatic but it is a subject that I feel strongly about:
Being so empathetic is a wonderful thing, very special, I would just advise you that until you are practised at getting rid of negative energy to be selective about who and what you are feeling empathy for. You don't need energy draining people in your life, you can surround yourself with friends that are also empathetic, they will make better friends.
If you value yourself and your gift more highly you will feel less inclined to waste it on those that don't appreciate you.
If you are left feeling low after being with a person, take note of that and avoid contact if possible. If you look after yourself first you will feel internally stronger, be better able to help others and command the respect you deserve.
Remember it is actually classified a sin "to cast your pearls amongst swine".

[Rina]

Yes, my dear. Join the club.
There are, as above all sorts of ways to help deal with all this, although I personally warn you against "switching it off" altogether. Yes, such attunement can be draining, hard work and confusing, but it is part of who you are. An ability to see through liars, and percieve how people are really feeling can be a great gift, both to yourself and to those around you.

I've been the first to see that others were dangerous, or that something was wrong with someone, and I've been able to help those who needed it.

My advice is this, if you can avoid it, don't let yourself get tired.
If ever you are around someone who you know resonates loudly, prepare yourself in advance if you can. Know where you stand on things and how you personally feel that day, irrespective of what you may end up drawing upon.

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[Solya]

It's almost as if my personality molds to whomever I'm around. For some people when I"m around them I'm exceptionally positive and giggly and sweet and carefree. Those are the mostly positive energy people. People I like or even love deeply. There's one man whom I feel head over heels in love with. The energy off of this man was incredible. It's like I became drunk off of it. Just thinking about him sends a smile across my face and I feel such positive emotions.

Oh yeah, definitely! I have a few people whose energy gets me totally drunk... I tend to describe it as the word "wibble", because that's how it feels... and thinking about them is enough to make my own energy flow in a more positive manner. :smile: I tend to be really quiet around them because I want to soak up every little bit of their positivity. Most of them know this and always laugh when I tell them that they make me happy.


However, put me in a room with my mom or someone who is very negative and feeds off others emotions, I'm a wreck! I'll become sarcastic and brooding and agitated-- it's just such a strange phenomenon. I don't mean to become so negative nor do I want to, but it's almost as if I'm a constant shadow of others. And seconds before I could have been the happiest person around! But just put me in a room with someone who is having a bad day and I just cannot-- for the life of me-- separate my feelings from theirs.

Yes, familiar ground again. I am a pretty positive person by nature, but put me in a room with someone who's not feeling well and I will be the world's biggest nightmare by the time I get out of that room. I don't notice I'm doing it and just walking past somebody is sometimes enough for my positive mood to disappear. Since I've taken to cleansing my aura, it's become a bit more controllable for me.


It just seems those whom I'm close to I have this insane psychic link that most likely traces back to my empathy sensitivity. I even have dreams about someone that tends to feel so incredibly real that I swear I'm astral projecting.

*nods in agreement* Mhmmm, I recognise it. I once felt incredibly sick and distraught... and it turned out to be a feeling I'd picked up from a guy I'd never really met before but had talked with online a few times already. I was able to heal him through sending him positive energies, but it took me by surprise and I felt strange for days afterwards. And, for as far as I remember my dreams... I have a strong feeling I'm fully able to astral project during those.


Like I said in my original post, I have no idea how to shut this off, and I don't think I can. The only things that make me a bit more "balanced" and grounded are being around animals, nature, and listening to my music.

Music has been a lifesaver. I tend to carry music around with me to crowded places, so I know I'll be able to focus on that whenever things get really bad for me. It took me a few years to learn how to shut it off somewhat, and I am only really balanced when I am alone. I tend to need alone-time a lot and actually do not work fulltime because of it. It's a bit of a hindrance sometimes, but thankfully my parents understand I have this insane need to be left alone at home sometimes.

[LotusFlower]

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