Feeling Sorry for Myself

[Cinnamon Girl]

I just have to write this down and vent it out so if you don't want to hear piteous ramblings and ravings, best to move on now. :)

I have been in Atlanta for three years and I hate it! My husband and I have been talking about moving almost as long as I've been here. We want to move to New England. I hate my job that I've stayed at thinking we'd be leaving soon, but something has always come up to keep us here. Now it seems that we have a chance, but it means taking some risks and I'm scared that the risks are too big, too foolhardy and that this will be a worse mistake than if we'd just stayed put. I've picked up and moved across country (and countries) before without so much as a look back, but this time, maybe cause I'm not alone, and we are so bogged down with *stuff*, it seems so much more difficult. I'm scared we're making the jump too soon, I'm scared we won't be able to get decent jobs, I'm scared we won't be able to find a place to live, I'm scared that we don't know anyone where we'll be going or our way around, I'm scared that we're underestimating how much money we need for this move. Maybe I should go with what he says and stay here until the spring, so we have more time to prepare. But every day I stay here is another day I feel I'm putting my life on hold, waiting.

I used to be such an adventurous, spontaneous person. But I don't feel that way anymore.

ARRGGHHH!!!!! :scream:

[Ravens_Tears]

Listen to your heart :)

[SpikesPet5150]

Do it. I have 2 regrets in my life, and both of them are staying put when I should have gotten off my butt and moved away. Of course it's going to be scary. And it's going to be hard. But please please please don't let yourself stay in a crappy situation simply because you're scared to try. You always fail if you never try.

Good luck, and keep us posted.
~Bree

[WtchyChick13]

(((((MoonOwl)))))

I know what it's like to feel 'stuck'--I know if I had the opportunity right now to get out, I would. When I did, I made the mistake of staying "a little longer" and it's been another 2 years!

Go with your heart and be happy.

And like Bree said, keep us posted!

[Raevyn]

Yikes, sounds pretty scary. Take your time and find some friends to talk to about it! I will say a prayer with lighted candle for you. :)

[shnen]

Just make sure you aren't holding yourself back because you are comfortable, somewhat safe where you are.. change is good, and if you aren't happy then it might be what you need. :)

speak with your spouse, and together I trust you will make the right decision. :)

[Faery-Wings]

Oh do I know how you feel. My family needs to move into a bigger house and even though I know in my head it is for the best, my heart isn't too happy about it. And I am scared of any sort of change too. I think everyone here and in my thread in Pagan Family has given great advice. I understand it is hard though.

Feel free to pm me anytime if you need to caht with someone who gets it.

[Old Witch]

Security or Adventure..........You have to choose..........Pick one and never look back!!!!!!!!!

[Cinnamon Girl]

Well, I have to say that I feel somewhat better in the light of day and a little ashamed of myself for that rant.

Thanks for your advice and kind words, though ~ they're much appreciated. :)


Just make sure you aren't holding yourself back because you are comfortable, somewhat safe where you areShnen, that's exactly what I'm doing. I've gotten into this safe little spot, and am scared about venturing out. But I do *want* to go and I know I can't let fear of the unknown keep me here. It's just that niggling little voice in the back of my mind saying that I'm not thinking it through, not being practical~ I wish it would just shut up already!

[Mithrea]

I was going to say that I had a friend recently not move for similar reasons. I see she's already posted :)

I have moved many times too. It's *always* scary. Now that I'm older and I too have accumulated alot of "stuff" I know it will be much harder. I need to move soon. I don't want to, but my reason is that I like where I am. You don't. My advice would be to take one day at a time. Go, when you can. Take that opportunity. Worry about the other stuff once you get there. It's how I'm living my life right now. I can't even think about what's happening next week or I will go completely insane with worry. And, you always have us for emotional support no matter where you go :)

[ChelleOfShadows]

Well many would call me heartless, or strange.... both have been known to be true, however as you move this time it is a GOOD TIME to GET RID OF LOTS OF STUFF!!!!! I have nothing I could not pack in 24 hours and be gone. Furniture? I have lived on lawn chairs before... lol I do not keep stuff the kids have done, or clippings of hair. My biggest 2 boxes are my BOSs and my box I keep everything else in. The rest is clothes or replaceable.

Do not bog yourself down with lots of stuff that can be easily replaced and remember that a new start needs a fresh heart!

Blessed Be!

[yemayasdaughter]

((((((((((Big Hug)))))))))))))))) Please keep us posted as to what happens. You shall be in my positive power thoughts!!!