OMG I am so going to jail!!!

[WitchOfEndor]

OMG, I'm going to beat the hell out of the head of special Ed. She's basically told me no for Katie to goto the special school but told one of the people in the school district that the High school is horrible & Katie would'nt be able to handle it there. WTF???? Does any of this make any sense to anyone? She's contridicting the hell out of herself at the expense of my kid!!!! Had a meeting with the vice superintendent & the head of special services, they were useless. After hearing what the head of special has said about Katie at the High School, I lost my mind at the District office & threatened legal action. Waiting for the vice super to call me back so I can tell him what I've heard & what I'm gonna do legally.


:::bouncing head off keyboard::::: Gods give me strength

[mephistopheles]

What the hell? Give them a piece of your mind, they have no excuse to jerk you around like that and contradict herself. People like that need to be thwacked upside the head... Best of luck....... :hugz:

[Anam Sa Dorchadas]

With all due respect, I don't think losing your cool is going to help the situation, yes you are angry, upset even but that behaviour isn't really acceptable, threatening staff. To their face or otherwise.

Of course, I don't know the situation, but I would say that if they wont help you, then find someone who will.
If they have said that they don't think Katie will deal with it, then there must be good reason, did you ask why? And if she has an opinion like that you may have turned around and asked why, and about alternative measures.

This woman sounds like a plum to be frank, and finding schools for special needs kids is not easy as it is. They need careful placement, with communication between all parties.

Sounds like you need to go back, remain cool headed and ask them what the frigg they have as alternatives. If they're still being tw@ts then go to your local Ombudsman or Citizens Advice Bureau.
I'm sorry I don't have the answers, and I am sorry that you are not getting the propper advice and help you are entitled to.

I hope this situation can be rectified soon so that you are less stressed, because obviously this situation has pushed you close to limit, hell, you have enough to deal with, and they need to do their effin jobs.
If they continue to shirk you off with crappy excuses etc, THEN go seek legal advice. otherwise all you can do is to wait to see what they say.

I wish you all the best of luck, but it really isn't worth you going to jail for.
xox

*hugs*

[WitchOfEndor]

I did handle myself calmly, got a little tense bit that's it. Although, I would like to slap that smug B*tch who is the head of Special Ed, I'm far more sensible than that. Just needed to vent. Kicking her ass maybe satisfying for a moment, but making sure she's no longer in charge of services to children with special needs would be much more satisfactory. There are alot of people in my city who would agree with me, this woman has offended a great deal of parents & teachers alike. If I followed the plan she set out, my daughter would be in shambles & would'nt finish school.

[RavensEye]

:hugz: I know what it is like to deal with such school officials. I hope that your situation gets resolved soon.

[mephistopheles]

I did handle myself calmly, got a little tense bit that's it. Although, I would like to slap that smug B*tch who is the head of Special Ed, I'm far more sensible than that. Just needed to vent. Kicking her ass maybe satisfying for a moment, but makign sure she's no longer in charge of services to children with special needs would be much more satisfactory. There are alot of people in my city who would agree with me, this woman has offended a great deal of parents & teachers alike. If I followed the plan she set out, my daughter would be in shambles & would'nt finish school.

People need to think of whats best for the kids, not whats best for them... I hope you get it sorted out quickly.

[Amilee]

With all due respect, I don't think losing your cool is going to help the situation, yes you are angry, upset even but that behaviour isn't really acceptable, threatening staff. To their face or otherwise.



Says the man with the violent avatar. :T

nahh, seriously though Anam's right.

[Anam Sa Dorchadas]

Says the man with the violent avatar. :T

nahh, seriously though Anam's right.

Man? *checks self*
And yeah ok point taken about the avatar.
:smileroll

[Glowy]

nobody else will stick up for your child- you have to.

I was told my honer roll student had all sorts of probs. when he was in kindergarten because he is quiet and shy... Hello, so am I!

They told me to test him for autisim, ADHD and a mess of other things.


I did not do this.. as I know him. I told the school board I tested him out of state and he was fine

a month later- he is the " perfect child-- all As

Now I get letters from the same school where he will be going into 7th. Telling me that he is brilliant and I should have him tested to skip a grade... he is still quiet and shy.

Teachers and staff are soo overwhelmed.. they kinda have to just put kids in a box. If the child does not meet the *box requirements* they don't know what to do anymore.

* hugs to you and your daughter. Is has to be so frustrating for the both of you. *

[Dr. K]

We had so many problems like that with my brother and still do, he is too autistic for one thing but not autistic enough for the alternative program. If so many kids don't fit either one, would you think they would think of different guidelines or a third option.

As for my four year old, I just had to fight to get her into a special preschool for kids with speech delays. They were trying to tell me she is just shy, but hello if I live with her and I can hardly understand her, then I think somethings wrong. It took a lot of doing, and a lot of tongue biting on my part, but eventually I got them to see things my way. Its hard though, when you know something to be true and no one will listen.

[Against The Tide]

Deal with childs need first and THEN complain about this stupeed lady later - a polite letter of complaint sent to her bosses will do more damage to her than losing it in her office (AND THEN you can smash her car up :D).

Hope things go well with finding a place for your sweetie.

[HetHert]

Is there a newspaper or TV station that might run this as an article or news piece? That could go along way to getting your daughter's needs met.

[Terra Mater]

OMG, I'm going to beat the hell out of the head of special Ed. She's basically told me no for Katie to goto the special school but told one of the people in the school district that the High school is horrible & Katie would'nt be able to handle it there. WTF???? Does any of this make any sense to anyone? She's contridicting the hell out of herself at the expense of my kid!!!! Had a meeting with the vice superintendent & the head of special services, they were useless. After hearing what the head of special has said about Katie at the High School, I lost my mind at the District office & threatened legal action. Waiting for the vice super to call me back so I can tell him what I've heard & what I'm gonna do legally.


:::bouncing head off keyboard::::: Gods give me strength

Life contradicts itself, get used to it.

The high school may be horrible, but having a hard time is not an automatic in for special ed and alt ed placements. At some levels there are only so many slots. The woman my well want to place Katie in the special placement but may be unable to because of the criteria required. Her hands may be firmly tied in the matter.

My schizophrenic daughter "attends" high school through the internet, which allows her to keep her education up even when the voices are at their worst. Maybe something like that will work for Katie.

[LadyWinter]

We had so many problems like that with my brother and still do, he is too autistic for one thing but not autistic enough for the alternative program. If so many kids don't fit either one, would you think they would think of different guidelines or a third option.

As for my four year old, I just had to fight to get her into a special preschool for kids with speech delays. They were trying to tell me she is just shy, but hello if I live with her and I can hardly understand her, then I think somethings wrong. It took a lot of doing, and a lot of tongue biting on my part, but eventually I got them to see things my way. Its hard though, when you know something to be true and no one will listen.

LOL sorry but your post struck me...he is not autistic enough? what are the requirements that he rock in a corner or that he wear a diaper? *rolls eyes at schools*

Winter

[LadyWinter]

Deep breaths and hugs to you.

Its always difficult with a special needs child. If they arent going to put her in to special schooling what are they going to do with her? What will they do if she flounders in the high school?

Winter

[WitchOfEndor]

Sorry it's taken me so long to get to this thread. They've offered a few more things for her at the middle school & we will wait & see if it helps till October & then meet again. She qualifies to goto the special school as she is Autistic/Asperger's Syndrome but she's evidently too high functioning in their opinion. She does very well in school work, it's the social part that is devastating for her. The kids are so cruel to her because she does'nt "fit" in. Her interests are very different than most & she does'nt understand all the social things & the cliques. She's not capable of being cliquey, she sees the good & beauty in everyone. I guess in this world it does'nt pay to be too kind. If you ever read Anne of Green Gables, my daughter is alot like her.

Anyways, after the year my poor sweet girl has had, I believe she's developed a phobia about being around people. Since school has gotten out she's left the house 5 times & 3 of those were to get her to her new counsellor. I'm at my wit's end & am so worried for my girl.

Thanks for all the responses. Energies & good wishes for my girl would be most appretiated.

[Yvonne Belisle]

If you have problems like this again or anyone else reading this thread does there are things you can do. There are chapters of associations for most common childhood and adult problems listed in the phone books all over the united states. Those chapters can put you in touch with lawyers and organizations that can put legal pressure on the school to find viable alternatives for your child. All of our children are granted the right to an education if public school is not the right place for your child and it isn't a social or economic issue but a medical one they are required to place them in an educational setting that is even if they have to pay for the private school. I learned that when I had problems with my eldest. I wish you the best of luck.