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Yvonne Belisle
September 4th, 2002, 07:46 PM
A week from now, a month from now, a year from now.

A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year old grandson. The old man's hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered.

The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather's shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.

The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. "We must do something about Grandfather," said the son. I've had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor.

So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner.There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl.

When the family glanced in Grandfather's direction, sometime he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food.

The four-year-old watched it all in silence. One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, "What are you making?"

Just as sweetly, the boy responded, "Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up." The four-year-old smiled and
went back to work.

The words so struck the parents so that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done.

That evening the husband took Grandfather's hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.

On a positive note, I've learned that, no matter what happens and how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.

I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.

I've learned that, regardless of your relationship with your parents, you'll miss them when they're gone from your life.

I've learned that making a "living" is not the same thing as making a "life."

I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.

I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back.

I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you. But, if you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others, your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you.

I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.

I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one.

I've learned that every day, you should reach out and touch someone.

People love that human touch -- holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.

I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.

Pan
September 4th, 2002, 08:00 PM
Thank you for posting this.. it's so sad.. yet it does happen. I know that some of the members of my not-immidiate family would do that to either of my grandparents.. the same for my husband's side.

I started to cry when I read this. Yet it moved me. It still does. Sometimes it takes the innocence of a child to point out what we are doing wrong. All I know.. is that if my grandparents (on my or hubby's side) needs a place to live.. my husband and I will take them in. Even if we don't have the room; we'll make the room.

Thank you again..

Yvonne Belisle
September 4th, 2002, 08:43 PM
It certainly made me think and that is why I felt I had to share it.

Witchy Cowgirl
September 4th, 2002, 10:36 PM
I've learned how to get my printer working and,
I'm printing this off and keeping it in my BOS.
Thanks Yvonne. This is a very moving piece.:)

Chibi-Fallon
September 5th, 2002, 07:27 PM
I hate how stuff like that happens. It’s awful to think someone could do that to another person. A parent even.
Out of my father’s family everyone but my dad moved away (the rest of the kids were step-children, but still). He never lived with us because he didn’t like feeling like he was a burden to anyone (he lived in a seniors complex about a block away from our house). When we were little me and my brother would go visit him about 3 times a week, and he always came over to eat on Saturday and holidays. I really got to have a close relationship with him up until he died and I think that he had a very positive impact on my life. If anyone can improve your self-esteem it’s a grandparent. :D
But I mean look at things like the Simpsons. I think a lot of times the satire with Abe Simpson goes unnoticed or is just kinda background noise to most people. But people really do treat their parents like that, and it’s awful.
There is a lot of "ageism" that goes on in this country. The elderly are avoided like the plague, the stereotype that it’s bad to be (and *especially* look) old. But maybe with all these boomers getting older something will change.

SerenityMoon
September 5th, 2002, 07:40 PM
..i have seperate feelings about my own grandparents. my father's parents are sweet sweet people. my grandmother wood is sweet, gentle, kind, loving, and intellingent. my grandfather wood is funny, gentle, loving, crafty, and intelligent. they lighten my mood and help me find confidence in myself. i would do anything for them.
now, my mother's parents are another story. they are bigoted, rude, and mean spirited people. everytime i visit these people, i get rude treatment becuase of the mexican blood i have that comes from my father's side. these people would not have my aid once they become too old to take care of themselves. they have treated my mother and my family badly.
yes, it is sad when things such as that story happent o kind, loving grandparents. but it is also sad when grandparents cannot love their grandchildren for who they are

Yvonne Belisle
September 11th, 2002, 06:50 PM
Bump

Semele
September 11th, 2002, 07:03 PM
Originally posted by SerenityMoon

now, my mother's parents are another story. they are bigoted, rude, and mean spirited people. everytime i visit these people, i get rude treatment becuase of the mexican blood i have that comes from my father's side. these people would not have my aid once they become too old to take care of themselves. they have treated my mother and my family badly.
yes, it is sad when things such as that story happent o kind, loving grandparents. but it is also sad when grandparents cannot love their grandchildren for who they are

Then what better way to teach by example? You may have your own children by then, or even if you don't if you take the time and energy to love them and show them respect and dignity at a time on life when it is scarce, THEY may very well learn from that. We are never too old to learn somthing. It could very well be the thing that their soul was here to learn this go around. Or perhaps it is a lesson for your soul... anyone can love someone who returns it outright, but it takes someone special and truly balanced to love those who resist... I tend to think those are the ones who most need our love and acceptance, even though they may spit in our face. We can only be hurt if we allow it to happen.

Tammy Sullivan
September 11th, 2002, 07:04 PM
I printed this one out. Gonna keep it bumped as it truely touched my heart. Thanks Yvonne for sharing it.

Emerald Oak
September 11th, 2002, 09:52 PM
That IS a nice story ^.^ Wisdom comes in many forms, huh? It's inspired me to post a list I found a while back and tacked to my fridge:

1) Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

2)Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

3) Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have, or sleep all you want.

4) When you say "I love you," mean it.

5) When you say "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.

6) Be engaged atleast six months before you get married.

7) Believe in love at first sight.

8) Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.

9) Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live completely.

10) In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling. (I think some patrons of MW should pay close attention to this one.)

11) Don't judge people by their relatives.

12) Talk slowly but think quickly.

13) When someone asks a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"

14) Remember that great love and great achievement involve great risks.

15) Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze. (This one can be meant generally, it doesn't necessarily have something to do with Christianity.)

16) When you lose, don't lose the lesson.

17) Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; Responsibility for all your actions. (Amen!)

18) Don't let a little dispute injure a great relationship.

19) When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

20) Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.

21) Spend some time alone.


I hope everybody can learn from these, I sure did.

SerenityMoon
September 12th, 2002, 12:57 AM
emerald oak: beautimus. *applaudes*
semele: i agree to some of that, but..*shrug* ^^