my uncle is dying

[Crystal Willowtree]

My uncle has been suffering with cancer for ages and its starting to beat him. He's been given around 6 months, but my parents saw him over the weekend and think its not even going to be that long...
However, its not just him I'm worried about its the rest of the family, especially his granchildren. The girls are only aged 4 and 7 so I can't even begin to imagine what they will be going through.... currently they think he's a little bit ill. My cousin doesn't know what to tell them.

[PandoraHealer]

that's not fun.
I'm sorry-

((hugs))

[LadyLuthien]

My uncle died when I was 9. I am the youngest on that side of the family so I don't remember much. But to this day it hurts my mother and my grandparents. My grandpa had started smoking the day of the wake. I remember when my mother got the phone call, she just cried in the hall. My cousin was torn to pieces... There is no easy way to deal with anything like this. It's been over 10 years since he died and my family still hurts.

Be there for your family. Do all you can. Don't treat him any different. Let him know you love him, but give him peace. One can only imagine how he must feel. It's one thing going suddenly, but sitting there knowing you are going to go shortly is another.

I wish there was more I could offer in the ways of help. I am so sorry for your pain. :(:hugz:

[Cloaked Raven]

Seeing a loved one die, no matter if they are in pain or not, is a terrible thing to go through.

We watched as my husband's great uncle withered in only six weeks. He had bone cancer. My husband was very upset because Uncle had filled in the gap that his grandfather left with his passing 20 odd years before this.

Comforting energy, prayers and warm thoughts are sent to all of you. :hugz:

[Teresa]

:hugz:

[Caitlin.ann]

I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts.

[Catiana]

:hugz:

[Ivy Artemisia]

I'm so sorry- you are in my thoughts... *hug*

[Lylian]

My thoughts and prayers are with your family:hugz:

[Philosophia]

Sending healing, positive, and comforting energy to him and family. :hugz:

[Æthelflæd]

*sending :hugz: and positive energy to you and your uncle's family*

[DaNcInG_WiNd]

:rubhead:I am so sorry. :rubhead:

[Glowy]

((hugs)) I am truly sorry

[AugustoSilvanoCato]

My Blessings to all your family members and positive energy to all ++++++

[Crystal Willowtree]

thanks to everyone and just to update you all... he passed away this morning :sadeyes:

[orangeconey]

I am very sorry for your loss... :(

[Fencai]

oh hunny! Im so sorry!
Love and Light to you and yours.
I will light a candle for you.

[Cloaked Raven]

Oh, CW, I am so sorry. :hugz:

[Artiste-LiLi]

My uncle has been suffering with cancer for ages and its starting to beat him. He's been given around 6 months, but my parents saw him over the weekend and think its not even going to be that long...
However, its not just him I'm worried about its the rest of the family, especially his granchildren. The girls are only aged 4 and 7 so I can't even begin to imagine what they will be going through.... currently they think he's a little bit ill. My cousin doesn't know what to tell them.

My deepest sympathies to you and your family.....you will all be in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time and the times to come.

In regards to what to tell the grandchildren: just be open and honest. My 2 oldest nieces were 2 and almost 6 when my mother, their grandmother died. Looking back on it all....I so wish we had been more open and up front with it all at the end of mom's life. We mistakenly thought it best to shield them from what was going on; we were so wrong. We should have told them as much as they could take in and done it in age appropriate language. The almost 6 year old went to pieces when we told her mom had died......she had had no time to prepare herself for the possibility that Mammie might not come home from the hospital this time..that she might be going to "live with Jesus" (they follow the Lutheran path) instead of coming home to us. We all feel that if we had told her more about things, in a gentle and age appropriate way, that she might have handled it better. The 2 year old did not understand at all that Mammie was dead and wasn't coming home. She kept talking about "Mammie coming home". We explained over and over again to her that Mammie was "with Jesus at his house now" until one day she said: "Well tell Jesus that it is time for my Mammie to leave his house and come home to me!!" Mom died April 9th....the 2 year old finally fully understood that her Mammie wasn't coming home the end of June and when it finally sank in, she went to pieces too. She sat in the middle of the living room floor howling at the top of her lungs that she wanted her Mammie to come home and "she's never gonna". We so wish we had better prepared the older girls. The youngest one wasn't even a year old when mom died. I think at ages 4 and 7 they are old enough and have the mental abilities to be prepared and to understand that their grandpa is very very sick and that he might "go to live with Jesus" soon.

I'm so sorry for your family and what you are going through. I hope that Spirit will guide you all and give you the strength and love you will need to make it through this time.


Edit: I missed the update. I am so sorry for your loss. If there is anything I can do to help, please do not hesitate to PM. I may live far away...but I understand loss and I am here for you to the best of my abilities.