What do you hate in yourself most?

[Emaleth]

I mean the most hated character trait? Something you'd love to change, but it seems impossible. Something you've fought with for years?

For me it's the fact that I get interested in something very easily, but I loose interest quickly. That's why it's hard for me to finish what I start. The shelves in my room are full of books I bought and never read. I borrow books from library and return them unread. I enroll in courses and give up after a few weeks... I'm VERY impatient and when I don't see the results of my work right away, I get discouraged easily.

So confess, what's your most hated trait of character?

Blessed Be

[Skye]

Can't seem to get my butt up from infront of this computer:D

:uzi: :uzi: Procrationation

[Yvonne Belisle]

Will power when it comes to self change I have none

[Radocs]

I procrastinate a lot .

[Danustouch]

Hmmmmm...probably two things.

The first, is that I come up with some amazingly creative ideas for stories, books, projects, crafts, etc. However, for some reason, I can't translate my idea's into actual work. I come up with great plots, great ideas, or what have you, but when I sit down to actually DO the project, it never comes out just how I pictured it in my mind. So I wind up getting really frustrated, and giving up.

The second, is that while I can tend to give great advice to OTHER people, when it comes to myself, i'm completely clueless. I'm pretty shortsighted when it comes to my own problems, how to deal with them, etc. And I have a whollllllle lot of intuition regarding people, except when those people are important to my OWN life. I can't read cards for myself, really, only other people, I can't get intuitive flashes for myself, only other people. Etc. Kinda sucks.

[Nina]

Insecurity.

Logically, I can always see that I don't need to be insecure, but I can't stop feeling it. Been like this all my life.

[NightSkye]

not sure if this is a character trait or not but i`d like to change my self esteem its really low

[earthcat]

Fortunately, I'm at the age, (rapidly approaching crone-dom), where I accept myself, faults and all. I know that I have difficulty expressing myself clearly, that I'm a (happy) slob, that I have procrastination down to an art,
physically I'm not anywhere close to a super-model, (would someone please FEED those girls?!?!?), and a whole bunch of other stuff that annoys my Hubby, but that's ok. I'm just me in all my ways, and content to be so. http://www.plaudersmilies.de/ani_smiles.gif

[Arzhela]

I'd have to say no self discipline. There are so many things that I want to do but I get distracted from the real work that would allow me to improve at the things I do and, as a result, I don't improve. I guess that sort of falls under the procrastination category, though.
That and my awkwardness in difficult social situations. I can give others advice that they say is terrific, but I can't do it for myself.

[Nina]

... if you don't mind me asking, what age is that? I would be very pleased with myself if I managed to accept my flaws - I get so stressed trying to be 'better'!

And then I get frustrated when I try to accept who I am - and fail at that!

*sigh* One day...

[MistOfTheSea86]

Making attachments to people who only cause me pain.

[Yvonne Belisle]

hugs Mist

[SpikesPet5150]

Oh god, where to start LOL

I get frustrated really easily and give up my projects.
I'm a pushover when it comes to certain people.
I have absolutely no self control when it comes to certain people.
I drink too much.
I procrastinate to the point that I never do anything.
I always have to make a joke about *something*, even when it's not appropriate to do so.
I avoid conflict like the plague, therefor never getting any of my feelings out, just in case it causes drama.
I fear change.
I am completely irresponsible with money.

Alright, I'm gonna stop here. LOL Too many things to list. :)
~Bree

[Azure]

Insecurity, insecurity, insecurity.

I procrastinate too. But at the moment I am really really stressing about the fact that I have all these talents, and right now I don't seem to be able to put any of them to good use and I'm stressing out like a crazy woman.

So stressing myself out is a close second.

[Melysande]

I try to buy friendship. I always have and I can't seem to stop doing it.

I procrastinate.

I lack confidence in myself.

I'm painfully shy when I don't know people.

I go completely scatterbrained when I try to talk to people that make me nervous. And then when I do find words, they don't come out of my mouth right.

I eat too much and exercise too little. Especially when I'm stressed.

[Djiril]

I suppose the one that gives me the most trouble is my lack of social instincts. I never seem to know the right thing to say in social situations, and I'm always either forgetting my manners or saying something really innappropriate. I never realize it until the minute after, and then I just want to dissappear.:ghost: :(

[Tammy Sullivan]

Overcoming shyness. I always worry so about what kind of impression I make, so I usually mess it up, I get so nervous that I look stupid. Oh well, I am blonde so it doesn't seem to surprise that many people.;)

[Badgerval]

I don't know about earthcat, but I found contentment in myself grew from around 42/43 :)

[Mithrea]

General Weakness. :mad:

[Old Witch]

I'm grumpy!!! And I yell too much..........Other than that, I'm old enough to be happy with myself............and don't give a tinkers &%$# what anyone else thinks.:D

[Grey]

I can easily become manipulative if I let myself.

I tend give things away so I go broke real easy.

I suppress my emtions to the point of complete "GREY".

I can only put out energy into something in proportion to my oppossition.

I'm a skeptic.

[Flaire-FireStar]

So many things.... which to choose...

My shyness
Procrastination
That I absolutely can't stand to be around myself....

[)O( ~ Khara~ )O(]

I am not a nice person.

People in general annoy me to no end and I have absolutely no problem telling them so.

There are NO second chances.

I am a professional smartass.

I tend to kick butt first and ask questions later.

I do not make friends easily nor do I have many.

If I am having to explain something for a third time may the Goddess help you unless it's rocket science.

I am old enough that other peoples opinions about me no longer matter. Yes I can still get my feelings hurt, but rather than pout I just walk away. I will not force my friendship upon anyone. I have to be happy with me, cause it's my bathroom mirror I look in every morning brushing my teeth not anyone else's.

[Psyche Ague]

While I accept and love myself, I recognize that I have many faults. Some are: procrastination (I should be doing my homework right now, in fact!), shyness, susceptibility to depression (I know that's not my fault, but it sucks nonetheless), narcissism, impatience, and many others.

[Witchy Cowgirl]

Well, I too am at the point where I accept myself; faults and all.
But, I tend to hold grudges; although I'm much better than I was when I was younger.

So much has changed for me and my family over the past few years that I can say that I'm happy and mean it! So, at this point in time, there's really nothing I'd change.

[Thistle]

Wow, this is a loaded question! I had an argument with my daughter about this just today. I avoid conflict, and stifle what I have to say until I can't stand it any more, and then it explodes out of me and makes everyone feel bad.

Then there's procrastination and insecurity.

Old Witch said she was grumpy. Yeah, I'm grumpy, too. I don't necessarily think it's always a bad thing, though. If I'm grumpy, well, just deal with it. I'm at the point in life where I pretty much accept myself as I am. If I changed too much, I wouldn't be me any more.

[SerenityMoon]

insecurity....self blame..i blame myself for everything...and i'm very selfish at times

[earthcat]

Nina, I just turned 43.
But if the truth be known, I learned about 10 years ago to not be so hard on myself; and not worry what others think of me. I had been fighting R.A. for about 8 or 10 years; and had had to change pretty much everything in my life to accommodate my weaknesses. I got used to the stares and whispered comments in public, (there are times when I walk like a penguin,http://www.plaudersmilies.de/tiere/pengy.gif and/or have to hold onto walls/rails/furniture and occasionally, perfect strangers. What a way to meet people!:D).
I learned that the only thing of real importance in my life is the people I care about, and the people who care about me. Once you learn that lesson in your life, all else falls into place. Especially the way you see yourself....;)

[Armitage]

I'm stubborn as hell and have too much of a touchy temper. This has been the source of countless arguments.

[WtchyChick13]

My ability to say things--my lack of ability to say things.http://www.smilies.org/basesmilies/ugh.gif

[Danustouch]

My gullibility.
My tendency to cling to unhealthy situations, just because they're there.
My willingness to "Settle.".
And my inherant "Hopefullness" and absolute optimism "oh...he/she can't REALLY be that bad. No..deep DOWN their a good person." or "Someday, he/she will change."
And worst of all, my delusion that what I say or do, can actually bring about a positive change in a person.

My mother says that I'm the eternal champion of the Underdog. Only problem, says she, is that usually, the dog is "under" for a damned good reason.

[Sequoia]

hate. . . to me, hate is a really strong word.

If you ask me on a good day, I don't hate anything! I may be a bit embarrased. . . or ashamed. . . but I am me, and I wouldn't want to be different.

Well maybe I do things and buy things impulsively >.< "ooh! pretty! must have!" :rolleyes: And when I get depressed, I am aweful about myself. And. . . well, my heart is gentle, and very loving, but I fall so easily. . . *shakes her head* I love easily. And too deeply for my own good. And get hurt when I should have known better. Or, I am very afraid that I will be hurt again, even if I know that person is the gentlest, specialest person on the world, and would sooner want to die than hurt me. I'm kind of scared like that. But. . . I love! So I wouldn't want to change that!

Or that everything I think is real might, might not be. Or something I belive in might not be. Worry about things like that . . . But. . . sometimes, I think that fear makes me stronger, rather, it makes me appreciate what I have that much more. So I don't think I'd really change that.

If you ask me on a bad, bad, bad day, I will tell you things like "I'm too big" "I'm ugly" "everyone hates me, I'm worthless and only cause hell."

Things I've done on bad days that I never want to do again -

called myself names
believed cruel people
been cruel to people who love me
made stupid, rash desicions
let myself be hurt by others
thought I deserved pain
thought I caused everyone around me pain
blamed myself for things that weren't my fault
hurt myself

but. . . .

but I really realize these things are a part of me. I may be ashamed of some past things (and err well things I've done in the present, like the impulsive stuff, or the stupid rash desicions, or that whole "beliving cruel people" or hurt myself. . . ) I may never want to do some things again. But to hate old parts of myself, that's to hate me. And if I hate myself. . . *shakes her head* So. . . I am willing to be understanding towards myself.

I am content to be me. Maybe not all the time. . . but if I weren't me, who would I be? *smiles* So sometimes I hate myself, in general. . . . but in truth, I would not want to be anyone else. Or any different. I am perfect just as I am.

. . . don't quote me, on a bad day, though! :rolleyes:

edited to add: when I say I love easily, I don't mean just anyone. But those who are special to me, I love soon, and deeply, and sometimes maybe this isn't the best for me. . . I didn't mean "hey I'm walking down the street and I met joe blow and I LOVE HIM, MAN!!" ^^;

[psychostasis]

What do I hate in myself? Nothing, really. I am who I am you know? I guess I could say I dislike all the time and energy I wasted trying to fit into what other people think I should be. I am who I am, and those who don't like it can kiss my butt ;)

[Sequoia]

yes!! exactly! thank you! :D and if it hasn't yet been said, welcome!

[Valnorran]

My inability to surrender to the fact that I'm not perfect. Small, irrelevant flaws in others I will completely ignore, if I notice them at all, but in myself they're unforgivable offenses. I have a bad temper but I generally don't take it out on others. I take it out on myself. Not physically, mind you, but emotionally I can really take myself apart. Still, if others don't expect me to be perfect, why should I? Part of me says if I adopt that attitude I run the risk of losing all standards. Paranoid, most likely, but still...

Approaching the age of 32 I'm getting much more accepting of myself. I trace it to my inherent laziness. Worrying about what others think takes an aweful lot of energy, and it rarely works, and any success you do have at it is very fleeting. I'm just plain sick of bothering with it.

Actually, my trait that others call lazy I call efficient allocation of resources :)

[AradiaSupernova]

my worst character trait....

Not being able to let go of the past. I hold grudges a long time and it takes me a while to get over things.

[FelixFire]

I'm incredibly lazy. :(

But I'm too lazy to do anything about it. LOL

[Jeleia]

I'm a smartass.... sometimes I speak without thinking. Thats what I like about the internet, I get to read it over before posting. heh..

[FlamedLilly]

My inability to let go of things that should be dead and gone.

[Bob8402]

well, I've got a set of flaws, I guess like anyone else would, lol. I tend to be overly shy and quiet to the point where people think I am a idiot or a psycho or something. I tend not to trust people, even the ones I SHOULD trust, even both of my Witchy Sisters (lol, you know who you are :)) as well as my fiancee, even. I also tend to be pessimistic and prone to depression. I only seem to get depressed if I am lonely, ignored, tired, or basically left alone after any kind of stress. I am fine when something bad happens, but wait a few hrs later and leave me by myself,too, lol. Then again, depends on the bad thing. Ironically, I handle the death of people and animals pretty well, as well as injury to myself and others. It's little things like being stared at or called names or whatever that do it. lol, above all else, I guess I am just quite the paranoid pessimist (I WANT to call myself a realist, lol). *grin* if anyone can understand me, it'll be a miracle worthy of someone's God, Goddess, or other religious deity :)

I wish you well,my friends
-Bob

[flar7]

Laz

[flar7]

Lazy....yep.

[Altheia]

I tend to see the good in people...and for some reason people take advantage of me because of that...I'm not naieve....I know what's out there...I don't ignore it, I just hope for the best. I fall in love easily....thank the goddess that I have someone now who loves me back just as much (if not more) as I do them. I am insecure...someone goes to give me a compliment, and I don't see it...I see something totally different when I look into the mirror. I see the flaws and I guess that everyone else doesn't. Oh well.

[quixote]

Originally posted by Radocs
I procrastinate a lot .
Im going to procrastinate tomorrow!
quixote

[Flar's Freyja]

My lack of self-discipline. I can't seem to stick to anything for very long. And proscrastination! It's got to be the dumbest fault that I have. I know that it's so much easier to just take care of something when it needs to be taken care of because it will cause me stress until I do, yet I continue to put things off. This also results in my speeding through things and missing important details.

In spite of this, I also tend to work too hard for people who don't appreciate it or when there is not enough financial reward. I am currently seriously considering quitting my freelance business because I have been so nice to some of my clients that I can't pay my own bills.

[cherrywind]

My anger. I have quite a temper. Maybe it's the red hair, who knows, but I've always been quick to temper, and I'm a fury when I'm angry. I've gotten better at controlling it, but sometimes I catch myself slipping up.

[phoenixsong]

:2G: I'm really suspicious of people. Not paranoid, I'm not... Are you calling me paranoid? Hmm, now I know you are. :2G:

Well, maybe I'm not that bad. Usually. :D

[Haedis]

The fact that i'm over sensitive about almost everything.

Most of my other problems stem from that...such as:

I cant take criticism very well, I've developed a cruel sense of humor probably to make myself feel better (though i make fun of myself most of all), I can never do artwork/writings just for myself...i always have to wonder what everyone else will think about it, I'm pretty shy but sometimes act extroverted to compensate for it, I get stressed really easily about problems that arent my own, etc....etc...etc.