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Flar's Freyja
September 13th, 2002, 09:48 PM
Flar's taking American Literature this semester and is reading some poetry and prose written by Puritans. One of the writers he is studying is Anne Bradstreet. Last night, he showed me several of her poems and prose. Although she was definitely Christian, she lived what she believed and I admire that. One of her poems, "Contemplations," is about the wonders of nature and I found it quite Pagan. I read another one of her works, "To My Dear Children." I could not find a site anywhere on the web that has the verses to post here.......it's a piece that she wrote about herself to her children in hopes that they would understand her and her life when she was gone. I was impressed with the first line, which said something like "it falls on deaf ears until the speaker is gone..." Most of us did not understand our own parents until we were in our thirties.

I've often considered writing something like this for my own kids and even bought a book a while back with some guidelines. I wrote a letter to my oldest son a few years ago with the same intent and it made a huge difference in our relationship, since we really went through some struggles after my divorce and while I was in college and money was very tight. In addition, I was dealing with an undiagnosed and untreated case of major clinical depression. I've also had several long talks with my youngest son, who has chosen to remain at home the longest.

Has anyone started such a project? What did you write about? Will you give it to your kids while you're still here or leave it for them after you cross over?

Margie
September 14th, 2002, 11:32 AM
Freyja,

I think that's a great idea, definately something I'd like to start doing! I'm curious to hear if anyone else does this and what they write.

Flar's Freyja
September 14th, 2002, 05:13 PM
It's one of those projects that I've wanted to start for years and have never gotten to. No excuse not to, especially with a computer. The book that I bought is called "Legacy: A Step By Step Guide to Writing Personal History" by Linda Spence. It gives lots of ideas for describing your childhood and different life stages, what you did and how you felt about them.

Faery-Wings
September 15th, 2002, 06:59 AM
I have a book Reflections from a Mothers Heart where you write in answers to questions, in essay form, from "describe a memorable Valentine" to "how do you grow spiritually." It is a really nice book, and I would just love to write in it, but never seem to have the time to sit down and make any entries. I always feel I should be in the right frame of mind, and I never am, I guess.

Yvonne Belisle
September 15th, 2002, 10:10 AM
That Ialways have and always will love them.

LadyJ0713
September 20th, 2002, 11:27 PM
Hi
I started a journal when we started on the journey of insemination and pregnancy. I talked to the unborn child. My hopes and dreams. What we were going thru. My miscarriage, then my preg. that produced my son. I continued it thru our many trials and conquests. I havent wrote in it for about 6 months now. Quess its time to get back to it. My son might want to know what happened or when and I forgot to write it down. The journal helped me to sort out my many thoughts and feelings. I hope he will read it when he is older and know he is truely wanted and loved.

Flar's Freyja
September 21st, 2002, 01:06 AM
That is truly a beautiful idea! Thanks for sharing it.

Faery-Wings
September 21st, 2002, 07:30 AM
LadyJ0713 that is very special idea.

I did something similar with my first child- just a regular pregnancy hournal. Of course I didn;t do anything like it with my second.

I also had those Time Capsules you can buy- I have a great one put away for my son- again, my daughter's is still not closed and she is four--today!

Bad mommy.:)