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Laoghaire
July 27th, 2008, 07:02 AM
Our holiday in Germany should have been a wonderful time. And, in the end, it wasn't too bad. Apart from the fact that I had the most frightening moment of my entire life. I really have troubles trying to deal with it all... And I just want to tell it.

I nearly lost my mother...

Friday, 25 July.
The last morning we make breakfast for the dance troop. They leave in the afternoon and our little family is excited, because this five days have been hell. Serious money issues, or better, theft and frictions. We want to spend our last days on the farm in peace and silence.
After the departure, we split up. I fall asleep on my bed, the rest of the family goes sunbathing in the garden. When everyone gets back inside, we decide to go out to dinner. Brother and girlfriend left for Aalen in the mean time, for a swim.
We meet again in Rosengarten, and eat out dinner outside. Mum and sis choose the same dish. Glass of wine, some schnaps and lots of laughter. All goes well...

Middle of the night...
In the barn next to us (shared wall), 70 children are asleep in the straw. There is still a lot of movement and noise, but everyone in the house can sleep.
I wake up when I hear some noise. As if somebody fell over a chair in the living room. For a minute or so, I wonder if the noise came from the barn, or inside the house. Ah well, because I have to pee, I can better get out an check it while I'm there. I find my mother sitting on the bathroom floor, head on her knees. She says she doesn't feel right. I run for my dad, who, suprisingly, is quite awake too. We run for my mum, who feels very sweaty and clammy. She really has to pee, so we help her on the toilet...

She faints again. I held her head... When I held her, trying to keep her steady, she started wheezing. We tried to manoeuvre her on the floor, in a tiny little bathroom. She still struggled with her breath, her eyes rolling around. When I carefully put her head down, she stopped breathing...

The thoughts that fly through your head... Stupid things, but pure desparation too. I called for her, only twice, because I was too scared that she would never respond. My dad was next to me and the tears and the panic in his voice still bring tears to my eyes. How we sat there, in a sauna like bathroom, bent over her, trying to make her breath again. I was ready to jump for my phone and call the emergency number, when dad moved her head quickly and pushed on her chest... With some shakes, she started breathing again. I was so afraid at the time that these were convulsions.

All together, it happened really really fast, everything. From the moment she fainted till the moment she started breathing again. But it felt like eternity. I sat there next to her, when she was awake again, dabbing her face with a cold flanel, trying to keep my calm. Trying to keep her talking, to avoid she would fall out again. Dad and I tried to convince my mum to call a doctor. We did not have a clue how, but we wanted to do everything. How could we tell mum how serious it had been? Could we tell her that she actually stopped breathing?

After a visit to the toilet, mum felt well enough and we brought her to bed, with some ice packs. When she talked, she seemed far away from us.

And so, dad sent me to bed. It was around 4am at the time. I didn't fall asleep until 6, desparetly trying to hear her breathing, which was impossible with the wall between the bedrooms, and trying to keep all those doom thoughts out of my head. At 6, the children in the barn woke up again...

To this day, we still haven't got an idea what happened. Overtiredness, because if the camp? Sunstroke? The dinner? Dinner we could rule out, because sis did not experience any problems at all. When we talk about it now to my mother, she does not remember half of what dad and I said that night. She does know that she stopped breathing indeed and that we will visit the doctor tomorrow.

To this day, I still haven't cried. The tears are there, I just cannot cry them. I keep checking on her, trying to make her rest. I'm worried, because my bedroom at home is far away from our bathroom. What if it happens again and I don't hear it? Heck, what would have happened if I did not find her that night?

I feel utterly relieved that I still have my mum with me... Goddess, the pain that I felt when I saw her on the floor. I just kept thinking about my sis, what would happen to her if she lost mum.

The anxiety simply doesn't go away...

Stormbeard, thanks for caring and being there when I needed it...

Philosophia
July 27th, 2008, 07:26 AM
:hugz: I don't know what else to say but I give you my :hugz: and I will send healing energy to you.

Stormbeard
July 27th, 2008, 07:42 AM
Horrific. Nobody should have to go through that.

DreamSpell333
July 27th, 2008, 08:37 AM
:hugz: to you

I hope your mom will be ok. Healing energy sent to her.
Im sure that had to be very scary for you. Please keep us posted on how she's doing. :)

Eternal Night
July 27th, 2008, 08:47 AM
Woah that's just horrific....I really hope your mum is ok and it was just a one off.
Still that must have been so scary for you and your family :hugz:

WarriorZhanna
July 27th, 2008, 08:58 AM
Oh my god.. I feel for you, Lies. Sorry to hear that about your mum. I do hope she gets better and I have a feeling she will! :)
Chin up and remain strong! Healing energy sent to both you and your family!

*hugs*
~Susanna

Bettie
July 29th, 2008, 12:42 AM
Oh, hon - just reading that account brought tears to my eyes. What a horrible thing to happen, you must've been terrified...

I hope everything goes well at the doctor. I will keep you, your mum and your family in my thoughts.
:hugz: :hugz:

Cassie
July 29th, 2008, 03:11 AM
Good luck at the Doctor. I hope for your family's peace of mind that whatever happened can be quickly diagnosed and sorted out. :hugz:

ETA While the food itself might have been ok, the reaction you describe sounds very much like an extreme allergic shock reaction to something.

Clair de la Lune
July 29th, 2008, 03:26 AM
Wow! Sorry that happened...sounds like the angels woke you and your Dad up to save your Mum's life! I am sending healing energy to all of you and clarity to her doctors so they can find out what is going on right away. I pray they are very thorough and don't let this drop until they find out what caused it.

Good luck and get some rest soon!:thumbsup:

Let me know if you need to talk. I have some experience in this area myself.

Caitlin.ann
July 29th, 2008, 09:37 AM
:hugz:

Nitefalle
July 29th, 2008, 09:58 AM
:hugz: That is very scary - please let us know what the doctor says.

Xander67
July 29th, 2008, 10:07 AM
Good luck at the Doctor. I hope for your family's peace of mind that whatever happened can be quickly diagnosed and sorted out. :hugz:

ETA While the food itself might have been ok, the reaction you describe sounds very much like an extreme allergic shock reaction to something.

hey Laoghaire! :hugz:
I am thinking the same thing Cassie said... I hope the Dr is able to find out what happened.

I would like to mention something to you, (warning , nurse mode ahoy)
If you ever find yourself in a situation where someone is having problems breatheing, please do not put their head down... Tilt the head back as this will help maintain an open airway..

I had a similar situation with a resident at the nursing home I work in, one of the girls was helping her resident to the toliet and he just collapsed on the toliet... they asked me to help get him into bed (being he was heavy)

The nurse on the hall had called 911 and while I was waiting for one of the other aides to hurry up with the lift, I was on the side of him, trying to keep his airway open.. he would take a breath here and there and then just stop..

the paramedics came and then helped get him on the bed and on to a stretcher to transport to the ER.. he didn't make it... I was devastated because I never had anyone pass away in my arms... I have had people go, and all, but never anyone in my arms ... and reading your story really touched me because I know how I felt and I did not even know this man... I can only imagine how scared you were and then how relieved you were when she came to...

It sounds like maybe she either had an allergic reaction, or it may have been food poisning... I would keep an eye on your sister too, maybe yout mother's dish was not cooked thouroughly, or any number of reasons... May I ask what your Mom and Sis ate??

:hugz: I hope everything goes well at the DR's for your mother and Tell your Pop thank Gods he knew CPR!

Xander

DreamSpell333
July 29th, 2008, 10:26 AM
were you able to get your mom to the doctors? Let us know how she is doing. :) :hugz:

Laoghaire
July 29th, 2008, 10:52 AM
Thank you all, for your sweet replies. They really mean a lot to me... I keep pushing it all aside, until I get this thesis done. I fear the day after that, when the dam might break...

The doctor is still on holiday and we really have nowhere else to go. So we wait a bit longer, and keep a close eye on her in the mean time. She is more than okay though, although she does not like to hear us talk about what happened.

As for the food... Mum and sister ate a pasta dish. If I remember corectly it was just penne with some meat and tomatoe sauce, with grilled cheese on top. My mum hasn't got allergies that we are aware off. She has eaten similat dishes before. Food poisening is of course a possibility, but my sister did not suffer any pain. And about the wine that she drunk, all three girls drunk it.

My dad does not know CPR. My mum does... And I had a course about it once. I was ready to start doing that, but dad got her back on time. He just pushed her breast and gently slapped her in the face.
With her head... I just wanted to get her down as soon as possible. Due to circumstances, we could not lay her down immediately. I will remember it, just in case, oh, I so hope not, it will happen again.

Amilee
July 30th, 2008, 09:02 AM
:hugz:

Willow Rosette
July 30th, 2008, 09:41 AM
Laogy!!! Im so sorry you went through that! Im going to light a candle that the Dr can figure out what happened. :hugz:

Rainnhawk
August 1st, 2008, 10:28 AM
How terribly frightening... that you and your dad were awake when it happened and were able to get to her so quickly makes you two special angels. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. Hope you can get her to the doc as soon as possible. Let us know how everything goes.

:hugz:

Laoghaire
August 5th, 2008, 07:59 AM
Mum and dad finally went to the doctor last night. I saw some very serious faces when they came back, and even some tears in my mum's eyes.
Yet, I'm not allowed to know what happened there. I can fully understand why and I will not argue any further with both of them. But on the other hand, this makes meeven more worried. I just want to know... They have to go back on Thursday, so maybe I'll hear some more by then...

These last few years, dad always told me what was going on. Yes, I know an awful lot of what's going on in this household. That's okay, I know I'm the only person he can share it with. But it's a burden too... Maybe that's the reason why I'm quite annoyed that they will not say a single thing now.

It's serious though... Not on a physical level, I believe. Mum always has been a strange person, emotionally. I think that night in Germany was the final drop, when she finally collapsed. Maybe she'll go away for a while, as dad and I often suggested...

We'll see...

Willow Rosette
August 5th, 2008, 09:26 AM
Oh Honey Im sorry they arent sharing with you what the Dr said. You and your whole family are in my prayers. :hugz:

WitchOfEndor
August 5th, 2008, 10:35 AM
:hugz: Your whole family is in my prayers.