What Attracts you................

[Danustouch]

Ok, folks, let's attempt to keep this thread PG...but...what features attract you to a man/woman/partner :)

For me, I like a man with really strong hands. And shoulders. Forearms, and biceps are a plus, but those bulging biceps are really not needed. I also like strong muscular theighs on a guy. Hair is important to me. I love dark hair, which is wavy. My husbands hair is like this, too, and I love it.

The way a man smiles is important to me too. I don't like the old "Half Grin" thing, Smirking is not cool with me. I like a full absolute grin on my man :) Lips are important too. I am attracted to full bottom lips, generally a heart shaped mouth :) And dark fathomless eyes are a plus :)

And I love men who wear cologne, but, just faintly. Not as if they've taken a bath in the stuff.

I'm not into perfect manicures on men. I like men with rough, strong, workers hands. Perfect manicures are a turn off.

Oh..and thick necks. No pencil necks for me, please :)

In personality- Strength, sense of humor, intelligence, willingness to listen, alert, observational, protective, and assertiveness. I don't normally go for the shy type, at all. That's probably my down fall. LOL. I go for the assertive, vocal, strong, brave personalities, and then WONDER why the guy won't let me get a word in edgewise! LOL.

[Rævyn Cigány]

Hmm...

A good sense of humour...laughing eyes, a come-hither look. Someone that isn't afraid to display their feelings in public (PG feelings mind you!!), and someone who is willing to go to great lengths to show his affection for me.

Thank the Gods I don't have to look...I married a guy like that!!

B*B

Rae )O(

[Storm]

I am pretty versitile on looks but I like EYES. Brown eyes. Deep and expressive eyes. If they have this, even if they are not real handsome, everything else just falls into place.

[Flar's Freyja]

Typically, I've been attracted to very tall and bulky men, usually over 6 feet tall and 200 pounds or so......and beards! I watched a PBS documentary once on this topic, and it was stated that we are attracted to qualities and features in people that we associate with positive things and people from our childhood. Oddly, the only thing I can associate with the beard is Jesus and Santa Claus.....I don't remember anyone else who had a positive impact who had facial hair.

But Flar is the complete opposite of what I'm usually attracted to....he's only about 4 inches taller than me (I'm barely 5'2") and he sometimes grows a mustache but a full beard doesn't turn out right, so he's clean-shaven right now ~ which is fine because I love his face. He's slender and very muscular and that really turns me on :flamer: We actually weigh about the same......

I'm older and wiser now, and I learned to look beyond the physical and go outside of my "romantic ideal" some years ago. The most important qualities are having similar interests and values and the ability to be supportive. I also look for someone who is supportive of and generous to the other people in his life. I also look for a similar level of education. This is not based on the actual education itself as I know many people who don't have college degrees yet are as educated as anyone else........the problem that I have had with some men in the past is that they feel inferior or competitive due to their own lack of confidence and self-esteem. I look for someone who is secure enough in his own masculinity and has enough self-esteem to not feel that he has to compete with me. And, of course, a sense of humor. Flar definitely has all of these qualities :heartthro

[Nina]

Kindness, gentleness, affectionate nature, intelligence, a work-ethic, faithfulness, a gentle sense of humour, someone who is able to communicate, an open smile, expressive eyes.

Yes, there has to be a physical chemistry, but I don't have a 'type' - I've been with very strong men, tall and short, blonde and dark, full head of hair and 'follically challenged'.

My beloved is only a few inches taller than me, slim but athletic, short dark hair, but has a gentleness about him that is irresistable! Oh well, only 22 days and four hours until he's back in my arms!!! Yes, I'm counting!!!!!!!!

[Tammy Sullivan]

for me it is sense of humor....they can look like a gargoyle but if they make me happy I am a sucker for them. But..they must smell nice! NO STINK! No matter how funny.

[Old Witch]

:D Ken. :D

[Sequoia]

Tall. My darling must be taller than me. (:D) My "ideal" has always been "taller than me" (which can be a bother sometimes because I hover between 5'8" and 5'9"). . . I fell in love with a guy shorter than me, my life kinda went into a tailspin, I came out of it, and the absolute love of my life is just how I always pictured ;) taller than me, intelligent, sweet, (a little bit out there, kinda like me ;) *in the clouds*), and a little bit scruffy. I'm not sure what attracts me to the slightly scruffy. It must be the Leia in me. :D (who's scruffy lookin?)

eyes. . . sometimes, all a person has to do to me is look at me, and that'll really startle me and just catch my gaze. . . *smiles*

Something about light eyes that really startles me and keeps my gaze. Maybe because mine are so dark. (well, most of the time they're dark. . . o_o one time they were clear gray. I honest to god do not know why. Scared the crap out of me.)

hair. . . I love hair. Especially long hair. I don't really care what colour (well, except for orange-red. My brother's hair is naturally orange. That would be too weird for me. hehe I'd keep thinking of my brother!)

AAAAAAAH I just remembered!! *FREAK* Last night I dreamed my sweetheart's hair was all cut off, he had a military-style buzz-cut!!! *CRY* crap dude.

personality too hehe hair and eyes. . . mm. And the fact that I look up at those eyes. *giggles* Yes I know I'm silly.

[cherrywind]

Humour, definately. I like people who are very affectionate as well.

I also look at the nose. I don't know what it is, but I really like noses. I like a strong nose, but not huge, and not too small. And height, I like tall people. Over 5' 11" or nothing for me ;).

[Mithrea]

I like tall, skinny men :D But more than anything, I like a man that can out-think me. Unfortunately, I rarely find that. I get bored easily :T

For example, the man I'm thinking about right now has dark hair and eyes (though I typically prefer blondes). He is a few inches taller than me and thin. He makes me laugh, but more than anything he can think circles around me and knows more about everything I'm interested in than I do myself. . . *sigh*

[Azure]

Almost always tall, for some reason - I don't think I've gone out with anyone under 5'10" since high school. This is a little odd, since I am only 5'2" like Freyja. My boyfriend is about 6'1."

I used to really only go for blonde surfer types, but I've expanded my horizons, so to speak. The above mentioned boyfriend is everything I could want physically, and he is thin but muscular, very dark haired, and has beautiful deep brown eyes flecked with leaf green. Not what I've traditionally dated, but looking at him pretty much takes my breath away every time. He looks like one of the beautiful boys painted by Botticelli, or one of the Pre-Raphaelite painters (Waterhouse's Adonis comes to mind). *sigh*

But - he won my with his intellect and conversation - he's incredibly smart, has a silly sense of humor that I love, and is educated and well read. Call me a snob, but that's really important to me.

He is also possessed of great kindness, empathy, and a strong will. He is artistic, sometimes temperamental, and always has a thoughtful way of looking at things.

He is really, really sensual, which is very important to me. I do not like guys who treat the physical side of a relationship as mechanical.

So pretty much, he was the list of what I wanted that I didn't know I had until we started really talking.

Just as a side note - who ever said "good personal hygiene" above - that's an absolute on my list. I won't even look twice otherwise.

[Altheia]

My SO, John, is everything that I have ever wanted in a partner...he's taller than I am 6'3"...(I stand at 5'9") He is gorgeous to boot...green eyes, light brown hair, and a gorgeous, makes-me-melt-at-the-sight-of-it smile. He's a very very intelligent man...It's almost like we have had a three year conversation...hardly ever touching on the same subject more than once. I can argue...he prefers to call it debating...with him and not get pissed off, like I often do with other guys. He pampers me every chance he gets. He's very thoughtful and kind. He's a great kisser....wonderful best friend and lover. He's constantly making me laugh. He's a very gentle person...never rude or mean or angry with me...he's a very patient man. We share a lot of smiliar interests...he and I would both rather be outside somewhere doing something outdoorsy rather than being inside in front of the television or in a shopping mall. He can cook (because I burn water) He loves to hear me sing,and watch me dance and act...he's always being supportive of what I want to do. He has never made me feel inferior or less intelligent than he is. He's my match. There is no way around it.

[StarryDancer]

Tall, yes. But what wins me is a really good voice!! The only guys in my life that I ever absolutely melted over either sang to me or with me -- or else had a wonderful, melodic speaking voice!

And the eyes -- but it's not how the eyes look, or the color. It's how directly and deeply the guy looks at me that wins me over.

[Azure]

I forgot something important - dancing. By which I mostly mean will get out on the floor in a club or something. He doesn't have to be brilliant as Fred Astaire, just have a basic sense of rhythm.

I find this tells you a lot about how comfortable someone is with his or her body and something about (*is looking for polite way to put it*) - how things will work out physically between you.

The worst relationships I've had were with guys who insisted they didn't dance - ever. Even at weddings, they wouldn't drag themselves out on the floor with me, and I ended up having a great time with someone else.

[Altheia]

oh yes....i totally agree starry

[Phoenix Blue]

Quoth Puma Hime:
AAAAAAAH I just remembered!! *FREAK* Last night I dreamed my sweetheart's hair was all cut off, he had a military-style buzz-cut!!! *CRY* crap dude.
:eyebrow: Not that there's anything wrong with military-style buzz-cuts, of course. ;)

Anyway. . . what attracts me to my Love is. . .

* Her voice.
* Her hands. . . very gentle, yet just worn and strong enough to let me know she's not afraid of getting those hands dirty.
* Her eyes. . . **wistful smile** very expressive and very deep.
* Her mind - I can't have a relationship with someone who's not on my intellectual level. :) Wanderer is a woman I can grow with.

Umm, I could go on, but I do wanna keep this PG. :bigredgri

[Chibi-Fallon]

Dark hair, I just don't like blonde guys, as friends fine, but I just can't date a guy with blonde hair for some reason. Most of the time I go for the scrawny guys with messy hair and light eyes (or really dark, but none of that in the middle stuff). My boyfriend right now plays on the football team so he doesn’t quite fit the whole scrawny bit, but he has dark messy hair and blue eyes. *drool* I go for tall guys to, at least 5 inches taller then me (not that it's hard as I'm 5 foot).
And I love that stupid kind of smart, where yes they take advanced classes, but they still can’t walk and chew gum and the same time. :D

[WtchyChick13]

Brown hair, blue eyes, IRISH and over 5"7'. http://www.smilies.org/basesmilies/rire.gif

[Sequoia]

Originally posted by Phoenix_Blue

:eyebrow: Not that there's anything wrong with military-style buzz-cuts, of course. ;)


aah! Of course not! Just. . . :wah: he has beautiful hair. He got it cut shortly after I met him and I could have cried.

Intelligence and personality are very important!! More important than looks, really. I like someone who can. . . ah, how do I put it. . . dance with words like I do sometimes. Who will play word games in such a way that in a disucussion, we can be talking on multitudes of levels. . . it's so fun :D I love it. Someone who shares similar beliefs with me, but who also has some different views. Who is in "my universe" so to speak. . . ;) in other words, sees it similarly enough to the way I do, that way we can relate. . . *winks*

I like to play chess with my sweetie. It's attractive when we stalemate, or get to that point where it's like king vs king *chuckles*

I like it when he's thoughtful. . . For example, my sweetheart spent hours combing his mother's gardens picking flowers for me, and brought them, a beautiful bouquet.

Someone who isn't afraid of a little side-adventure :D like going to the redwoods, then hiking off-trail a bit. . . or the same at the beach (and almost falling down a cliff! it was wonderful! We both had such a great time! and OMG I saw REAL SEAFOAM!! IT WAS SO COOL)

. . . alright, I admit it. Someone who's as insane as I am.

[Psyche Ague]

Hm. I used to think I had a type, but as soon as I've ever said what it was, someone would come along and completely destroy it.

That said, I usually like tall, dark, deep, sensitive men. But I've been known to fall for short, light, deep, sensitive men. But whatever they look like physically, they have to have some basic characteristics: intelligence (I don't even mean "can get by in everyday conversation." I mean they have to be so smart I'm blown away. Well-read, enjoys philosophical conversations, isn't afraid to express his opinion, isn't afraid to argue with me, listens when I speak, is well-rounded, etc...), personality ("duh" just doesn't do it for me. I tend to like outgoing guys who are funny and tend to steal the spotlight. But at the same time, they can be reserved and share the spotlight - especially with me! Weird and funny are musts and interesting a definite), and sensuality (because I am the most incredibly sensual person in the world. Well, maybe not, but I am the quintessential Water in that respect. I love to touch and be touched. Mechanical, as Azure said, is not appealing. To me, a good lover is sensual).

Miscellaneous necessities:
A good dancer is a great thing to be (better lover, etc, etc). Looks are definitely a plus (call me conceited, but I'd like to be physically attracted to my lover, thankyouverymuch. It's definitely important. They don't have to be a model, just appealing). Someone who's adventurous. Sensitive. Girly (*shrugs* so sue me...I like girly guys). He can't like sports (ugh...except for cool ones like soccer). He has to be able to cry. Someone spontaneous. Someone thoughtful. Hands, eyes, face, body, hygiene, teeth, smile, lips, tongue...everything has to be up to par. He can't be a complete slob (to balance me...who IS!). Shared musical interests are a must. Culture. The same (or similar) beliefs/religion would be great.

And, like Puma said, someone who's absolutely NUTS!

[MzNeko]

Originally posted by WtchyChick13
Brown hair, blue eyes, IRISH and over 5"7'. http://www.smilies.org/basesmilies/rire.gif

Heh, I've got that and you can't have him! :p

He also has broad shoulders, a great smile and (to me) an incredibly sexy nose. For the most accurate picture, put about an extra fifty to seventy-five pounds on the crazy Irishman, Steven, in the movie Braveheart (but my darlin's got better teeth, thankfully). Though as far as being over 5'7" goes, he's only about 5'8" or 5'9" - I can pretty much look him right in the eye.

It's funny, I've actually been attracted to a number of men in my life that were very different from each other. I like tall and broad shouldered, but I've loved a man who was half a head shorter and at least a good fifty pounds lighter than me. I like dark hair and a scholarly look (glasses), but I once had the hugest crush on a blond sun-bronzed surfer-looking guy. I like (some) movie-star looks, but once lost all good judgement over a guy that most resembled Danny Devito. I like a nice musculature, but was once in very involved with a beanpole kinda guy (6'4" and scrawny). I like guys who are fit, but my main squeeze is more on the "cuddly" side (of course, so am I).

I think the big attractants for me are a sense of humor and intelligence. That's actually about all I think any of those guys have in common. :D

Also, there's an odd phenomenon that I've noticed over and over again in my life, maybe some of you have noticed it, too - the more I like someone, the better looking they get!

Of course, the opposite is also true... I've met a few technically attractive people with ugly personalities. Doesn't do much for me.

[SpikesPet5150]

Up until like... 2 years ago, I'd have said...

I will ONLY date long haired hot musicians.

And while I still have a weakness for those guys, my new weakness is tall, skinny, goth boys. There's just something about a guy in eyeliner that gets to me. :) I still prefer guys with long hair.

As far as personalities go, I must have a guy with a sense of humor. They have to love music. Whether it's the same kind of music I love, or not... they *have* to love music. I also prefer them to be non-violent, unless the situation calls for it. I hate guys who fight simply to prove themselves. I like guys with a little bit of sensitivity. And I love a guy who is hard working. Soft hands on a guy is just weird. And I don't like muscles. Tone is nice, but big muscles just gross me out. :) Chicks dig pale skinny guys. ;)
~Bree

[Yvonne Belisle]

My hubbie is a very intelligent man who is pale and skinny lol with a beautiful set of sparkling green eyes.

[Flaire-FireStar]

Originally posted by Old Witch
:D Ken. :D

Darn that plastic man? *dodges another smack*


Physically.. dark eyes/dark hair and taller than I am. Usually the outdoorsy-type. :eyebrow:

Other than that...um... Really outgoing and unpredictable. And most of all.. They gotta be able to get along with ME! :devil:

[)O( ~ Khara~ )O(]

I'm a real sucker for a great smile and a sense of humor to go with it. There also has to be a good laugh. I cannot handle it when someone laughs really loud or fake to draw attention to themselves.

[WtchyChick13]

Heh, I've got that and you can't have him!

Give Him Back! :eek:

[Armitage]

I like skinny-muscular guys, like martial artists and swimmers. Not big, but tall. I'm little, so if they're too heavily built I'd feel like I was being crushed when hugged. Slim is graceful. And dark hair is good. A sharp mind is better; can't stand guys who are morons. And I like funny and goofy, but not too Tom Green-like. Glasses are kinda cute. ^_^

[Rubi Waters]

Physical attration is all about the eyes & smile. Height doesn't matter (I'm 5'3)
other than that humor, intelligence, compassion.
my guy has all that except slightly lacking in the compassion dept. I'm working on that part. :)

[Jeleia]

eyes... my boyfriend, Chris has beautiful baby blue eyes. Hes also got a great smile and a good sense of humor, which I also find attractive.

And I love little glasses on men...

[Amemphis]

Ooo... Guys in eyeliner. I tend to fall for tall scawnry dark haired goth boys. But reallys its more about personality when I feel more than infatuation. My boy-o is the exact opposite. Only about four inches taller than me (5'2), blonde, khaki wearing(not by choice). But he's awesome.

[Emerald Oak]

LOL, it sounds like I'm perfect for some of you ladies ;):heartthro

Personality - She has to be intelligent, atleast enough to philosphize with me. Outgoingness (is that a word?) is a definate plus, as is assertiveness--I like a girl that hugs tight and never lets go of my hand unless she needs to ;)

Physicalities - Not TOO important... As long as she has an okay body and a pretty face (NOT covered in make-up!!!), I'm all there.

MORE Personality - She CANNOT be vain, she CANNOT be self-involved, and she CANNOT be controlling. In other words, no preps :D


Also, a little sidenote (I sure do this often, huh? :)): I've had psuedo-consience dreams about this one girl in particular... I dunno whether or not she actually exists on the physical plane, but here goes:

She's got long, black, braided hair.
She wears only black, mostly silky dresses.
She has pale skin.
She's about my height.
Her personality is everything I described above and then some.

Oh well, now that that's out in the open, let's have a BIG AMERICAN PARTY, JAPANESE STYLE!!! :D;):devil:

[Wyrdsister]

Physical traits: nothing in particular. It's all about what someone does with what they've got. :bigredgri

Personality: great sense of humour is a MUST. No sense of humour, no attraction. Must have something that they're passionate about, doesn't really matter what. It just shows that they are capable of feeling passion. (Trying to keep it PG-rated ;) )

Fun thread!

Wyrdsister

[kobrina]

accents! I have a thing for accents - I find one of the first things I notie about a guy is his voice.
Aside from that it is important that he accepts me and all my weridness...

[Faery-Wings]

There is something about a guy with long hair. *sigh*

Definitely dated many of the metal head/musician type in HS and college. However, I found that many of them were not likely to grow up or make a committment. I was incredibly lucky to find my hubby. He has long hair, tattoos, plays guitar, and *totally* committed to me. :D He has the exterior of a bad boy yet the heart of the sweetest guy around. (Just don't tell him that *giggle*)

He also has the greatest smile and a wacky sense of humor, that matches mine. He might be a tough guy around others but he is a fun goofball around me and the kids. They think Dad is nuts. :rolleyes: :p

One last thing-- he makes me feel good about myself. My best friend told me that after 10 years of marriage, her husband never tells her she is beautiful. I hear that usually every day (not that I believe him, but I believe he feels that way and that is what matters.:)) And he never holds me back, he always tells me to go for it. Not that this is something that attracted me in the first place, but what kept me sticking around.

[MzNeko]

Originally posted by WtchyChick13


Give Him Back! :eek:

Nope. :D




Besides, I doubt that I have yours, unless of course you've misplaced him for the last six or seven years. :p

[Semele]

Well, I guess this:

[Semele]

Whoa...that's a big picture!!! Oh well, he deserves it!

I used to be totally in love with a long haired guitar playing sex machine...and then... he cut his hair and turned into a short haired guitar playing...computer geek!! But I still love him more than ever for so many reasons I couldn't begin to list them. Tomorrow marks our 8th anniversary...maybe I can think of a list by then!!;)

[Faery-Wings]

Happy Anniversary!!!
:heartthro :heartthro :heartthro :heartthro :heartthro :heartthro

[Old Witch]

:eek: Those red eyes scare me..........gonna run to the altar thread and put a Playstation on it!!!!!!!!!!!:eek:

[Nina]

Woah!!! Red-eye!!!! That's a real "Don't even think about taking that picture" face!!

Happy Anniversary Mol and Semele!!!! 8 Years - well done!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Emerald Oak]

Originally posted by Semele
Well, I guess this: (Piccy)

I like his hair :) But, what's up with that shirt?! LOL

[Nina]

I was FAR too polite to mention it...

... but now you have...

...WHERE did you get that shirt, and how much did you get for wearing it, Mol?

[Kahlan]

Lets see I find, long hair, facial hair, tall, and I guess Latin men attrative. The only reason I know this is because I am marring a guy who looks just like that.

[Semele]

Originally posted by Nina
I was FAR too polite to mention it...

... but now you have...

...WHERE did you get that shirt, and how much did you get for wearing it, Mol?

Ahhhh come on now, don't make fun of him!! At least he isn't wearing one that says, "no I will not fix your computer."

[MammaStar]

Here's my contribution to the thread

[MammaStar]

Mine had long hair, before I met him tho'. He's my nature lovin' park ranger gaming geek. I loves him lots.

and to my FAVORITE Site God & Goddess

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :heartthro :heartthro :heartthro

[Flaire-FireStar]

Happy Anniversary, Mol & Semele!




Hail Mol, bless Mol!
Hail Semele, bless Semele!

:D

[Semele]

Originally posted by LdyStarlite
Mine had long hair, before I met him tho'. He's my nature lovin' park ranger gaming geek. I loves him lots.

and to my FAVORITE Site God & Goddess

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :heartthro :heartthro :heartthro

Thankies!!


I can totally picture him with long hair!!!

[Danustouch]

Happy Anniversary!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[mol]

Originally posted by Emerald Oak


I like his hair :) But, what's up with that shirt?! LOL

They pay me to wear that shirt.

Lots.

:p

[Old Witch]

Happy Anniversary you two!!!!!

[Flar's Freyja]

Happy Anniversary, Site Lord and Lady :loveduv:

Um, if anyone ever would have told me that I would ever find this attractive, I'd have said :eek:

[shnen]

LOL! Flar, you will never live that down! :lol:

what I find attractive... I guess someone who is motivated, has a passion for life, but still has a sense of responsability, eyes and butt are my two *drools*, and someone who can keep me on my.... toes... ;) honestly, I was gonna say toes!

nah, but in all seriousness they have to have humour, and compassion... yet have a spine.

[Flar's Freyja]

Originally posted by shnen
LOL! Flar, you will never live that down! :lol:


nah, but in all seriousness they have to have humour, and compassion... yet have a spine.

And any man who would allow something like this to be posted without threats of great bodily harm has all of these qualities, and is VERY secure in his masculinity :hearteyes

[Grey]

and by that I mean girls whose feature al come together no big chest or something!

any color hair aslong as it goes with their face. Red hair especially but still. And on asians black hair.
Short and blocky, tall and thin-normal, short-petite. IVe got no problem (actually I prefer) a gall whos "pleasantly plump" but when I say that most people seem to think Im saying fat which is completely different

Shes gotta be strong willed even ready to beat me up on occaission :loveduv: especially in smaller galls. And if they want to do much romanticly like "mushy" stuff theyll need to be aggressive. atleast average intelligence. Likes nights. not going to expect me to change totally by her whim even though I'll adjust my self to her tastes

[WandererInGray]

*impish grin* A guy who's not afraid to hold a Teddy Bear....

[Emerald Oak]

I've got a things for goths and Orientals :D:hearteyes

[Flaire-FireStar]

*dodging smacks here*
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[Flar's Freyja]

Okay, Flaire, who is he?

Talk about dark and handsome......

[Flaire-FireStar]

http://216.40.241.68/otn/love/icon_smile_blush.gif

Me other half & bestest buddy.

[Semele]

Wow Flaire!!

How long were you planning to keep him to yourself...greedy lil pyro!!!

[Witchy Cowgirl]

Dark hair, dark eyes, dark complexions!
Someone who's FUN in more ways than one.
The typical "cowboy" type.
When I first meet Hubby he had longer hair and I loved the way he wore his Wranglers!;) And his bow legs.
Stong hands.

Hubby still wears his Wranglers well and still fits the typical "cowboy" type. He's my best friend. Sis-in-Law always says that we "fit" together and she hopes that she and her SO match like me and mine do. (She got married last Nov. and they do match.

But here's me and my best friend.

[Illuminatus]

My perfect man has a nice smile, cute figure, nice big boobs and oh yeah, he's a GIRL. A real one, with the appropriate corresponding chromosomes. Danus we all don't like men :)

[Azure]

Well, it is nice to know so very many of us qualify to be Ill's perfect guy *grins*

Okay, back to actual guys, the women on this board clearly have good taste. . . there are some cuties in these pictures.

[Flaire-FireStar]

Originally posted by Semele
Wow Flaire!!

How long were you planning to keep him to yourself...greedy lil pyro!!!

:loveduv:

[Flar's Freyja]

Check your PM box, Lil Sis......;)

[Flaire-FireStar]

<-------- shouldn'ta said a thing. :nyah:

[Flar's Freyja]

*peers down glasses, writes in chart*

"Denies that she's just dying to tell everyone about her new........"

[Flaire-FireStar]

"Denies that she's just dying to tell everyone

:p Dying...yes.... *hops around the room* Come on, buddy.come online...You know you want to! :T

[Flar's Freyja]

Hehehehe......

[Flaire-FireStar]

I's happy now... http://216.40.241.68/otn/love/mushy.gif

[Raindancer]

What am I attracted to? When I first looked at this, I thought that it was a pretty easy question, but actually its complex. I've always had this fantasy of findong someone with reddish gold hair, pretty face and smilewith freckles, round curves generous body but not fat, just built for comfort rather than speed. I think of people who are lean and skinny as having selfish bodies. Green eyes like living emeralds, with an inner depth and a loving warmth inside. About medium height maybe slightly above average height.

Someone who loves to touch and be touched, sensuous, and not afraid to make the first move. Intelligent, curious, thinks about the most unlikely things now and again just because she has the imagination and turn of mind to consider things most people never think about. Someone who likes to talk, and listen, or just be quiet and cuddle up under a blanket on a cold night.
Someone who dreams and sometimes flies in those dreams, someone to share dreams with..

Someone who is not afraid to be strong sometimes and let me be strong. Someone to take me as I am not what they think they can make me. Someone who will trust me with who she is. Someone who can be gentle, who can laugh even when it hurts, Someone I can be on a wavelength with, connect with, trust, cry with, stand on top of a mountain with and embrace the sky with, stand there and shout, sing whisper. Pretty hard to find though.

In real life, I've been attracted to and loved ladies from different races, and physical appearnce than that fantasy. Beautiful and attractive women come in many descriptions. The thing is, that some times I meet someone special, and it just clicks. There is chemistry. She could be small, tall, black white, yellow, brown, whatever, and POW!!!

I don't think its a physical thing so much, though it would be a lie to say that its completely irrelevant, but thats just the bait. What makes me want to stay and get to know her better is whats inside. That meeting of the minds, sharing a quirky sense of the world, feeling comfortable together, meeting on a wavelength, an understanding.

Last week, I met a Maori lady and we had a long chat while our kids played. She doesn't look anything like the fantasy, though she does have a nice butt :-) and she has a partner, but there was some kind of chemistry that I could feel and it really felt comfortable. I haven't been able to get her out of my mind all week, though I am pretty sure its not going to go anywhere. So as I thought about this reading the growing list of messages people have posted on this, I realized that its really not that simple for me at all. Its not just a nice butt, big boobs and blonde hair, she only has one out of three, but its a complex mix of things, some of it too subtle to put your finger on, but when it happens, you know it, and the world becomes a different place to live..
Blessings
Raindancer

[Yvonne Belisle]

This is m sweetie

[Amethyst Rose]

This is a good thread :)

My ideal guy is creative, talented, smart and able to hold his own in a philosophical discussion. I usually go for guys who have some sort of creative talent, being writing, drawing, or musical talent, and for some reason I'm big on computer geeks. :)
He has to appreciate me for who I am...you know, the little things, and not be afraid of emotions. He needs to keep me interested, (through humor, hot discussions/debates, and new experiences) because I get bored really easily.
Looks...he has to be taller than me, close to 6 feet (I'm 5'8"), and not skinny. I like a guy with some substance to him...wide shoulders and nice arms are very sexy, I think. I'm a big eye person...expressive...I want to see the person inside when I look in his eyes.
Unfortunately I don't have any good pictures of my honey, who is all of this and more, at least, not on the computer :(

[Gwion]

Rich she shall be, that's certain; wise,
or I'll none; virtuous, or I'll never cheapen her;
fair, or I'll never look on her; mild, or come not
near me; noble, or not I for an angel; of good
discourse, an excellent musician, and her hair shall
be of what colour it please God.
Benedick, MUCH ADO ABOUT NOTHING, II, iii

And a body like Julie Newmar!

[Sky_Flirty_Girl]

Hi all,

I love long hair on men! I don't have a list of things I'm attracted to. It's more of a connection thing for me.

I have been with Nuada for over 4 year now. He has long hair, but it's going to be cut at some point as it's thinning pretty bad.
I'll show you a picture of him anyway

[Élistariel]

I don't know if I have a 'type' or not. Seeing as how I'm 19, and have never dated. I'm kinda weird, if I see someone I find attractive, I can't look at him. I get all, I dunno, funny faced. Either way, he'd have to have a clear complexion, no zits, eww. I'm not too fond of red heads either. Not really into facial hair, I'm 19! Oh and no stink, or greasy hair. That's just gross. That's all I have for now. Oh just for refernce, I never thought Leonardo DiCaprio was cute, don't like Justin Timberlake either. (appearance)

[Jax]

I love a 'grungy' look, and especially men with long, dark hair! ;) (in fact, colour doesn't really matter!LOL!!) I love a bloke who can make me laugh too!:D And someone who makes me feel at ease and who appreciates me for who I am, not what I am! I'm not really attracted to 'shallow' ppl, but one's who are constantly asking questions and who revel in life! I'm sure I can think of other attributes, but I have to go and dish up the sunday roast!LOL!!:rolleyes: BB!!

[Jax]

I love long hair on men!

Me too! Me too!!:nonono: :nonono: :nonono:

[Flar's Freyja]

I love long hair on men!

Me three, me three! My sweetheart's growing his out and it's at a difficult stage. It is the most gorgeous blond color, especially when the light shines on it.

Looks aside, it's still his sweet spirit and sense of humor that keep me hooked :loveduv:

[Gwion]

a woman that I can sweep off her feet and carry in my arms to my secret lair d'amour. The ability to recite Shakespeare from memory and beat me running are also big pluses.

[st0rm]

I've always been attracted to dancers, especialy ballet dacers.

[Kaylara]

Long hair, nice eyes, and bigger than me.

[Flaire-FireStar]

We'll see how much I like his long hair..... :loveduv: (Hey... I like it short too. :bigredgri)

[JACKIE]

dominance and security.

[Azure]

Too bad I'm so taken, Gwion - I run fast and have an endless supply of Shakespeare monologues in my head :)

[Gwion]

I pray you, do not fall in love with me,
for I am falser than vows made in wine.
Rosalind, AS YOU LIKE IT, III, v

[Sid]

Looks dont matter to me in woman, I try to focus on personality completely. She needs to be almost completely different from me in everyway, so shes almost like my second opinion that i can trust with everything. Her religion doesnt have to be defined, I dont care what she believes in as long as she doesnt care what i believe in, but she doesnt need to avoid it in conversations. She also needs to ask how my day was... I think that is one of the most brightening things, when someone cares about what you did when your not with her, but im not talking about a girl thats curious because shes jealous of your time, she just... cares.

[SpikesPet5150]

Good point Sid. I hate it when my significant other is jealous and/or paranoid. A nice "How was your day?" is a big difference from a paranoid, "What did you do? Who were you with? What happened?" So I guess I look for that too... someone who is genuinely interested in your life, and understands that I need to have my own life aside from him. Thats what I want.
~Bree

[Silver_Alhena]

Physically: Taller than me (I'm 5'7" and 5'10/11" in heels). A nice chest - for some reason a well defined, toned chest really does it for me, but I don't like 'muscle men' or bodybuilder types. Not overweight, well groomed, good skin.

Personality: Intelligence is the first and foremost thing I look for! I wouldn't even concider dating a 'ned' and it is something I assess within the first few minutes of meeting someone. They must have something up top, and bonus points if they appreciate literature, poetry, philosphy and art.
A guy needs to be self-confident, mentally stable and secure in themselves - I walk over guys I concider to be weak-willed or not self-confident enough to challenge me, or debate with me as an equal. However 'false arrogance' - people who think they are so great without anything to back that up - really turns me off.
A guy has to make an effort with my friends and family - I don't expect him to like everyone I do, or to love my family, but I do expect civility.
Sociable, independant, confident, quick-witted. Fit, healthy and active. Loves reading, cinema and theatre. Financially secure (I don't mean 'rich' :) but like myself, they should be earning enough to cover their bills, a roof over their heads, and have enough left over to enjoy life)
Faithful, honest, trustworthy.

Turn offs: Chauvinists. Messy eaters. Non-washers. Guys who will not 'better' themselves, learn new skills, or try to aquire new knowledge and interests. Guys who are cruel, or humiliate people to make themselves feel/look better. Bullies. Drug addicts. Heavy drinkers. Overbearing/domineering/fisty types. Guys who expect you to be like their mum and do their housework and cooking. Clingy, smothering personalities. Sex pests/gropers. Couch potatoes, extreme cynics, guys who sneer/have a nasty comment at/for everything.

Not important: Glasses, scars (hey, we all have them!), hair/eye colour, hair length, skin colour, music preferences, (except club music, R&B and really cheesy manufactured crap) Religion, as long as it could be worked around - I believe a partnership should be equal, therefore I disagree that one person should give up their own beliefs and religion and absorb themselves into the other's. Who is that fooling anyway? :)

There! I THINK I've covered it! Crikey, once I started, I couldn't stop! As you can probably guess I'm very picky, but life's too short to waste a minute of it with someone you can't stand, or have nothing in common with.

[Sowelu]

I definately have a thing for strong hands!!!! I don't like feminish hands on a man......personality is always number one of course! Outgoing....HONEST....passionate....spur-of-the-moment type o' guy.....:p

[Grey_Bear]

welllll- i guess the one thing i look for is someone who will be honest an truthfull, an not hurt my trust, because i wear my felling close to my heart plus she must be clean i can.t stand dirty people.

[Gwion]

Maybe it's a Virgo thing, but am attracted on a very visceral level by a woman's breath and her natural scent. I like some perfumes, but too much or too cloying is a turnoff.

[Saphra]

I want someone who is a little taller than me, but I don't have to get a stiff neck looking at him..... their eyes can be any color but expressive, ya know, you know what they are thinking before they speak, any color hair, any length, doesn't matter, I like a goatee, but it's not like really important, muscular, but not overtly.
Personality wise, I love the funny one's, guys that can make me laugh are wonderful.....as long as they arn't to immature.
A guy that wouldn't mind wearing tights fore me, as in, Old English style wear, seeing as how I am a member of the SCA (don't ask me what the letters mean cuz I can't think of them right now) and get all dressed up and spend a weekend camping, and spending time with my "Family" House Circle Wolf....
They have to love music, and going with me to see my uncle's band play, that is if they ever get another gig....(~note to self, ask earthcat when her hubby's playing again~)
Now that I'm thinking about it, I'm more picky than I thought.....