Bottling up my Anger

[Emerald Oak]

It seems every time I'm in a horrible mood, I either chew out my pets for miniscule things (which are often my fault), then suddenly switch into "Pagan Mode," apologize, and hang with them. I go from pissed to calm in a matter of moments.

I'm just wondering, am I bottling up my anger? Or is this really healthy?

[Azure]

No, you're releasing it - you just maybe shouldn't be releasing it at your pets.

You need some personal stress reduction techniques. For me, those usually involve physical exercise, if at all possible - there's nothing that walking forseveral miles won't help.

I don't know what you need to do for yourself, but you need to find a more constructive way of releasing your stress. Good luck.

[Emerald Oak]

I'm not talking about the whole chewing my pets out thing, I'm talking about how I'm suddenly calm when just a few moments ago I was about ready to explode.

I mean, I couldn't possibly let out that much anger just by yelling at my dog for pooping on the floor, can I?

I really think something is happening to my anger other than releasing it during that instant between my two moods.

[Azure]

I don't know you on a day to day basis, but I suppose it is possible that you could use that as a release.

Maybe there isn't as much anger held in as you think?

Or maybe it just isn't your nature to hold on to all the nasty stuff, in which case you're really lucky.

Or maybe, in the process of yelling a bit at the dog or cat, you manage to psychically dispel all the rest.

The question is, do you feel that the anger is gone when You calm down, like a Zen thing, or do you feel it's still there, just contained but ready to burst out again at any minute. The answer to that question will probably then suggest what you need to do to deal with it all.

[Emerald Oak]

Well, it certainly feels like it's all gone, but there's still that thing about how suddenly it happens. I mean, I switch moods in less than a second. My friend said it might be mood swings, but it seems a little sudden to be mood swings (as dumb as that sounds). I've been bouting mood swings for years now, and it's never been like this.

This has been going on for a couple of months, BTW.

[Tiana_Ecarias]

Hmmm..... Out of curiosity, what else has been going on around you? Like anything interesting(good or bad), stuff at home(same thing)......

Tiana_Ecarias

[Emerald Oak]

Well, I think I may be cursed. EVERYTHING'S been going wrong. I'm not talking about a few minor things, I mean major things that make it seem like I pissed off a Witch Doctor or something. In the past week, the tech school I was gonna go to rose their tuition to a way too high level (putting my dreams on hold AGAIN), I flooded the house (all I did was stick my whites in the laundry, and boom!), and I'm covered in ant bites which hinder me from doing quite a bit... Like going two seconds without having an itch bout.

Gee, ya think that could have something to do with it? :ahhhh:

[Tiana_Ecarias]

*half smiles* That might have a small part in it, and perhaps something frowned at you so that you'll have problems for a while...

I'll light a candle in hopes it'll help, and perhaps, with a little bit of work, it will.

Tiana_Ecarias

[Emerald Oak]

Thanks, I'll keep you and your candle in mind. After all, magic, even simple magic like that (even if you don't consider it magic), doesn't work if you don't believe it will.

If I had the cash, I'd cast a spell... But it may be dangerous, since I've never done it before.

Plus, my ant bites would break my concentration in half a heart beat. *Scratches*

[athena_xoxo]

i have a very bad habit of bottling up my emotions, especially my anger...in the past, when i've bottled up my anger and i just exploded...bad things happened...mainly directed at people...i didn't mean for it to happen but it did...i had this lady tell me once that i underestimate myself and how strong i really am...so when i bottle up my anger and it just builds up then i won't be able to control myself...so she told me to find something to calm myself whenever i get upset...i found that meditation helps me a lot or chanting...you might want to try that...it's helped me a lot...:D

[Emerald Oak]

I recently discovered that those ant bites are actually poison ivy... Doh!!

Atleast now I know why they weren't healing...

*Avoids scratching... Avoids it avoids it avoids it... Ack, this sucks!*

[StarryDancer]

Sounds like your skin is reflecting your emotional state right now, Emerald. I agree that meditation might offer you some short-term relief. For long-term relief, start working on your "Plan B", of what you want to do with your life if you can't get to the school of your dreams...

[Pan]

I, too, have a problem about bottling up anger. I don't blow up at people, and I *surely* don't release it. I just shove it inside where it won't hurt anyone but me.

I don't know how to get rid of it. I've even tried a stress-release ritual that involved stomping cornmeal into the rug by dancing on it... but I couldn't let it go.

When I tried to get rid of the bottle inside.. it was like I was getting rid of a part of myself. Like I was slicing off my arm or something.

I just couldn't do it.

What can I do?

[Emerald Oak]

(Call me Oak... Calling me "Emerald" may give people the impression that I'm a woman, which could cause confusion ;))

Loki: Everyone's right that releasing your anger is the best way to do things--You're not losing a part of yourself, the bottle is still there, it's just on reserve for when you need it. If it were gone, we'd all be in big trouble :nyah: I think that explains how some people wear their emotions on their sleeve; No bottle.

[Azure]

Okay, Oak boy.

I don't honestly believe in curses. I will tell you that the past 12 months have been the most horrible of my life - I've lost both my grandmothers, dealt with my father's cancer, my mother broke her arm and was an invalid forever, my dog was killed in a freak accident, my career got way side tracked - all sorts of horrible things, all grouped together.

Things honestly couldn't have been worse. However - in the course of it all, an acquaintance became a dear friend, became the love of my life, all unexpectedly and I now have serious plans to change nearly everything. It's like a rose bush growing out of an ash heap.

Everything will not suck eternally unless you let it.

meditate by all means.

If you do spells, then do simple spells for self love and growth and change.

And know that the Universe has a plan for you. And out of the worst sometimes the best comes. Which doesn't mean you won't have times that you hurt and are miserable, but that there are other possibilities out there.

[SpikesPet5150]

Reminds me of my old boss. She would explode at all of us one minute, and then the next, be crying and apologizing. Honestly, one minute. It was scary to see. Turns out she was bi-polar and she's taking medication for it now.
~Bree

[Emerald Oak]

Bi-polar? Yikes, that's scary... Maybe I'm bi-polar? Ack! Maybe I'm a hypochondriac! I must be dying!! AAAAAAAHHHHHH!!!


Azure: My first and only teacher left me with this: A teacher isn't one person you can learn from, it's the world. Everyone and anyone can be your teacher, as long as you learn from them.

You've been a great teacher by far ;)

[Tiana_Ecarias]

To Oak: Well, the phrase a friend always said, "Shit happens, and shit grows roses, no shit, no roses."

So, perhaps things will get better, I believe they will, and hope for the best for you.

To Loki: I can understand about not wanting to let anger go, or not being able to. I took up hockey and kick boxing, it helped alot. *half grin* I took up the kick boxing more, since I already p[layed hockey. Also started learning fencing, sometimes the physical exertion helps, but it doesn't harm any one, ya know?

Hope this helps a little

Tiana_Ecarias