I'm so lost here

[Invidosa]

I don't know what to do guys. I can't keep going through this emotional roller coaster every day. I just keep obsessing about the ex. I don't quite understand it and it is really triggering me hard right now. Anxiety, bad things that I don't quite want to give voice to yet, paranoia, i stop believing what is happening, the thoughts in my head. I really need a hug

[Shawn Cameron]

*hug* breath deep, there are people here for you. if you ever need to get specifics off of your chest you know there are people here (including myself) whom you can PM without fear or hesitation.

*hugges again because everyone could use a few more huggles*

[Crystal Willowtree]

:hugz: and more :hugz:

[Corvus]

Try getting some exercise. Invite some friends over, or go visit. Can you take a couple days off and get out of town for a bit? Maybe talk to someone you haven't spoken with in a long time. Breaking a self-feeding thought cycle can be really rough, I know (a little too well, really). You have my support.

[windblown]

Invidosa...where are you...I am floating through the deep black space too...with nothing to hold onto, no where to go...and it's just me and my head...and my thoughts that try to suck me into the sinking sand of anxiety/depression...all I know is that it won't last forever... IT WILL GET BETTER...just know there's another person out there drifting in the abyss waving to you now...cuz I really need a friend too!

Hang in there!

[Invidosa]

Thanks all for your support, doing much better today (it's a cycle, round and round you know?) got lots of sleep last night and i'm on firmer footing today. thank you, thank you, thank you

[Crysiira]

:hugz:

I hope things stay better for you. I can understand that vicious cycle; I do it to myself all the time. Just know that you're not alone and there are people who care.

[watersprite]

Time to let go, dear friend. While you go through this, your ex still is in control. I feel like this is a big issue for you. But that is a big issue for a LOT of women. Getting in to relationship where one person is controlling about life in general.
Let this person go. I am not taking your predicament lightly because I have been there.
One of my first steps on ridding myself of an ex was to find all pictures of them, or myself and them, and burn them. "Good bye to you and all of your control over me," then strike that match.

[Invidosa]

Time to let go, dear friend. While you go through this, your ex still is in control. I feel like this is a big issue for you. But that is a big issue for a LOT of women. Getting in to relationship where one person is controlling about life in general.
Let this person go. I am not taking your predicament lightly because I have been there.
One of my first steps on ridding myself of an ex was to find all pictures of them, or myself and them, and burn them. "Good bye to you and all of your control over me," then strike that match.

Wow, your comments really hit for me. You are right, I keep getting into these relationships where all the control is in the hands of the other person. It seems that I am always the one with the most to lose, which by default makes me the one who ends up sitting and waiting, or changing what i am doing etc. Thank you, I will keep your words in mind.

[iceskater12]

I'm going through the same thing and I send all my support, it's tough, and it makes you feel worthless inside.

Hugs, I hope that you heal quickly. :hugz:

[Darkest Eve]

:hugz:

Obsessing is one of those things.... it is a hard habit to break.

From experience, I can tell you that making up your mind to move on and doing exactly that is what will help you the most.

Baby steps.... go one hour, one day, one week at a time, and get them out of your head for those periods. Before you know it... you'll be a month out and all of a sudden it will cross your mind : "Hey, I haven't thought about ______ for weeks now. I'm gonna be OK."

And just like that... you are.

[Invidosa]

:hugz:

Obsessing is one of those things.... it is a hard habit to break.

From experience, I can tell you that making up your mind to move on and doing exactly that is what will help you the most.

Baby steps.... go one hour, one day, one week at a time, and get them out of your head for those periods. Before you know it... you'll be a month out and all of a sudden it will cross your mind : "Hey, I haven't thought about ______ for weeks now. I'm gonna be OK."

And just like that... you are.


Thanks, I'm really trying to be "ok" one day at a time, but it's kinda weird because as soon as I think "wow, I did'nt think about it all day!" I start thinking about it! of course.

[Shawn Blackwolf]

Two things , which might help to know , my sweet friend...:thumbsup:

One...women have a twenty eight day emotional cycle...

Not just biological...and...some experiments have shown we
as humans , operate on a 21 day , make or break habit cycle...

Thus , it takes 21 days , to complete a chosen habituary pattern...

Even letting someone go...

So find things to occupy you for at least a 21 day whirlwind
of new energy , and friends and things you enjoy...

Indulge !

Soothe yourself in baths , oils , lotions , candles and incense...

Walks in your favorite places , your music , your foods...

Who are you , without him ? Who were you ?

Who are you now ? You , You , You !

Dance with the newfound joy of you , reborn in your heart...

Just for you , and just because you can...

And thank yourself , and the universe , and silently him...

For all you have learned...:uhhuhuh:

Now...Go use that wisdom...WISE ONE !

[Invidosa]

Two things , which might help to know , my sweet friend...:thumbsup:

One...women have a twenty eight day emotional cycle...

Not just biological...and...some experiments have shown we
as humans , operate on a 21 day , make or break habit cycle...

Thus , it takes 21 days , to complete a chosen habituary pattern...

Even letting someone go...

So find things to occupy you for at least a 21 day whirlwind
of new energy , and friends and things you enjoy...

Indulge !

Soothe yourself in baths , oils , lotions , candles and incense...

Walks in your favorite places , your music , your foods...

Who are you , without him ? Who were you ?

Who are you now ? You , You , You !

Dance with the newfound joy of you , reborn in your heart...

Just for you , and just because you can...

And thank yourself , and the universe , and silently him...

For all you have learned...:uhhuhuh:

Now...Go use that wisdom...WISE ONE !


Thanks Shawn, as I've said before, I always appreciate your posts, they brighten my day, and always give me some much needed perspective, thanks for your words and your belief in me :uhhuhuh: