My Grandfather

[la tortuga]

Well, some of you may remember my discussion about my grandfather being in the ICU and having necrotizing pneumonia. He did recover quite a bit, bouncing back and illuminating hopes of having him home for Thanksgiving.

Saturday during a procedure he did very badly and was put back on his ventilator. On Sunday they attempted to wake him up in the morning and his heart just couldn't do it. We took him off of his ventilator on Sunday night, he passed away yesterday at 1 pm on the dot.

I know this has been a long time coming, but our family is just in complete shock. After all, he suddenly and deceptively did very well and had us all hoping he'd come home. Due to his condition my grandmother couldn't get him to sign off on any advanced directives or his will, so his estate will go into probate. She's struggling financially and until she can have access to his life insurance and other finances, I don't know how she'll hold up. She's had to work to support him for several years due to his illness and now she's just not holding up financially very well at all. Any energies in her direction for everything to work out financially would be much appreciated. Any loving, strengthening energies in all of our directions are much needed, as well. He just took a sudden turn for the better and left us all in complete shock when he ended up going all the way down.

He was a real fighter, all the way to the end. The doctors gave him half an hour after he was taken off of the ventilator, at best. He lasted for sixteen hours. He was a very beloved grandfather and I just regret that the time I did see him I forgot to tell him how much I loved him, and he died while I was on the road to go see him.

[staticonthewire]

Sorry for your loss. Your family sounds like a close-knit clan, and deaths come especially hard to close families with full shared lives.

Sympathies, and good wishes.

[Willow Rosette]

Im sorry!! My Grandpa and I are close I can only imagine how you must be feeling. :hugz:

[Old Witch]

I am so sorry for your loss. Energy sent....

[watersprite]

:hugz::hugz::hugz::hugz::hugz:Oh, I am so sorry for what this has done to your Grandmother.
And I am sorry for your loss.
The best thing right now is to protect what she has. Basically, everything should go to her from the get-go. This is NOT a time to be quarreling over your grandfathers' estate. She is the first and only person to be considered until her needs for now and in future are met. Only then should she make out HER will and her durable power of attorney. That needs to be taken care of immediately.
The rest of the family needs to take care of her only.

[Artiste-LiLi]

I am so sorry for your loss....you have my deepest sympathies and condolences. It is not uncommon for someone to "perk up" and do well just before they go rapidly downhill and die. I saw it many times in my 20 years in the medical field, I saw it with both my grandmothers and, most recently, with my mother. It does not lessen the pain you feel, but sometimes just knowing that can help you feel a bit less shock and it can help you to see that, that too, can be a part of the process.

Your grandfather knows how much you love him........they can feel it, yes, even from beyond. My paternal grandmother died while I was on the road to go see her......she sent me a vision of her empty hospital room so I would know she was not there and I would not be surprised. Later she came to me in my dreams and told me that she knew I loved her (I always regretted not being there to say good-bye and I love you); that she could feel it. I took comfort in that dream (visit). I hope your grandfather will visit you soon and help to lay your regret to rest.

You will all be in my thoughts and prayers.

[DreamSpell333]

Im so sorry to hear this!! :hugz:

[Garnet Heart]

:hugz: I'm very sorry for your loss. Lots of energy and thoughts for you, your family and your grandma.

[Fireyone]

Bless you and your family. May your grandfather be in peace.

[Crystal Willowtree]

:hugz: Im sorry for your loss. may your grandfather be at peace :hugz:

[Lunacie]

Hugs and sympathy on your loss, la tortuga. :hugz:

Energies sent for everyone to work with your grandmother on the financial situation. I have a friend who is going through a tough time following the death of his wife because she kept track of the bills and the bank is fighting him because none of the information is in his name. Seems like most people have to deal with this kind of crap at a time when they're already hurting and feeling very vulnerable and that. just. sucks.

[GEBS]

:hugz:

You can still tell him now. I believe he will hear you. I would be surprised if he didn't know already.


Blessings to your family.

[Cassie]

Sorry for your loss. :hugz:
Sending some strengthening energy to help you and your family (especially your Grandmother) through this time.

[Philosophia]

Sending healing, positive and comforting energy to you and your family! :hugz:

May your grandfather find peace and comfort in the arms of the universe. :hugz:

[Amilee]

:hugz: I'm so sorry. :hugz: wait for the dreams. If you wait for him in your dreams he will come.

My grandma came to me in my dreams and told me to tell my mom to "Stop her god damned crying and get back to live." lol.

I'm very sorry for your loss.