Really, really, really cheesed off...

[Nina]

My darling beloved :heartthro was due home from work yesterday (he works abroad in the Middle East; five weeks out there then five weeks home) BUT his visa to leave the country wasn't ready. Now he doesn't know when he can get home - we are hoping Monday, but it may well be longer than that. I am so cheesed off, and there is nothing either of us can do about it; all we can do is wait.

Missing my beloved dreadfully - we've been apart 44 days now, and I was SO looking forward to seeing him.

:wah: :wah2: :scream:

[Danustouch]

Awwwwwwwwww..sorry to hear that Nina :( But...the added wait, will hopefully make your reunion even MORE special ???

[Nina]

Yes, it will!!

The worst thing about it for me is changing the booking on the hotel and organising different days holiday from work - nothing too difficult! For him though... all the visas are delayed, so his back-to-back (the guy who does his job when Alex is home) can't get out there! Alex has to continue working until he leaves, and the other guy gets there. He's already worked 36 days straight, and he's exhausted.

What a nightmare.

AND I cleaned the house from top to bottom at the weekend!!! I'll have messed it up by the time he comes home!!!;)

[Zitan]

Sorry to hear that you've been left waiting, that is tough :( Damn visas and crap.

I find a weekend is long enough to miss my loved one heaps, hate to think about a month. Hope you can still find your way to having some time in the meanwhile :)

Condolences,

Z.

[shnen]

***Big hugs*** it has to be hard, I am sorry Nina! :(

[Witchy Cowgirl]

((((Nina))))
BOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
SO Sorry!:mad:

[Faery-Wings]

Oh that really sticks Nina.

I hope the time flies by and you and your honey get reunited asap.

[Mnemosyne]

I am so sorry to hear that news, Nina. Hopefully, the time will fly by and you will see your love soon. You will be in my good thoughts. Lots of hugs! :heartthro

BB

[Old Witch]

Big Time Bummer!!!!

[Nina]

Awwww.... thanks for all the nice thoughts, folks! It's made me feel better just reading all of them! Still no news on the visa... apparently this happens rarely, but when it does... what a pain in the neck! One of his colleagues got stuck for 10 days before he could go home, once - and a few years ago, the delay was 7 weeks....NIGHTMARE!!! Apparently the bad times of the year are during Congress and Ramadan - according to Alex, they are currently in Congress and straight after that is Ramadan. So we are both a little worried that this may be a long wait. Grrrrrrr......:mad: :mad: :mad:

[Tiana_Ecarias]

*HUGS*

I understand how you feel honey, and it sucks royally. I hope your honey gets to come home soon, and that you to can spend some nice quality time together... ;)

And does this mean he gets to stay longer in the states since he got delayed back there?

Tiana_Ecarias

[Nina]

Thanks Tiana... I can't wait for him to get home!!

Unfortunately he will have to go back at the same time as planned (second week in November), but fortunately, he will get extra money for all this extra work!!

Never mind... I always knew that these sort of things might happen. I think the worst thing was that he was told the visa wasn't ready less than 24 hours before he was due to come home! We were both getting so excited, and now it's all gone flat!!!!

Last time he came home, he got stranded in London as all the connections to Newcastle were grounded because of electrical storms. He was four hours late into Newcastle! Boy, that was a long wait at the airport! Mind you, I'd give anything to swap that situation for this one!!!!

[Nina]

Dammit, Dammit, Dammit all. Still no news on the visa and when my baby will be coming home. I'm worried for his health, his strength, and most of all his mental state. He has been suffering from depression - mild, but significant - for a while, and I worry that this will tip him into a black pit. AND THERE'S NOT A DAMN THING I CAN DO ABOUT IT.

So very very very very very cheesed off with the whole situation:mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:

[WandererInGray]

*big hugs*

So sorry to hear that, sweetie. I know it's hard. But both of you keep your spirits up. You'll be together soon. *smiles*

Keeping you both in my thoughts...

[Nina]

STILL no visa. STILL no idea of when it will arrive. It has now been 6 weeks, 5 days and three and a half hours since I last held my beloved in my arms.

I'm now rrrrrrreally cheesed off...

Miss him so much...

Tell me to shut up if I'm whinging too much... everyone at work is fed up with me walking around with a really long face!!!

[Nina]

News just in!!!!

He may be flying out the desert into Tripoli tomorrow, then on to Malta, then into the UK on Monday.

Please, everyone, keep your fingers crossed for him (and me!!!) that this does finally happen!

And I promise never to get so whingy and whiney ever again!!!

[Arzhela]

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you both:)

[Old Witch]

You can whine all you want.......whenever you want, as far as I'm concerned............:D

[materra]

Far as I am concerned you can whine all you want... things in the Middle East are very touchy and depressing. Plus....nothing is more frustrating than trying to know what is going on and you cannot.

I haven't heard from my son who is in Qatar, we typically hear from him once a day on line or email. My son is a civilian now but works for a multi national company. Wish they would let him move out of there.

Best wishes and much finger crossing for you and your honey. And you can whine all you wish...
BB

[Nina]

Thanks so much, I appreciate it!

Materra, I hope you hear from your son soon. The network links can be erratic this time of year, so he may not be able to get through - happens to us sometimes!

I'll keep you posted!!!

[Mnemosyne]

That's super news, Nina! Hopefully, you will see your love soon. Both Nina and Materra are in my thoughts. Fingers crossed that both get good news soon. :heartthro

[Nina]

Grrrr.... he got pulled from the flight to Tripoli, so he is STILL in the desert. Now we haven't got a clue when he is coming back.

This is so frustrating and upsetting for us both. Prepare for me being totally whingey and whiney for quite some time...

[materra]

(((Nina))) sorry hon, that is so difficult. I heard from my son. Phew, he is fine, he says things are really pretty quiet, it is just the servers are wacky. :rolleyes:

[Nina]

((((Materra))))

So glad you heard from your son!!

Still no news about the visa. Fortunately, Alex is keeping his spirits up, and I've cleaned the house again. By the time he comes home, you'll be able to eat off the floor!

(See? I'm trying not to whinge any more!!)

[Old Witch]

Originally posted by Nina
((((Materra))))

So glad you heard from your son!!

Still no news about the visa. Fortunately, Alex is keeping his spirits up, and I've cleaned the house again. By the time he comes home, you'll be able to eat off the floor!

(See? I'm trying not to whinge any more!!)



Yeah, but who wants to eat off the floor? That practice is highly overated!!!!;)

[Nina]

I thought as much... which is why I am here rather than cleaning!!!!

Alex and I are having identical nightmares now... where he is stuck in the desert permanently. *Shudder*... have to keep posting... getting to 1,000 posts gives me something to look forward to...

(How sad am I?)

[Old Witch]

You're asking me? The one who posted like a mad person on Saturday?........At least you have an excuse....................:(

[Nina]

:rotfl:

I think we both need to go looking for our sanity and find a life...!!!!!

[materra]

Posting is an excellent hobby in my opinion.... and so is whining...Nina, don't clean so much he doesn't recognize home.
The next time my son is home I will have moved again...and he will have only seen the last place once in a year and a half. I have found a better place, more affordable so it is really a good thing. But the poor boy, he may never see me settled at this rate.

[Nina]

Ha!!! I'm moving for the eleventh time in eight years in December!!! I know the feeling!!!

News just in....

I'm manifested to leave site today. Just had word that the passport is ready. Don't know if I'll be flying back to the UK today or tomorrow. I'll ring when I set foot wherever it is I set foot in Europe. From 08:30 today (in half an hour) I'll be out of contact until I hit European soil (unless I'm delayed in Tripoli, in which case I'll find a way of contacting you).

love you,

Alex

Oh, I hope this works this time!!!

*keeping EVERYTHING crossed*

[materra]

Warm hugs Nina...May he get there quickly, no layovers, no delays, no problems. Healthy, happy and whole.... :)

[MammaStar]

oh please oh please oh please oh PLEASE let Alex get home soon & safely....please please please please please please

:D :heartthro :heartthro

[WandererInGray]

*crosses fingers, toes, arms, legs, and off course eyes*

Here's hoping, Sweetie!!! :D

[Nina]

He's BAAAAACK!!!

Safe and sound, although totally exhausted. Just spent the last 36 hours together, and now he's off home to try and retrieve his baggage (it's somewhere between here and Tripoli!) and catch up on 6 weeks worth of post!

So you now have a happy Nina back!!!

Thank you all for your good wishes and thoughts - I think they smoothed the passage home - he was lucky to pick up both flights he needed on standby.

Big hugs and thank yous to you all!!

(((((MW)))))

[Old Witch]

I'm sooooo happy for you, although grumpy Nina did make for some fun in JS!!!!

[Nina]

I'll resurrect her occasionally for amusement value, I promise!!!

[flar7]

Originally posted by Nina
I'll resurrect her occasionally for amusement value, I promise!!!

ya know, you can get cheesy in Flar n Freyja's cheesy thread now
if you want to!

Congrats! Am very happy and relieved for you.;)

[Annika]

So glad to hear he made it hime safely, Nina. Most wonderful news!!!

[Arzhela]

:):)That's terrific, Nina!!! I'm happy to hear it:)

[Mnemosyne]

That's fabulous news, Nina. :)

[Flaire-FireStar]

((((((((((Nina)))))))))))) :heartthro That's fabulous news!

[materra]

Oh good...safe and sound. I am very happy for you guys... now, go play, stop posting for a bit... we'll still be here when you get back... :D

[MammaStar]

Great news Nina! I'm glad he's safe & sound. Give him big hugs from us!!! :heartthro :heartthro

[flar7]

Nina, you havent posted today since earlier, are you being naughty?

[Nina]

*yawn...*

No, I wasn't being naughty!!!! I was catching up on some sleep!!!!

My baby saw his kids today, which makes him very happy. He's also managed to get some of the money he is owed - which also makes him happy, and he's coming back to see me again this weekend, which makes ME happy!

*yawn...* *wanders off back to bed...**TO SLEEP, FOLKS!!!*

[Nina]

Oh well.

Thought it was too good to be true. I think he's holding back on me. I made the effort to drive 200 miles to collect him at the airport - and he can't make the effort to come and see me this week end - he doesn't know if he feels like it, because he's busy decorating. Fine, ok, and I've never seen his place. Everything is done on his terms... oh, I guess I've gone and been a big, big fool again.

Lots of things, now I think about them, don't add up. I won't list them, because if I do, I guess everyone will say what my best friend and my Mother says - the situation has a bad smell to it and it may well be that he's not as unattached as he says he is. Or that he's another control freak - not something I need.

So, this bunny is feeling a little bit burned out right now.

You'd think, at 32, I might just have learnt this life lesson by now.

:(

[materra]

((((nina)))) We have all been fools for love at one time or another, and in a long distance relationship it can easilly turn out poorly. Listen to your mum and friends...they have your interests at heart, but remember sometimes these things do have a way of working out. Don't write him completely off just yet. Warm hugs.

[Nina]

No, I won't write the whole thing off... yet. It just doesn't feel right - it's as though he's a different man to the one who wrote me beautiful e-mails and told me he loved me. If he had missed me as much as he said he did, surely he would want to come down and see me? Or if he couldn't come and see me, wouldn't he want me to go and see him?

I know he has a lot on his plate, but he doesn't want me to see where he lives, I only have his work e-mail address and hotmail address, I've never met any of his friends, he always phones me from his mobile, not his home number... I'm trying to be patient, but when someone says they will do something and doesn't, it's frustrating.

Ah well... there's no fool like an old fool!!

[Nina]

I'm angry, and so hurt. After all the weeks, and months, and letters, and nights... this is his excuse. Goddess help me.


This is so difficult to write and yes, from the opening line you can tell this isn’t going to be positive. I’m glad you told me how you were feeling yesterday. It certainly made me think long and hard about many things. I know I’ve not been articulating my feelings very well recently. I guess it’s easy to spot the difference!
I am feeling torn at present. Torn between you, my life in Hebburn close to my children and wanting to be back in the South East close to my parents and brother and friends. Also the attempt to realise the person I was and could still be – the running and walking and cycling and weights, etc…

You deserve someone who will put you first. I thought I might be able to juggle something around, but this isn’t work… The distance between us is too great and out mutual free-time (Sunday afternoons!) isn’t enough. I cannot just stay in Castleford with you during the week. There are things up here that I should be doing. I have a flat that needs urgent attention, children who need me close-by and my training routine, which I’d grown comfortable with. It is this ‘whole’ that made me happy. You make me very happy, but in the competition for time, I’ve succeeded in making you unhappy. I really cannot see how this could improve. I would seriously consider the position in Aberdeen if offered to me; that would only serve to increase the distance between us.

I have really enjoyed our time together and our correspondence, but I do not think that what we have together can be taken any further without dragging and upsetting one or other of us. I am truly sorry about this and sorry for hurting you by writing to you like this. I was probably naïve to think that I could cope with so much, so soon, etc… Once again, I’m sorry. Sorry for writing to you in such a cowardly way, but I don’t think I could cope with talking everything through with you. Apologies and regrets, not much to leave you with…

Love,
Alex



What did I do to deserve this?

[materra]

((((Nina)))) now you know. As painful as this is at least you can come about and go into new directions, not thinking how or even should you include him. Sad though that he is so settled in his ways there he cannot imagine a different possiblity. Well, I hope he lives up to his stated plans for his childrens sake.

Nina...chin up...And when you least expect it... there will be someone. Truely, just get yourself together so you can enjoy life. BB