Parent's Divorcing

[~Audra~]

My parents have been together for 27 years. Daddy, out of the blue, announced that he's been seeing his dialysis nurse and that once my younger sister is 18 (in march) that he's going to go live with her, divorcing my mother.

He keeps going on about how perfect this woman is, how much smarter she is than my mother. He's always been a creep, but this cuts the cake. He's getting better, which is the main reason he's so "out and about." Momma stood by his side for the entire duration of his sickness and he treats her like this!

I've always hated my dad, so this really isn't anything about him. The fact that i'm an empath and that i've been around my mom all day is literally making me cry. I don't know what i'm going to do if i can't get it to stop. I just feel so depressed...

[Cloaked Raven]

CR, I am so sorry... :hugz: I don't have any advice to offer right now but I can give you lots of hugs. :hugz:

[BearDancing]

love to you my sweet......protect yourself.....lovinly put yourself in a bubble so that you are not feeling the feelings of others...only your own....

[Miabella]

My parents have been together for 27 years. Daddy, out of the blue, announced that he's been seeing his dialysis nurse and that once my younger sister is 18 (in march) that he's going to go live with her, divorcing my mother.

He keeps going on about how perfect this woman is, how much smarter she is than my mother. He's always been a creep, but this cuts the cake. He's getting better, which is the main reason he's so "out and about." Momma stood by his side for the entire duration of his sickness and he treats her like this!

I've always hated my dad, so this really isn't anything about him. The fact that i'm an empath and that i've been around my mom all day is literally making me cry. I don't know what i'm going to do if i can't get it to stop. I just feel so depressed...

Oh hun i am so sorry to hear your going thru this, i am a child of parent seperating when I was 12 years old and even though I am in my early 30s its still hard knowing their seperated. But in my story my mom cheated on my father so the shoe is reverse

Only

[Miabella]

My parents have been together for 27 years. Daddy, out of the blue, announced that he's been seeing his dialysis nurse and that once my younger sister is 18 (in march) that he's going to go live with her, divorcing my mother.

He keeps going on about how perfect this woman is, how much smarter she is than my mother. He's always been a creep, but this cuts the cake. He's getting better, which is the main reason he's so "out and about." Momma stood by his side for the entire duration of his sickness and he treats her like this!

I've always hated my dad, so this really isn't anything about him. The fact that i'm an empath and that i've been around my mom all day is literally making me cry. I don't know what i'm going to do if i can't get it to stop. I just feel so depressed...

Oh hun i am so sorry to hear your going thru this, i am a child of parent seperating when I was 12 years old and even though I am in my early 30s its still hard knowing their seperated. But in my story my mom cheated on my father so the shoe is reverse

Only time and you seperating yourself from everyone can help. I like you are an empath only i never cried for my mother I cried for my father who never cried at all, or else he never knew I was watching. All you can do is be there to help, but this is life and this happens as we get older we go thru more hurdels every day. Today it is your mother who is hurt, but one day it shall be your father as well. As much as I may have hated my mother, for her actions. She is still my mother to this day and i lover her

[la tortuga]

I hope your dad gets exactly what he's looking for.

I hope your mom finds someone who will treat her like a queen.

and :hugz: for you and siblings, this has got to be difficult. :(

[Earthy]

My parents divorced when I was 20 so i know how you feel.I don't have any wonderful advice but i do have plenty of :hugz: :hugz: :hugz:

[Skylar]

***HUGS*** to you my friend.

Agree with all advice previously given.



And IMO, a certain someone deserves a swift kick to the lower belt!
Jerk.


Your mom obviously deserves better! May she find it quickly!

**HUGS**

[Invidosa]

ugh!! hugs to you and your mum sweetie!! :hugz:

that kind of energy must be just killing you! take a deep breath, and go hug your mummy for me _pounce_

[Fencai]

HUGE HUGGLES to you Dear Heart!!!
My parents split when I Was 17. It was not an easy thing.
I agree with the others, you have to separate yourself, and be in your own bubble to protect you. Your sibling is going to need you as a neutral party and you her. If you do not take care of you, you wont be any help to her.
Not trying to be harsh, but speaking from one who has gone through it at a later age.

lovins' and huggles*

[watersprite]

Let him go. Hid dialysis nurse doesn't want him either. Hide all the jewelry and anything of value. Give him the crappiest community property in the house and let him finish out his sad life alone. In the end, your mother will be free and happier without this cruel man.

[~Audra~]

thanks to everyone...i feel much better knowing i have so many friends i can cry to...of course, i shouldn't cry but yesterday was very BAD

thanks again!

[Philosophia]

My parents have been together for 27 years. Daddy, out of the blue, announced that he's been seeing his dialysis nurse and that once my younger sister is 18 (in march) that he's going to go live with her, divorcing my mother.

He keeps going on about how perfect this woman is, how much smarter she is than my mother. He's always been a creep, but this cuts the cake. He's getting better, which is the main reason he's so "out and about." Momma stood by his side for the entire duration of his sickness and he treats her like this!

I've always hated my dad, so this really isn't anything about him. The fact that i'm an empath and that i've been around my mom all day is literally making me cry. I don't know what i'm going to do if i can't get it to stop. I just feel so depressed...

:hugz: Let him go. Your mother might be happier in the long run. Sending you lots of :hugz:!

[watersprite]

thanks to everyone...i feel much better knowing i have so many friends i can cry to...of course, i shouldn't cry but yesterday was very BAD

thanks again!

Yes, you SHOULD cry. Never disallow yourself that release. It is the first step to healing! And when you have given yourself that release, you will see things a bit more clearly.
Holding on to something that's not working is so very unhealthy! Be a good example to your mother and cry with her. She, too, deserves that release. Give her that gift. And show her the way to find herself as you find yourself.
Every trauma in life takes a while to let go. But starting now gives you a head start.
You are in my heart, and I will address a candle for you both to heal.
:hugz::hugz::hugz:

[Lunacie]

It gets really confusing when some of what you're feeling is your honest reactions and some is coming from someone else. What I've heard suggested in a situation where that other person is a loved one that you don't want to cut the cord with is to do a visualization. Visualize you and the other person (your mom) inside a figure eight laying on it's side, you in one loop and her in the other loop. You will still be connected to each other, but it may help to limit the feelings she is (quite naturally) broadcasting right now.

Hugs to both of you as you deal with a difficult situation. :hugz: