Any ideas...??

[Piperbunny]

Hey everyone! I was just wondering if you could help me. There's a guy who keeps pestering me and posting awful comments on his live journal which is really getting me down. The last time it happened I was upset but then I thought he was just being pathetic and for a few weeks nothing happened, and I thought he had got bored. Today it has started again and it's just really getting to me. I just want it to stop, any suggestions?

[Flar's Freyja]

Are you looking for magickal or mundane suggestions? I'd have to suggest action on the mundane at first, such as finding out if there is someone such as a moderator that you could complain to. How is he "pestering" you? Is he bothering you by using your private e-mail or instant message handle? Can you block the e-mails?

Magickally, you could cast a protective shield around yourself or do a binding spell. But binding spells can backfire and you would need to be very careful, and I would only resort to this unless it's a very serious problem.

[Piperbunny]

He's not someone I know online, he's a friend of a friend. I don't see him that often. I just want the comments to stop, mundane or magickally!

[Flar's Freyja]

Then you might get more responses if we move your thread to Just Talk. Is that okay with you?

[Piperbunny]

Yup please, I wasn't sure - kinda new at this :)

[Flar's Freyja]

That's perfectly fine. I'll move it over to that forum where it's likely to get more replies.

[flar7]

are the comments slander or libel? if so you could seek criminal/legal avenues?

[Piperbunny]

Nope, it's just childish comments which really seems to be getting me down. There's just so much going on in my life right now, making Uni choices, leaving home, what to do next, when my essays need to be handed in, I just don't need the extra weight of these hurtful comments!

[WandererInGray]

Um....stop reading them? :eyebrow:

I think you said they were on a personal (though online) journal of his.

If the comments are not a)divulging personal information (ie. phone number, street address, email) or b) slander or libel of somekind. Then there's really nothing you can do about them except ignore them.

*shrugs* Sounds like he wants attention and by stressing about it you're giving him just what he wants.

So stop reading his journal, and stop giving him fuel for the fire.

[SerenityMoon]

like Wanderer said...stop reading them.
it's HIS online journal. he can say what he likes unless they are blatant slader or divulging of personal info. otherwise, they are his inner thoughts, and there's really nothing you can or should do about it. *shrug* just stop reading them. YOU know they aren't true, and you only know if they're there by reading them.

[Raevyn]

Wait, I just reread your post - it's on his journal? Stop reading it. Why are you reading it if it upsets you anyway? Seriously, don't even bother getting your hackles up, he isn't worth your time.

[Phoenix Blue]

I'd offer one other piece of advice: check the terms of service on the website where this guy posts his journal. Send a polite request to this goofball to refrain from mentioning you in his journal, and cite where possible any of the website's terms of service that he may be violating. If he ignores you or refuses, send a complaint to the website's abuse department.

The important thing is to be businesslike in all circumstances. Most websites' terms of service are much more restrictive than legal requirements for slander and/or libel require; even MysticWicks, for example, doesn't permit disrespectful statements toward others. But regardless of what they do, drop the matter after you send the complaint. At that point, it'll be out of your hands.

[Willow_Raindancer]

Originally posted by Piperbunny
Hey everyone! I was just wondering if you could help me. There's a guy who keeps pestering me and posting awful comments on his live journal which is really getting me down. The last time it happened I was upset but then I thought he was just being pathetic and for a few weeks nothing happened, and I thought he had got bored. Today it has started again and it's just really getting to me. I just want it to stop, any suggestions?

I'm so sorry your having such a bad time of it.
Believe me when I say there will be a day when
someone insults you and all you say is
"Yeah? So what!" and you'll not give it a
second thought. Until then, don't read his thoughts.
He doesn't deserve your attention;)