friends? Maybe, maybe not...

[HiddenEvils]

This doesnt really have anything to do with Wicca or Witchcraft, but I just got into a major fight with one of mai best friends. The scary part ish that I dun feel anything, no saddness no feeling sorry nothing. Mai friend wants me to say sorry or whateva but I consider it lying when someone says sorry when they dun mean it. Should I just say sorry to get it over with or stick to saying what I feel and meaning it?

[Tammy Sullivan]

why can't you just agree to disagree?

[HiddenEvils]

That's a good point except if I say that I'm sticking to mai way of thinking and I understand hers then she says I'm being stubborn and so I just said "whatever" and she's all pissed off because "I don't care about anyone but myself"

[Linx]

Sounds to me, like you ahve already made up your mind, what to do. what is it exactly that your wanting us to say? Confirm that your in the right? Sorry, but I can't do that. one because I did not witness what happened, and two, there are two sides to every story, and I have only heard yours. Whenever there is more then one person involved, there is always more then one person who thinks they are right.

[Tammy Sullivan]

well....you are allowed, encouraged hopefully, to have your own opinions. Nothing wrong with sticking to your guns,IMO. But I would let her know that I did not want the difference of opinion to ruin the relationship.

[flar7]

hmmmm. Do you love or value your friend? That should determine
everything. I hold all my friends in the highest regard and esteem,
and will do anything for them. Friends are one of the true
wealths of the world. With them, you are never alone.

So, I suggest compromise. Long talks to get there if necessary.
I dont always agree with my friends, but to my recollection I never
discount what they say with a, "whatever."

[Raevyn]

If you're sorry for upsetting them or sorry if you lose the friendship over this, say so. If you're not sorry for your opinion don't say you are. Even "I'm sorry I upset you, we must agree to disagree and I wouldn't want to lose our friendship over this" would probably work wonders.

Some things you can't agree on with your friends and you might as well let it go.

[Annika]

Originally posted by flar7
hmmmm. Do you love or value your friend? That should determine
everything. I hold all my friends in the highest regard and esteem,
and will do anything for them. Friends are one of the true
wealths of the world. With them, you are never alone.


Well said Flar!! I couldn't agee more. My friendships are by far one of the most important aspects of my life. I would be lost without my friends.

HiddenEvils: Don't compromise your opinion. Appologizing for something you are not truly sorry for is simply a lie to yourself and the other person. However, if this person is important to you, let them know. Disagreements can be resolved without one side winning over the other.

[HiddenEvils]

Thanks everyone for your advice, although it's very good advice most of it doesn't apply to the "disagreement" we were having. We are no longer friends, as I realized that what she was doing was being controlling and manipulative towards someone. I tried to get her to see it herself and she informed me I was in need of therapy and then went on getting petty. I realized that although I do care deeply for her, seeing as how she was my best friend, that she isn't the person I thought she was, and isn't worth my time or the effort.

Blessed Be,
WillowWolf DarkShine

[Raevyn]

Good for you. It takes a lot of strength to end a friendship sometimes, even if it's for the best.