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Sowelu
October 25th, 2002, 10:09 PM
Greetings Everyone
I had quite a....upsetting evening. My mother, who is diabetic, came over to visit. My mother is a very stubborn woman. She has sores on her legs, and her feet are in real bad shape...not to mention that she is overweight. As she was getting up to leave, she fell to the ground. With all my strength I tried to help her back up, but it didn't work. She sat there on the ground for a while until she got the strength to get up. I stood by, feeling totally helpless as she sat there and cried because she feared she was going to never be able to walk again. I found out that her legs and feet were worse than I had thought. Her legs, covered in sores, were severely swollen due to water retention. As I tried to help her get up she broke a couple of the sores which were now leaking fluid. Her legs feel hard to the touch, and her stomach is swelling as well. A while back she had fallen while she was moving some boxes down a few steps. Every since then she has had problems with her back, and with walking.
My mom ended up in the hospital 2 or 3 times last year for not taking care of her diabetes.
Basically, here's my point; My mother is stubborn. She doesn't eat right, drinks Diet. Pepsi like it's going out of style, and she gets no exersize
I have harped on my mother time and time again to eat right....go to the hospital....do this...do that. She DOESN'T listen to me:mad:
I don't know what to do. What do you do when you see a loved one suffering, even after you have tried to persuade them to see a doctor. She has a doctor she see's but says that all he says to her is "Lose weight". This is frusterating and heart-breaking to both myself and my children.
I don't know what else to do....Does anyone have any words of advice or suggestions they can give me?:(

Witchy Cowgirl
October 25th, 2002, 11:23 PM
I'm so sorry and that's terribly sad. ((((Jade))))
I hate to say this but you can't help someone who won't help themselves.:(
Which doesn't help matters.
I hope someone here can offer some really good advise that will get the wheels moving in the right direction for your mom.
Stay Strong and be there for her when she needs you.

MammaStar
October 25th, 2002, 11:49 PM
((((((((((JADE)))))))))))))))) :heartthro

I wish I had some wise words of advice. My boyfriend goes through this on occassion with his own mother. It gets very frustrating. For the most part, she attempts to take care of herself...but most times he just gets frustrated with her.

flar7
October 26th, 2002, 02:29 AM
have a serious talk with her. tell her that she is upsetting her
grandchildren as well as the rest of the family. She is very likely
to lose her feet/legs? if she doesnt take better care of herself,
and that you dont want your children to see her waste away like
that. Its dirty pool, but your options are very limited in how to
make her do these things. If not for love, then for what mom?

Nina
October 26th, 2002, 03:03 AM
((((JADE))))

It's terribly hard when you desperately want to help someone, but they need to help themselves. I've been there with my mother. However, she did finally get the help she needed, and although progress is slow, she's now going from strength to strength. In the end what did it wasn't all the talking, but my Dad getting ill - he looks after her, and when he was ill, it shocked her into doing something about her own problems so she could help him. So things can change.

Lots of energy and hope coming your way Jade... be strong.

Sowelu
October 26th, 2002, 03:16 PM
Thank You....All of you:) :heartthro :heartthro :heartthro :heartthro :heartthro
I am trying to work on having a seriouse conversation with her, which is hard because....well that's another story.
I love you all!!!:)

Pan
October 26th, 2002, 04:49 PM
Flar.. that's some very good advice.. I'll have to get your dearest to hug you for me. :)

I hope everything goes okay, Jade.. be sure to let us know, okay?


((((((((((((((((((JADE)))))))))))))))))

Old Witch
October 26th, 2002, 06:13 PM
Jade, I don't have any wisdom other than what's been said here.........but you have my love and prayers .....and your Mama too..........

Sowelu
October 26th, 2002, 09:41 PM
Good News....My mother called moments ago and asked if I would meet her at the hospital on Monday to help her check in.
I am hoping she keeps her word in going.
Thank You all:heartthro

Witchy Cowgirl
October 26th, 2002, 09:48 PM
Jade! That's wonderful!
Will keep the both of you in my prayers!

Sowelu
October 26th, 2002, 09:52 PM
((((((((Witchy Cowgirl)))))))):D

HallsOfAvalon
October 27th, 2002, 01:27 PM
I saw your post kinda late....... so it's good to see the problem, and see that it's resolved. I hope everything goes ok.