send me strength

[mysticrayne]

Hi everyone, Im here to ask for Help. I guess i have to explain a little and then u might all understand what it is i need :)
3 years ago my husband abadon myself and our children.
I went back and forth to court and recieved sole custody of our children. then 1 1/2 and 2 1/2 Now 4 and 5 1/2, well i was served with papers he was n't happy with the child support order so he wants them. He wants to go to court on monday and ask for custody of them.. Im sick. He has made no action to visit the children in 10 months and thinks he can prove me unstable.. What is unstable , my bills r paid the kids r feed and no one goes without. (mind u he is out of state) Im in NY and he is Fl.. so I guess were doing this via phone? Im not sure what. But i am getting very sick with panic at the thought he might get the chance to take them from me.. I need strength to get through this, Im running on empty here.. if u can just send me a little Im sure I'll have enough from everyone come monday morning to begin the fight again.. Thank u all ..

[Witchy Cowgirl]

Will send energy, strength and courage your way.

[Mythrel]

you have some energy coming from me...Good Luck

[Old Witch]

Energy being sent..............

[Regulus]

done

[Jax]

I'll be sending it all day. Good luck and I'll be thinking of you:)
BB and Goddess Bless.

[mysticrayne]

Thank you all so very much. I will be going to trial on november 21st. I dont' understand. I dont' abuse them they have everything and my bills are paid what the heck is going on?
I have a friend that was proven to be abusive to her ids and they kept the kids in the home.. Im a good mom i do all I can for my kids and i have to go though court now.. I dont' understand the system?? Please pray for us. Im a nerves witch over here. I devoted all my time to my kids is that a mistake? should i have became a rotten person drank druggied and beat them?? I dont' undrstand..

[MammaStar]

You know you have it love. If you need me...give me a call. I'm just a short trip up the Hudson to visit.

((((((HUGS))))))) :heartthro :heartthro

[Margie]

You sound like you're doing everything right and there shouldn't be any reason for them to take your kids away. {{{HUGS}}} and good luck!

[Laiste]

{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}} and love to my Ya Ya sister!! You know the strength and energies are there from me already! Everything will work out for you....be strong sister!! Love Ya! Meadow

[Faery-Wings]

Sending you all of the energy and support I can.

Please keep us posted on how this goes. You know that you have all of us here on your side.

((((HUGS)))))

[Flar's Freyja]

Originally posted by mysticrayne
Thank you all so very much. I will be going to trial on november 21st. I dont' understand. I dont' abuse them they have everything and my bills are paid what the heck is going on?
I have a friend that was proven to be abusive to her ids and they kept the kids in the home.. Im a good mom i do all I can for my kids and i have to go though court now.. I dont' understand the system?? Please pray for us. Im a nerves witch over here. I devoted all my time to my kids is that a mistake? should i have became a rotten person drank druggied and beat them?? I dont' undrstand..

I work with families, and laws and judges differ from state to state. What I have seen over and over is that many fathers who resent being ordered to pay child support pull this very crap in an effort to get out of supporting their children. Most judges and social workers can see right through this. The dads usually know that they don't have a chance in hell of actually getting the kids. Taking you to court and causing you stress gives them some sort of sick satisfaction. It gives them some sense of power. It's highly likely that you don't have a thing to worry about, but here are some tips:

Are the kids clean? Going to the doctor regularly? Cared for properly when you go out?

Do you have a boyfriend? Are you letting him babysit? Don't.
It can be used against you, bigtime. If has anything like a criminal record that could also be used against you too.

When the kids get hurt, as kids often do, make sure that you can explain what happened.

Don't give him anything to get you on. Lay low and be careful what you say to friends and neighbors, especially friends who might be in contact with him. You never know when or if you're being watched.

Judges usually see these guys for what they are. I know. The judge told my ex that if he ever saw him in his courtroom again he'd throw his butt in jail :D

Editing to add: I just noticed that you said he's out of state. Usually, this makes things harder for one of the parties, usually the one who doesn't have the money for a lawyer. Is someone representing you? Also, you might make the point that he's not visiting and is just doing this so save himself even more money.

[mysticrayne]

Thanks for ur words , and knowledge I did PM u also.. I don't do amything wrong. they r up to date on everything with dr.'s and school. I have a boyfriend same guy for 2 years and we dont' see each other to often and he has never watched my kids. when we spend time together it is usually here with the kids :) tay shopping and clothes shopping. they have never seen us kiss except for Hello. I think my daughters have hugged him more then me :) I think my ex is jealous and does still want the controlbut I can't allow him to scare me or make me think Im a bad mom.. I just can't I have been doing the best I could since he walked out on us, and I want this all to end.. Any ideas??thanks again. Hope to hear from u soon. Rayne

[Flar's Freyja]

I'll answer you here but this is how you get your PM's: just click on profile under the header and then go to private messages. If you have the pop up window to notify you of PM's checked in your profile, you'll automatically get notification when you log on.

Anyway - sounds like there's nothing more you can do, so keep doing what you're doing and try not to worry about it. I don't know all of the facts about your situation but it sounds to me like this is just an effort on his part to get out of paying child support. As I said in my previous post, most judges see right through that......

And, the story I shared with you about my ex? It was in NY state. When I lived there, if you got custody in the first place, it was not likely to be taken from you later unless there was a very good reason. So light a healing candle, call upon your deities and relax. There are dozens of spells out there for protection and help in court that you might want to incorporate into a ritual before the hearing date.

[mysticrayne]

Thank u .. talking to someone on the outside makes me feel a little better. I will look for protection rituals and prayers.. I am hoping they just look at the facts at this point he abandon the family and has made no real attempt to return he has been telling our 5 1/2 year old son he wants to come back but i won't let him.. not ture. the truth will ome out once we hit court though. I do think it should be thrown out of court but i guess we have to do what we have to do.. I get very sick over all this stuff. I will lose maybe 10 - 15 pounds with worry and I won't be able to eat. :) it took me 2 years yo gain 20 pounds from when he walked out.. I m whapping 112 pounds now.. I can't risk loseing anymore weight. I think I am a good mom, everyone thinks I should be tougher on the kids but I think they just take advantage of me, i try and act like i don't care but i do and I try to talk to them about it and they really don't care. that's a kid for u :) thanks again. Hope to talk again soon Rayne

[Old Witch]

I can't do anything to help but offer my support and some energy......and a big hug....(((((((((mysticrayne))))))))))

[mysticrayne]

that's all im asking for :) thank u

[amberwolf]

Im sending you strength sweetie hang on in there and try not to worry too much,,,,I know they are easy words to say but please try Blessings ,amber(((((((((((((BIG HUG)))))))))))))))))