Being Harassed

[Rayn13]

I'm being harassed about my faith, mostly by my brother, which hurts more then anything, but also, I'm getting mean text messages from an UNKNOWN number. They started out really mean telling me that i was going to hell, and that god said "thou shalt not suffer a witch to live" but they've calmed down, not it's just about opening a bible and going to church. But still. I can't change my number, it's not my phone. I feel like I'm being a real baby, it's not physically hurting my, just my feelings.:sadeyes:

[Willow Rosette]

Call your phone company and tell them what is going on. They should be able to put a tracker on it and figure out who it is and then press charges against the person.

[Caitlin.ann]

Tell them to go **** themselves.

This is what would happen if they called me.

Me: Hello?
Caller: You're going to hell! Thou shalt not suffer a witch to live!
Me: Go **** yourself! I'm writing your number down and I'll get the police involved with your sorry ass if you don't leave me the **** alone you stupid bitch.

*click*

[ignescentphoenix]

Tell them to go hug themselves.

This is what would happen if they called me.

Me: Hello?
Caller: You're going to hell! Thou shalt not suffer a witch to live!
Me: Go hug yourself! I'm writing your number down and I'll get the police involved with your sorry ass if you don't leave me the hug alone you stupid bitch.

*click*


What she said.

In addition to calling the phone company to find out who is harassing you, I suggest you get pepper spray, a taser, and a knife. As long as its legal for you to do so.

[Caitlin.ann]

What she said.

In addition to calling the phone company to find out who is harassing you, I suggest you get pepper spray, a taser, and a knife. As long as its legal for you to do so.

Haha thanks, I don't let people **** with me like that. Seriously its up to you to end it. Either ignore it, report it, or carry protection with your or a mixture like I'd do.

[Clair de la Lune]

I'd get a tracer on the phone and let them talk to my voicemail as long and as often as they wanted. (Although with a tracer, you have to keep them on for a certain length of time...) Seems like they would get pretty bored after a while if they only got the v.m. Also, have it set up so it is just a generic computer generated voice message so they are not sure who's phone they got for sure...or not. You do not really want them to know it bothers you, so maybe not.

I would see what is legal..BUT this is what a police officer told me:

You are better off getting a police whistle or other whistle for your keychain because it can't be used against you, and it draws attention of other people to you. Pepper spray: the wind could change directions or they can take it from you. It may not really affect someone on crack. A knife can be taken and so can a taser. A taser may not really affect someone hopped up on drugs and they can use it on you. IF you carry something, KNOW where to strike and DO NOT be hesitant to use it and RUN LIKE HELL.

Carry a whistle too to use initially, if nothing else. You could even blow it into the receiver of the phone, lol. Doubt they would call back!

STAY in well-lit PUBLIC areas. Walk with a buddy if possible. Act confident and look people in the eyes. Make conversation when possible with strangers. You are less likely to be attacked if the stranger feels a connection to you. Do not go somewhere alone with a stranger who engages you in conversation or otherwise. Wait for another elevator with more people on it etc. If something happens, make as much noise and commotion as possible!! Draw attention to yourself, and they will leave you alone because they will decide you are not worth it...being seen, getting caught, you putting up a fight, etc.

Enroll in a self-defense class and get ready to kick some ass in your own defense if need be!

Just my 2 cents.

Just food for thought.

Good luck!

[ignescentphoenix]

Clair brings up good points. Learn how to effectively use the weapons, or they could be used against you.

[Sollie]

Yes, claire has brought up some good points.

I would also go to the police if the cell phone company can't figure out who it is. Once you figure it out, I would get a restraining order if possible.

Paperwork is essential.

I'm sorry that this is happening to you. -hug-

[Calli]

Carry a whistle too to use initially, if nothing else. You could even blow it into the receiver of the phone, lol. Doubt they would call back!

I really like this one! It's clever and nothing that can be used against you. It's pretty assertive, too. :hahugh:

I had an ex-boyfriend violate a restraining order by texting my cell phone repeatedly. I called the police and they said they would have to take my phone as evidence until the trial. So, that may not work for you, but I would get their advice, at least.

And, no, you aren't being a baby. You're scared. Anyone would be. :snug:

[)O( ~ Khara~ )O(]

A couple of questions before I offer any advice. How old are you and whose phone is it?

[Rowan MoonDragon]

Lock the text messages so you can keep them. When my daughter was being harrassed thats what we did. We showed them to the police and we filed charges. If you already have a few, text the person back saying that you have kept the texts and if they contact you again that you will file harrassment charges. The police take it very seriously. Call the phone company too. If you need help with this let me know. As far as your brother, have you said anything to him about how he is hurting yoru feelings?

[Zoritsa_Nepenthe]

Everyone has already made some really good suggestions.The only thing I wanted to add was,you can pick up one of these http://www.centurymartialarts.com/Martial_Arts_Weapons/Keychains/Aluminum_Hestitan_Keychain_with_point_Black.aspx
at almost any martial arts supply place.It's not hard to learn,pretty much all pressure points...so unlike a knife or pepper spray,it wont hurt you so bad if someone got it and used it against you.I'd be kind of scared to carry a knife around myself.

[~Belladonna~]

I'd get a tracer on the phone and let them talk to my voicemail as long and as often as they wanted. (Although with a tracer, you have to keep them on for a certain length of time...) Seems like they would get pretty bored after a while if they only got the v.m. Also, have it set up so it is just a generic computer generated voice message so they are not sure who's phone they got for sure...or not. You do not really want them to know it bothers you, so maybe not.

I would see what is legal..BUT this is what a police officer told me:

You are better off getting a police whistle or other whistle for your keychain because it can't be used against you, and it draws attention of other people to you. Pepper spray: the wind could change directions or they can take it from you. It may not really affect someone on crack. A knife can be taken and so can a taser. A taser may not really affect someone hopped up on drugs and they can use it on you. IF you carry something, KNOW where to strike and DO NOT be hesitant to use it and RUN LIKE HELL.

Carry a whistle too to use initially, if nothing else. You could even blow it into the receiver of the phone, lol. Doubt they would call back!

STAY in well-lit PUBLIC areas. Walk with a buddy if possible. Act confident and look people in the eyes. Make conversation when possible with strangers. You are less likely to be attacked if the stranger feels a connection to you. Do not go somewhere alone with a stranger who engages you in conversation or otherwise. Wait for another elevator with more people on it etc. If something happens, make as much noise and commotion as possible!! Draw attention to yourself, and they will leave you alone because they will decide you are not worth it...being seen, getting caught, you putting up a fight, etc.

Enroll in a self-defense class and get ready to kick some ass in your own defense if need be!

Just my 2 cents.

Just food for thought.

Good luck!

Great advice :thumbsup:

[~Belladonna~]

Tell them to go hug themselves.

This is what would happen if they called me.

Me: Hello?
Caller: You're going to hell! Thou shalt not suffer a witch to live!
Me: Go hug yourself! I'm writing your number down and I'll get the police involved with your sorry ass if you don't leave me the hug alone you stupid bitch.

*click*

She's getting text messages hun, not actual calls *I think* Good advice though :D

[Rayn13]

A couple of questions before I offer any advice. How old are you and whose phone is it?

I'm freshly 21 and it's my fiance's/his brother's phone. I'd get my own, but I'm not in a position to do that.

[Rayn13]

She's getting text messages hun, not actual calls *I think* Good advice though :D


yeah, texts, but still funny!

*click*

[Rayn13]

As far as your brother, have you said anything to him about how he is hurting yoru feelings?

yeah he just laughs at me :(

[Caitlin.ann]

She's getting text messages hun, not actual calls *I think* Good advice though :D

Oh it works both ways though..if I can say it verbally I won't hesitate to text it either. :P Sorry for the mix up!

[Rowan MoonDragon]

yeah he just laughs at me :(

well, if it were me, I would tell him off then give him the silent treatment. You have to stand up for yourself. If he just laughs at you, you have to find another way for him to take you seriously about how hurt you are.

[Cunae]

Good ideas, all. The whistle trick is a good one. I almost lost my hearing the other day by accidentally calling a damn fax machine!!

[PhoenixRose]

The whistle is an excellent idea. I know from family experience that pepper spray can be a bit of a bad thing. When my father was about 3 his mother {my grandmother} was working at a nursing home where lots of nurses were being attacked. So, they had all been given pepper spray. On one of her off days, my father got into her purse and unloaded the whole canister in his own face. It didn't hurt him thankfully, just made him uncomfortable obviously. But back to the manner at hand. Keep the texts, try to get a tracer, and make it perfectly clear to the person that you will file charges against them if they do not leave you alone. Also, make it clear to them that while you appreciate their efforts to 'help' you but this is the right path for you and that your 'salvation' is none of their fluffing business. As for your brother, try to explain to him that this is your faith and that he has no right to be rude to you. If he countinues, ask how he would feel if you made fun of his faith. I have a similar situation with a few people who think its quite funny that I am am studying Wicca. If I had a penny for every time someone's muttered a ridiculous Harry Potter 'spell' at me in the hallway or asked if I could turn them into frogs, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have to worry about money. Keep strong, be tough and demand respect from these people! You're a human being and you have the right to feel safe and to be respected.

Blessed be and hugs for you!_pounce_