Getting rid of a regular theme in my dreams?

[bigolalaskan]

I love dreaming. My dreams could literally make me rich if I could remember the most of them and write tv scripts . . . I want those dreams back.

My ex and I split in 2004, divorced in early 2005. Its over, I do not have expectations of us ever getting back together. We did spend 26 years together, the vast majority of my adult life. I doubt I will ever be 100% over the man. I may find him repulsive at this point in life, but I want him OUT of my DREAMS.

The problem: He is in almost every dream I have at night. I've come to terms with that, in that it doesn't ruin my day anymore. Some of the dreams are about everyday life. Other dreams have to do with underlying feelings of rejection. Those sometimes still bother me. But what is really bothersome is that HE IS STILL THERE.

Any suggestions on how I can clear my mind at night enough so that I dream my TV action dreams again or even about life without him and his wife somewhere in the dream ? (yes he's married to the woman he had an affair with during our marriage). Sometimes I wake up and just wish there was a rotor rooter or sos pad I could use to scrub them out of my subconciense. I just wish sometimes we were back in the 50's and 60's where men left and were never heard from again. But alas, with equality, comes having to deal with the person in life when you have kids.

Any suggestions would be appreciated.

[SphinYote]

You might try some of the suggestions in this thread:

http://mysticwicks.com/newreply.php?do=newreply&noquote=1&p=3912498

Whether you believe in psychic connections or not, the visualizations might get the point across to your subconscious mind that you don't want to have these dreams anymore.

:hugz:

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[bigolalaskan]

Could you repost that link? it keeps taking me back to this thread as a reply . . . .

Thanks!!!!!

[sleepycat]

You have a quote from , R. Bach in your sig. I suggest the "cloud vaporization" method of removing hubby.

[Teresa]

Have you ever tried cutting cords?

[SphinYote]

Sorry, here you go!

http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=158966

Was trying to post the cord cutting thread.

[1111]

Sometimes it is just to help work those things out. I would journal your dreams and just keep seeing if there is anything else you should be doing. That is a long time to be with someone---I was with my ex for 20 years--although rarely do I dream of him but I do on occasion and I think it is just the minds way of dealing with something that was a part of us for so long.

Cutting the cords may help as well. Worth a shot.

:hugz:

[bigolalaskan]

I like the cutting the cord and the journalling aspect. I'll give it a try.

I think just voicing the concern helped somewhat. He's only been there once since I posted this, and last night was a GREAT dream about being on a runaway train and applying the breaks. I love those types of dreams. I actually wake up refreshed afterwards. Whereas when dumb or dumbest are in the dreams, I'm completely washed out and drained when I awaken.

Funny how dreams are like that. One night a month or so ago I was dreaming we had a scavanger hunt here at the office and had to run around town finding the clues, into caves (like an old-time DOS adventure game), running, jumping in and out of windows. When I woke up in the morning every muscle in my body felt like I had actually been doing that!!! Wish exercise was that easy .. . . :weirdsmil

[1111]

Glad posting about it seemed to help---maybe the energy shifted.

On a side note...here is all I heard in my head while reading this post. :lol:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PESoJI-iWW8&feature=related

[TheWomanMonster]

I had this problem for a long time - then I realized it wasn't HIM reaching out to me, it was an indication to me to let go of the trauma and horrible things and change MY life, moving forward without that dead weight.

I did some NLP exercises and a lot of meditation.
I feel better for it and he's no longer haunting my dreams.