disbelief

[poze]

okay, my husband is a medium, to be cliche...he "sees dead people" he actually says that the way the movie is (the 6th sense) is exactly what it's like. He can also see forthcoming events. but can't talk about it. If anyone shares the same gift.... how to you deal with people who are close to you who think your...crackers? He's been living with this his whole life and has felt very isolated. ~poze:weirdsmil

[brymble]

I don't think the issue is "belief" of others so much as discretion and comfort with the experience on the part of the senstitive. Others' beliefs, or lack of beliefs, is completely and utterly, 100% out of your control. It's not your ballpark. Your energy is best spent on your experiences and how you deal with them yourself.

Is there a reason why your husband has to talk about these experiences with everyone? Often times when people act like they think we're "crackers" it really has to do more with having their space invaded by our drama than what they may or may not believe about our experiences.

Am I suggested further isolation and bottling up? Quite the contrary. But he's the one who has to experience his own experiences, not everyone close to him. Drawing on imagery from that same movie, do you remember how the young boy dealt with it? By simply not fighting it. By being present in the experience for what it was, without trying to interpret, act on, broadcas project, or force ego-drama "understanding" on the experiences. By simply listening to them and being present with them. By making peace with them.

Consider these experiences, perhaps, as invitations to contemplation and meditative presence. Consider them as invitations for the waking consciousness or "talking mind" (ego, or whatever you want to call it) to lay down its arms and stop trying to wrestle with linear-logical understanding. Let go of the drama of them, and just lean into the experience, and be present with it.

It's a funny world, it doesn't have to make sense. Love it, don't try to interpret it.

Don't advertise these experiences, don't even try to understand them. Just be present with them. If he needs to talk, then talk about the feelings, not the details. Talk about the joy, wonder or awe. It doesn't matter if those feelings are coming fromdead people, live people, or hallucinations. If he needs to talk, talk about the experience, not the drama. Perhaps consider them a jumping-off point for the creation of art or music or another meditative practice. I would really recommend that.

But my advice is to avoid carrying on about the details of the experiences and what they may or may not "mean" to people who don't want to hear it. They've got their hands full with their own consciousness and experiences. And what they believe or interpret within their own consciousness is none of their business, any more than your husband's experiences are any of theirs.

[BearDancing]

feeling *isolated* is not a nice feeling....possible he could find others like himself on the internet to share experiences with...people who understand him and can validate him...validation is very important at times