Intuition or paranoia?

[Tammy Sullivan]

How can you tell the difference? I have found that I get gut feelings, but they are wrong as much as they are right, how can you tell for sure?
I work with some really bad gossips, and I get vibes, but am not sure of them.........what to do?

[Mithrea]

I think I see two different issues going on her hon. First of all, I'd say it's paranoia only if it's taking over your life. Think about how many times a day it happens, etc. Second, there are times when you just have to buckle down and ignore all gossip. Don't believe anything unless you have first hand knowledge. It's hard but it's much easier to deal with.

[Tammy Sullivan]

Well it IS effecting my work, I hurt my back at work recently and brought a doctor's excuse, the next day my supervisor took me aside for a meeting and told me they did not believe that I was hurt. This all came about because of gossip on the days I was not there. She told me that "the other girls don't feel like you are hurt." I am still out of work, going through physical therapy to try to fix this thing, and I am worried sick that I will not have a job to go back to. Even though I don't like it, I need the income, and I don't want to lose it because of gossip.
I had funny feelings from my supervisor right before our little meeting, and in that case I was right, but how can I tell for sure the next time?

[Mithrea]

Ooh okay--totally different situation than I was imagining.

First of all . . . *hugs* to you, I hope you're back gets better soon.

Second of all, a decent supervisor would have never done that. As a supervisor, you can't listen to office gossip and they should have *never ever* under any circumstances told you what they were hearing or confronted you about it. What a dip! Is there someone over that person? Did he take your Dr.s excuse?

[Tammy Sullivan]

Yes, the General manager is the one I gave my excuse to, and she knew about the meeting beforhand. There was a report thing filled out and a place to write my comments, and I had to turn it over and finish on the backside. I stated it all very clearly and the next day the district manager was due and they were sooo sweet to me. But I still get the looks, and when I walk in the room, they will stop talking and get real nervous and turn on that fake smile. I just hate trying to deal with people like that, I never know what is going on. I just want to do my work and be left out of the crap.

[Mithrea]

Aw honey. I'm sorry.

That was happening to me at work a couple of weeks ago and I just avoided. I didn't go to my office (I share an office with the offenders :lol: ) and I just avoided them at all costs. Eventually it stopped. I don't know if you will be able to do that. Just remember, that that is work and it's not your life. Go, do your job and leave that crap there where it belongs. I'll send a little coping energy to you too. If you need to talk, pm me. :)

[Witchy Cowgirl]

:heartthro((((Greta)))):heartthro

How lousy is that! I'm sending strength to you! If you can't go anywhere elese know that you can come here. Just wondering - have you looked for a different job? I know your thinking about going back to school. How's that going? What about the new house? Are you still close enough to keep the job you have or will you have to find new work anyway?

Like Mithrea said - I'm available through PM's too. Be strong!

[Tammy Sullivan]

The house is dependent on hubby's income so that won't be a problem. We count on my income for groceries, BOOKS(LOTS), and things like that. The extras that make life better, ya know?
I have a list of places I am going to put in an application with today, I just hope they don't want to hire me till my back is fixed, and I hope that hurries, I'm getting bored. School will have to wait until next fall, but that's okay, as long as it's there.
I'm staying as strong as I can, but I am worried, and it gets tiresome when you don't know and can't do anything about it (gossip).

[WandererInGray]

Greta...did you file workman's comp or anything like that?
If they fire you after you hurting your back at work, you can sue them for compensation.

*soft smile* Just thought I'd mention that in case you hadn't thought of it.

[Thistle]

Greta, that really stinks. "The other girls don't feel like you are hurt"??? What a bunch of crap. Are they medical professionals? :( Okay, enough rant.

This sounds similar to something that happened to us. A few years ago, my husband broke his rib at work, went to the doctor and got an excuse. His supervisor didn't want to accept it, and tried to tell him to just wrap up in an ace bandage and keep working. (The doctor said this would cause pneumonia.) When hubby refused, the supervisor tried to write him up for Waste, Fraud and Abuse and get him fired. He hung tough, laughed at the supervisor, and it blew over. His income was the only one we had at the time, so the whole situation was very stressful.

You're the only one who can decide if it's worth it to you to fight them, or if it's in your best interest to look for another job where people are more supportive. Leaving this job and getting another could be a blessing in disguise. After all, you only get one back per lifetime, so you have to take care of it.

Take care, and be strong. Don't let the bastards wear you down! :)

[Old Witch]

You want me to curse them for you??.........Just kidding......Positive energy coming to you for the coping.....and healing energy for the back...........and don't let the turkeys get you down............

[Tammy Sullivan]

You guys are great! Thanks for all the support and energy. *smiles* It is nice to know that you guys are here for me. Isn't it funny that some of your best friends are on the net instead of in person?