Skepitcal believer, seeks advice for love ritual.

[surreal]

Hello everybody!

A long time ago I did a ritual involving drawing a circle and calling four elements and asking for happyness. For the next two weeks my anxiety level mellowed down and I was generally calm (this is happy for me)... this I did not realize until well after the period of calmness. So, based in this sole experience I am leaning towards the validity of such a ritual to induce at the minimum a placebo effect.

The stated ritual exercised was six years ago. Since then I've been doing quick brief rituals as simple as looking to the stars and sighing a breath of appreciation for life and the good I have. Everytime I look upon a starry night I become nearly, classically described, breath taken.

It is my intention to become knowledgeable of a ritual to assist in attracting a mate fitting my specifications. Thus high on the list being of positive karma, worldly, empathetic, warm, and intelligent. Assumingly one result of such a ritual would invoke untapped emotion resources within myself attracting such a mate with the stated characteristics.


Is my thinking on the right track?


Also, importantly, what do I do? It must be masculine.


Thx


-S

[surreal]

Nothing, eh?

[Shaedema]

Hello. I just ran across this thread. Sorry you haven't received many replies yet, but hopefully what I suggest will help you out.

When trying to attract a mate try to remember that everyone on this planet will attract those who are similar in mental age to themselves.

So instead of casting love spells (unless you really just want to hook up with someone, but that is another area) you might want to take a look at what roadblocks are in your life that are preventing that person from finding you. Or you them.

In my case this meant I actually had to socialize more to find one of my Mates. I also had to get over a few other hurdles in order to make the relationship work (like the ex, emotional instability, etc) I ended up having to do a lot of self work.

That being said-

If you really want to Call for a Mate, give them a name that for you encompasses all the qualities you want/need. Create a talisman that for you will symbolize this Mate. Within a circle Call for them either by saying aloud all the qualities you've listed or by having the list written down (I'd go with the written list). Focus all of your intent and let it pour into the talisman. This is where you burn the list if you have it written or just let all your thoughts go into the world. Ask to be shown what you need to change in yourself to find your Mate.

Close the circle and let the talisman rest on your altar or somewhere quiet. Carry it with you or just let it lay on the altar. Let it remind you of who you are seeking and what you need to change in yourself to find your Mate. And actively work to change those traits.

This is what I would do if I hadn't found my Mates. But that is just my two cents. :weirdsmil

[Terra Mater]

A few of my friends have used this technique:

Make a list of everything you want in a mate and everything you don't. Be very specific. Whenever you do any rit to draw something to you, place the list in the circle with you. Add more details to the list as necessary. The more energy you put into this, the faster you will draw your mate to you. Just be careful what you ask for on the list.:thumbsup:

[Raven Reed]

Also, remember that the gods have a sense of humor. I did a similar a thing and forgot to mention gender. Boy, was I surprised! My relationship lasted 5 years so it wasn't a total wash...


A few of my friends have used this technique:

Make a list of everything you want in a mate and everything you don't. Be very specific. Whenever you do any rit to draw something to you, place the list in the circle with you. Add more details to the list as necessary. The more energy you put into this, the faster you will draw your mate to you. Just be careful what you ask for on the list.:thumbsup:

[Calli]

I have done something similar. I can tell you from personal experience that you will get exactly what you ask for. Be careful in what you ask for. I wanted a Scorpio. Boy, did I get a Scorpio! Drove me nuts with his intensity and extremism! I wanted someone who practiced magic. (the bf before him called it evil...) Yep, but not anything that made sense to me. He was very "copycat" and ritualized and I am very original and instinctive. He didn't respect my path any more than the other bf had, at first. I wanted someone who could understand my mental health issues. He could understand them all right, and had his own - extreme ones! There were some other, more personal things that I didn't ask for, and didn't get.

I don't agree with Shaedema on this point - we weren't the same age in any way. I was the adult in the relationship. I didn't intend to adopt a child, but that's basically what I did.

So, if you're going to do this, please be very specific. And don't say masculine, say a man. Otherwise, you could end up with someone masculine, but not necessarily male.....

On a positive note, while this man wasn't my life partner, I did come away with some very valuable lessons that I wouldn't have gotten without having him in my life. Overall, the years we spent together were positive. But then, I'm a "silver lining" kind of girl....