Question about life in general...

[Tranquility]

This isn't a question about paganism or anything in the religion but more recently each morning it has been harder and harder for me to get up, not only because i go to sleep later but because i have no will to get up. I don't look forward to something each day. Everyone knows when soemthing exciting that day is going to happen its easy to get up, you work hard that whole day, just for the later time when your going to have fun and enjoy it. I don't have anything to look forward to each day, so its a pain and it seems harder and harder each day to get up...
Any solutions would be great..

[Old Witch]

Go to the doctor and talk about depression.......you have classic symptoms...............

[MammaStar]

Ditto what OW said. Go to the doc's and look into some sort of counseling service.

With their help, this too shall pass.

hang in there! ((((((HUGS))))) :heartthro

[Siarlas]

:: bear hugs Tranquility ::

Aside from those solutions, how about making yourself look forward to something each day? And please don't tell me that you can't think of anything. Life itself it's something to look forward to. Not just your own, but everywhere else as well. I'm not sure where you live or you current lifestyle (work, family, etc), but is there a nice park or something you can take 5min in each day? How about any kids in your life? Whether they be family, or your friends kids, or indeed helping out at a daycare centre and enjoying the innocence and wonder of other people's children.

We all have something to look forward to, Tranqulity. We just have to look for them.

[Saphra]

Ditto to OW and LdyStarlite, depression is very serious and left untreated you will become even more so. Your medical doctor can prescribe you some anti-depressants (I take them, they work), and can even send you to see a counselor or psychiatrist if they think one is necessary.
and also Ditto to what Kaya said, there is always something in your life you can look forward to, wether it be a hot fudge sundae when you get off work/school, or a call from a friend or family member.
Don't give up hope sweety, you always have us here at MW to talk to if things get bad.
((((((((((((((((big hugz))))))))))))))))))))))

[Lavender]

Anther ditto to what everyone else said and to add: Have you thought of getting a pet?

[shnen]

yet another ditto-er..... also, sometime exercise can really help increase adrenaline, which is a natural picker upper, try running every morning, or swimming, make it a goal and think of some way to reward yourself when you've done it so many days in a row... could be depression, or jsut lack of motivation, either way, I hope you look inside yourself and see what you need to combat this :)

*hugs*

[Faery-Wings]

One more ditto!

My personal addition: Do you tend to feel this way at this time of year, each year? It could be seasonal affective disorder if you notice a trend each fall. I have SAD and I know there are a few other members here who have it too. Getting as much sunlight, fresh air, exercise (bleh!) can help. I also take St John's Wort to help from Nov to March.

Take care of yourself

Chris

[Nissala]

Just another ditto to what everyone else has said and send energies your way....(((((hugs))))

[Silver_Alhena]

Originally posted by Wildchild
Anther ditto to what everyone else said and to add: Have you thought of getting a pet?

Thank you Wildchild! :D

That worked when I was at my lowest point - it gave me something to look after, and it really cheered me up when the guinea-pig would start chattering as I came into the room.

Is there something in particular that has triggered this? Breakdown in relationship, crappy job, family probs? Or has it come out of thin air? If there is a root to this, then please try and work through it, or get counselling as things are unlikely to get better until the cause is tackled.

Taking up a hobby or a social activity could give you a reason to get out, and a short-term focus.

Aaprt from that, go and see your doctor. A lot of people don't want to admit depression, as there has always been a stigma attached to any kind of mental condition, but if you were in physical pain, your doctor would be the first person you would look to for help.

Please don't try and deal with this on your own, it just gets harder and harder to cope.

(((((hugs and warm thoughts)))))

[Tranquility]

Some background info about me that may help you make a more direct search on the problem
1) i have 1 dog, 3 cats, 16 fish, and a hamster
2) I exercise about 9 hours a week, in my martial arts class, extremely painfully hehe, don't think its laack of excercise
3) I'm not going to get checked out for depression yet as im only 15...
4) The problem MAY be that i take life WAAYYYYY too seriously, ever sicne i was a child i always took everything too serious, i could never be a layed back or carefree person.. im trying to now, if i don't see some results soon i may check the doctor for some syntoms of depression
Thanks for your help everyone
ALso ill try to stick out somethinge ach day that i like to do and hopefully it will give me some ambition to wake up
Thanks everyone

[Tranquility]

It may also becaues my schedule is TOO packed... i get hom efrom school at 4:00 because i commute, i go tutor someone from 4:5-30 as a part time job, at 5:30- 7:30 i go to kung fu, or Tai Chi.. then at 7:30 my free time begings.. then i go to sleep ariund 10:30 or 11..
may its lack of sleep and/or lack of free time
ill experiment

[Tranquility]

Or.... A few people i have talked to say that it most likely is an effect of puberty... Anyone else think that it is a possibility? This is most likely what im turning to, hopefully it will leave soon becaues it has been acting like this recently.. i have been having a hard time gettting up for a long time, but not that unwanted feeling..

[Siarlas]

ok... point form.. my favorite... lol

1. Your physical age has nothing to do about whether or not you should see someone about depression. The early the better. If you leave it because you think your to young or it's just a phase, it may get worse.

2. Taking things too seriously may be one point that you need to address. I used to be that way when I was younger, but people need to see the humor and fun in things. But you did mention that you are trying to stop this, so that's a start.

3. Even if it's just one seemingly insignificant thing that you choose to look forward, it helps.

4. TAKE A BREAK! Honestly, Tranqulity, I did this recently. My timetable was quite as packed as yours is now and I thought the lovely men in white coats were going to take me away soon. After careful consideration, I have cut down on my work days and now enjoy some relaxed time with my daughter, and most importantly, some me time. Everyone needs this. Use it as you see fit. Reflect on life, do a relaxing hobby. Anything.
And getting enough sleep is a must.

5. Puberty may have something to do with it. It likes to mess with our hormones. But don't rely on the thinking that it may pass. Deal with it now.


That aside... we can only help you if you want to help yourself, my dear.
:: hugs ::

[Rose Sunny Rionach]

I used to have the same problem when I was like 11 or 12.. then when I turned 13 I loosened up more and started hanging out with more people. I'd end up going and hanging out and partying with my friends every weekend. Have some fun for once. After that I wasn't near as depressed as I used to and so far I havn't really been depressed at all. So maybe thats what you should do. Make some more time after school and on weekend to just hang out with friends.. Catch a movie or two.. or go check out cute peeps ;)

[Tranquility]

Thanks a lot everyone

[flar7]

have you been to the doctor? Do you have a boyfriend?
mononucleosis(sp?) makes you feel very tired and hard to get up.

[Tranquility]

Maybe i should change my name to one of my favorite Deity'ss... Im a male =) And not homosexual, i don't have anything against them i am just not one of them...
I may change name to Dagda.. more masculine :D hehehe

[Siarlas]

Originally posted by Tranquility
Maybe i should change my name to one of my favorite Deity'ss... Im a male =) And not homosexual, i don't have anything against them i am just not one of them...
I may change name to Dagda.. more masculine :D hehehe

Hee hee. Maybe you should do what a friend of mine did. In her signature, she put 'Now 100% less masculine'. Of course, your would be the opposite... :lol:

[Kaylara]

Originally posted by Kaya


4. TAKE A BREAK! Honestly, Tranqulity, I did this recently. My timetable was quite as packed as yours is now and I thought the lovely men in white coats were going to take me away soon. After careful consideration, I have cut down on my work days and now enjoy some relaxed time with my daughter, and most importantly, some me time. Everyone needs this. Use it as you see fit. Reflect on life, do a relaxing hobby. Anything.
And getting enough sleep is a must.



Me time? What is this Me time?
(LMAO)

[Siarlas]

Originally posted by Kaylara
Me time? What is this Me time?
(LMAO)

LM?O
I'm working on that one! Apparently it's supposed to be when you get to have time alone... Don't think I'll be getting any over the next four days...

[flar7]

Originally posted by Tranquility
Maybe i should change my name to one of my favorite Deity'ss... Im a male =) And not homosexual, i don't have anything against them i am just not one of them...
I may change name to Dagda.. more masculine :D hehehe oops, sorry. Didnt know your gender.
still, I would get checked for mono. It displays those symptoms.
Its known as the kissing disease.

[shnen]

It could also be hormones. Being 15 they are everywhere, you could get your levels checked out and make sure they are ok. A froend of mine was diagnosed with depression, turns out she had low testosterone levels...

[Tranquility]

These are all great suggestions im just going to give a another week or 2 or so and see if i see any changes, if i do even see the sightest one ill give it some more time, thanks for the suggestions!

[Storm]

And sometimes there are no reason why one suffers depression. I struggled with it my whole life. My childhood was as peachy as it gets. When I do end up with something to be depressed about I take it deeper. But I relish it. When I am deep and dark I fancy myself a sort of Edgar Allen Poe type person and channel all my dark energy into bleeding brooding poetry.

My point is sometimes it is just a chemical thing in the head and there is no point trying to figure out the why. But if it is too hard to handle them drugs can counter that effect.

[Dravius]

One thing that almost always works for me when I'm down in the dumps....take a hike! Pack yourself and maybe one of your furry companions (my beagle always comes with me) and go walk through a park. Or, if you're lucky enough to live in a rural area like me, just pick a direction and go! Thats pretty much my answer to everything though...but it works for me :)

[st0rm]

Originally posted by Dravius
One thing that almost always works for me when I'm down in the dumps....take a hike! Pack yourself and maybe one of your furry companions (my beagle always comes with me) and go walk through a park. Or, if you're lucky enough to live in a rural area like me, just pick a direction and go! Thats pretty much my answer to everything though...but it works for me :)

Thats pretty much my answer to everything too....
Another thing that is good to do is to paint....

[Tranquility]

Thanks guys ill have to try those
I think als one of the causes was that because this saturday ( today ) i had a major hard pain enduring martial arts test for 2 hours straight.. i had been fretting over that for a while and now that its overi think that helped a lot!