missing a piece

[HeavensHope]

Ever feel like you're missing a piece of yourself...not physically but in another way. I'm in a very happy relationship, in love...but yet at times i feel like there's a part of me missing... i've had this feeling often growing up...but lately it's gotten stronger. there's just something missing, you're not quite sure what it is...but you feel it pulling at your heart. you know what i mean?

[Flaire-FireStar]

Yeah....I know what you mean.. And I wish I could explain it, but sadly, I can't. I've always given it to my pessimism. *shrugs* I wish I could be more help than that......

[Flar's Freyja]

"For if that which you seek, you find not within yourself, you will never find it without."

That is my favorite piece of The Charge of the Goddess. Until we identify what we want and don't want, until we come to love, know and accept ourselves for who we are, we are not ready to completely love someone else. We need to be able to fulfill ourselves without depending on someone else to do that for us. When we are complete within ourselves, we then have so much to give to another.

Sounds like you're at a crossroads in your life. A commitment to meditation and ritual can help with this process as well as paying attention to your dreams and other omens or signs in your life.

I'm currently reading Francesca DeGrandis' "Be A Goddess." It's been just what I needed right now and maybe this book or a similar one could give you some help and support also.

Give yourself time. Your spirit is recognizing that something is not right, so the answer is just around the corner:)

[Gwion]

I guess it wasn't enough just to want to see Auntie Em and Uncle Henry again, and it's that, if I ever go looking for my heart's desire again, I won't look any further than my own back yard; because if it's not there, I never really lost it to begin with.

[Flar's Freyja]

Originally posted by Gwion
I guess it wasn't enough just to want to see Auntie Em and Uncle Henry again, and it's that, if I ever go looking for my heart's desire again, I won't look any further than my own back yard; because if it's not there, I never really lost it to begin with.

Excellent, Gwion. I still think you have a CD-rom drive in your head.......:T

[Sequoia]

I know that "missing piece" feeling well. . . *soft smile* I've found it to be filled by loved ones, people I was missing dearly in my deepest of hearts, even before I met them. The pieces do come together, with time, from within and from without. :)

[HeavensHope]

thanx everyone but the missing feeling is a different one then trying to find myself or missing love ones. I'm surrounded by family and friends...i'm very much happy with my life, school,work, etc. I like..actually i love who i am..because i know who i am...and i accepted it and wont change for anyone. I feel like i have everything i could ever wont..but yet...i feel like there's something missing...and i just cant put my finger on it. Sometimes i look up at the skies at night..and one star catches my eye..and for the oddest reason i feel like there's someone out there looking at that same exact star thinking what i'm thinking. Then again i could just being thinking about it too much..i mean there's billions of ppl out there..i'm sure there's someone out there looking at the same one i was at the moment.

[Gwion]

take the red pill

[Flar's Freyja]

Originally posted by HeavensHope
thanx everyone but the missing feeling is a different one then trying to find myself or missing love ones. I'm surrounded by family and friends...i'm very much happy with my life, school,work, etc. I like..actually i love who i am..because i know who i am...and i accepted it and wont change for anyone. I feel like i have everything i could ever wont..but yet...i feel like there's something missing...and i just cant put my finger on it. Sometimes i look up at the skies at night..and one star catches my eye..and for the oddest reason i feel like there's someone out there looking at that same exact star thinking what i'm thinking. Then again i could just being thinking about it too much..i mean there's billions of ppl out there..i'm sure there's someone out there looking at the same one i was at the moment.

Hmmm........have you done any past life work? We'll see if this is indicated when we do your reading ;)

[HeavensHope]

nope havent done any...havent found anyone that can do one for me..but i'd love it if someone could. =)

[AmbivalentMirage]

Good luck with your search.

I can identify with the feeling, but for me, it's very temporary. It comes and goes at different points in my life.

[Flar's Freyja]

Here's a thread that might give you some ideas:

How Did You Find Out About Your Past Lives? (http://www.mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=14105&highlight=past+life+regression+work)

[Psyche Ague]

Maybe this is just my Buddhist influence, but have you ever contemplated meditating? Or doing quiet activities that let you think? Perhaps you're too overwhelmed by "the real world" around you that you've lost touch with the most important person (well, in the Western world) in your life: you! While everyone else in your life is necessary for your happiness and well-being, you can't make them happy unless you know yourself better. There's someone inside you who is dying to get to know You better. Find them.

Believe me...I know how you feel. Accept this feeling as part of growth. You are, inside, much like a Tree. You never stop growing.

[HeavensHope]

thanx..but i dont think its that....i've gone through that phase of my life already. i went from trying to be perfect and making everyone happy...to who i am now...being happy with who i am...and the most important person to myself should be me.

[Flar's Freyja]

Originally posted by HeavensHope
thanx..but i dont think its that....i've gone through that phase of my life already. i went from trying to be perfect and making everyone happy...to who i am now...being happy with who i am...and the most important person to myself should be me.

That's a very healthy statement - and unfortunately, I'm a trained professional who reads between the lines:lol: - you say that the most important person to yourself "should" be you - is she?

[Psyche Ague]

Originally posted by HeavensHope
thanx..but i dont think its that....i've gone through that phase of my life already. i went from trying to be perfect and making everyone happy...to who i am now...being happy with who i am...and the most important person to myself should be me.
I think you can love yourself and still be overwhelmed by what's going on around you. You can love yourself and still not know who you are.

Looking back at some previous posts, I read what you said about looking up at the stars and wondering if someone else in the world is looking at the same star you are. I often find myself staring up into the night sky and wondering the same thing. It makes me feel so insignificant and so powerful all at once. I feel mortal and yet loved. I realize that nothing lasts forever - including myself - and yet I exist. For what purpose? Why was I placed here on Earth? Or was it a happy coincidence?

When I think those thoughts, I feel so lonely. Even when I'm standing next to someone else...someone else that I love. I can't define exactly how I feel, but I think I understand how you feel...

[HeavensHope]

=) i've actually never felt insignicant to anyone or anything. I'm not the type of person to get depress or worry over minor or major stuff. I'm not sure why that is..i guess i've develop a method...worry about certain things for a certain extent..but dont worry more then you need to. If you've done all you can, you just gotta leave it up to fate or luck and hope all goes well. That's probably why i have really good blood pressure..i dont worry.
I'm very sure i'm not overwhelmed by anything....the only thing i see important at the moment, is school, work, family,friends, and my boyfriend..and so far all is going well. Sure i worry about school here and there...but i always get over it..once i sit down and think about it...and wonder why i'm worried exactly..i feel better and i'm back to be logical again.
But thanx.

[Flar's Freyja]

This is the time during the wheel of the year that we go within to reflect, kind of hibernating like bears. You might find this thread helpful:

Death Moon (http://www.mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=21424)

[MistOfTheSea86]

Originally posted by HeavensHope
=) i've actually never felt insignicant to anyone or anything. I'm not the type of person to get depress or worry over minor or major stuff. I'm not sure why that is..i guess i've develop a method...worry about certain things for a certain extent..but dont worry more then you need to. If you've done all you can, you just gotta leave it up to fate or luck and hope all goes well. That's probably why i have really good blood pressure..i dont worry.
I'm very sure i'm not overwhelmed by anything....the only thing i see important at the moment, is school, work, family,friends, and my boyfriend..and so far all is going well. Sure i worry about school here and there...but i always get over it..once i sit down and think about it...and wonder why i'm worried exactly..i feel better and i'm back to be logical again.
But thanx.

I personally feel this crossroads isn't something that signifys you are missing something persay. But you are just going into a new part of your life that you may not know. Be it physical or spiritual.