Question to think about, would like answers...

[Tranquility]

Here is a question that i had thought about after reading a lot
Truly answer this
What is more important to you, Seeing Society and life as it is and enjoying it, and being social and popular, but not being happy and content with yourself..
OR
Not be so popular and known by everyone, not being the coolest kid/person around, but seeing life as more than it is, not seeing the illusion, really, truly understanding and feeling it, being happy and complete in your life

So On the Outside revealing... inside negative, and caring what people think of you
OR
On the outside Not really noticed...... inside feeling complete and happy with youreslf and not really caring what people think of you

Personally i am the 2nd one, but being 15 social status is kind of a nagging situation...

Usually this is only a concern when your in schooling still

[Haedis]

Definately the second one.

Though I'm still in school, I'd have to disagree with your last statement. Its just as hard to be true to yourself when you're out of highschool. Maybe even harder because you're expected to not only try to fit in but to "grow up" as well and take on a lot of responsibility in order to look successful.

[Cajime]

I pretty much am the second one and happy to be so.

... can someone remind me, what are friends o.O; (j/k, just I've been a loner so long now I couldn't really care less)

[FlamedLilly]

I'd have to say that the second one is what I try to be, but sometimes I still get caught up in wanting to be excepted. I'm 22 years old almost 23 so don't feel like it's only a school thing. it's a rest of your life thing. Just remember like I'm constantly reminded by my older sister, you are the only one that you have to answer to at the end of the day!

[kronje]

I haven't been 15 in quite some time, but here's my thoughts on your very good questions:

Everyone else is just pretending to be "normal" anyway. What would happen if everyone got real tomorrow morning? Who would win and lose, and what would they and we win and lose?

What's the value of having acquaintances with whom you cannot be your true self? What does it gain you...and what might it cost you?

Your job in life (the real one, not a job you'll ever get paid for in cash) is to find and be purely who you are. In this way, you will attract people who like you--the real you. Yes, there may be some brief lonely times, but honestly, there is nothing lonelier than being surround by people who don't know or like the deepest you. Eventually, your glow will attract exactly the sorts of people who are looking for your unique light.

Maybe your job in life is also to be a leader. By the pure example of being yourself, you show other that they too can be themselves. You may inspire more people than you'll ever know, and while none may thank you, you are putting out beauty into the world by example. Instead of being a follower of something you don't honor, think about being a creator of something of real and lasting value.

The most important "thing" of real and lasting value is you yourself. Give the world that gift

[Witchy Cowgirl]

Wow! After reading kronje's reply I'm speechless!

BTW - I choose the 2nd option.

[MidnightSun]

The 2nd one, totally. It took me a REALLY long time to realize that being part of the "in crowd" is just a way to be a coward with support. It's just for them to feel superior and all that, and act on it by being jerks to the rest of the people.

I prefer being nice to people and all that good stuff. Screw the in crowd, be an outcast! It's better for ya :)

[Chibi-Fallon]

Tranquility, this isn't an attack on you, but the most cookie cutter stuck-up wannabe preppy would choose the 2nd one.
Yeah, I know we all wanna be like the second one, but no one is gonna up and admit that they're like the first one. Because a) you are like the second one or b) you aren't but since you want to please people because you're not happy with yourself you choose the second one to fit in.
Everyone conforms to some degree or another. Just the way the world work.
Sorry to go ranting but questions like that just get to me. I have no idea why.

[st0rm]

heh.. after chibi's reply I dont know what to answer....
But I'm an outcast and perfectly happy with that :D

[Siarlas]

Sorry... I'm too tired to read everyone's response... anyhows... I'm the second one. Always have been. I never cared on whether or not I was popular or whatever. Doesn't mean I've always been happy in life though... but I'm getting there.

[shnen]

I have always been the latter one, not caring what anyone thinks, but still ended up with lots of REAL friends. None of those fake fru fru ones like so many of the groups in high school had.
not being able to live and love yourself is a lot bigger issure then living a lie.

[Raevyn]

Yeah, I know we all wanna be like the second one, but no one is gonna up and admit that they're like the first one

Yeah I'd be surprised if someone admited they were the first.

First, I have to ask, why is this one or the other? Why do you have to be popular *or* like yourself?

Ideally people want both - they want to be happy with themself and people to like them, and some people do that. Not all 'popular' people are deluded or unaware of what life is, but then no one's popular with everyone either. For instance, the popular group could walk down the hall without anyone saying anything, but part them or they disagree and boy did it get ugly.

And why were these people 'popular'? I could never figure out why, honestly. They weren't the largest group of people, they definitely weren't the smartest, best looking, or nicest. They wore the most expensive clothes, drove the nicest cars, and dressed the same. They didn't stand out in school, and I found while most people were decent to them they didn't even like eachother half the time. I wouldn't even call that popular - being liked for having lots of money, wearing the same clothes, and thinking the same things. They'd fight if one of them thought differently or put their hand up too much in school.

Sorry, I don't think that's popular at all, I'd rather have all my friends of all different kinds, beliefs, IQs, etc. who like me for who I am and vice versa, not just a small group of people who wear the same clothes and say the same things.

[AradiaSupernova]

On the outside Not really noticed...... inside feeling complete and happy with youreslf and not really caring what people think of you


That one :) lol.

[Emaleth]

I've been the second one all my life, but only a few years ago I accepted myself and stopped caring about what others think to a great extent.

Of course you can't disregard others totally, after all we live within a society and shouldn't try to separate from it too much. You need to find the aurea mediocritas:)

Blessed Be

[Tranquility]

yeah even though im only 15 i have always really been the second one

[Moon Daughter]

what i am: neither. lost between the two, trying to find a way to satisfy both my ego and my Soul
what i would like: to see, feel, understand, perceive Life for what it REALLY is. and BE ( not act) accordingly!