Grieving Spell

[Flar's Freyja]

The text is too long to copy and paste. This site has a nice ritual to assist in dealing with grief and should be performed at the waning moon:

A Grieving Spell (http://www.users.bigpond.net.au/sonayasweb/wiccapage/grieving_spell.htm)

[Flaire-FireStar]

(((((((((Sis))))))))))

Thanks.... I'll be printing this one out.....

[Flar's Freyja]

((((Flaire)))) Yes, I was thinking of you and several other members who have lost loved ones when I found this. I'm glad that you may find it helpful. Here's another:

Witchcraft

Ritual of Mourning and Grief

Spell of Mourning

The following spell is meant to be used during any time of loss. When you are grieving, sometimes it is helpful to cast a spell in order to bring closure to this period in your lives. It may be when a relative or family member dies, a divorce, when a pet dies, or anything along those lines.


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You will need to have a photo or some other representation of the person or pet (or other situation) - if you don't have a small, wallet sized photo then a drawing, or scrap of their clothing, or a letter they mailed to you will do. As long as the item represents them and makes you think of them. If you only have one photo of them, you should Xerox it and use the Xerox copy instead of the real photo for this spell. The same applies for letters to you, items, etc.

Other supplies you should get are: a small marble or metal bowl that you can burn a fire in (some large incense bowls will work) - it can not be made of wood; a mini self-lighting charcoal (available at almost any spiritual store), some sweet incense; some willow bark or cherry bark powdered or whole; some sand or sea-salt; a hot plate or towel; a little gift for the person/pet - it should be something that they would have really liked - it should also be small and inexpensive - it also must be able to burn cleanly so avoid and plastics or metals and stick to paper and things (for pets, the little cat and dog treats will burn cleanly).

Next, set up your altar in any way you see fit. For this spell, you should display any photos of the person or pet on the altar. Place the hot-plate in the center of the altar and place the bowl on it. Next, fill the bowl half full with the salt or sand. When you are ready to start the spell, light the charcoal and let it get really hot. Start the spell when the outside starts to get ashy.

Cast a circle - when you call the quarters, include the gods and goddesses of death and grief for your tradition. Welcome the spirits, and especially call to the person or pet if someone has pasted away. Sit in the middle of the circle and take the small photo (or other representation - I'll refer to the representation of them as the photo for now on) and gaze at it. See them the way you remember them best and allow yourself to feel grief. Let all your emotions out - even you guys that are reading this, let it all out. Shed tears for the person or pet, and let them flow fully - don't try to hold back or whimper. Let all your grief flow to the surface, and shed real tears. Hold the photo under you as you do this - let the tears for them drop onto the photo. Let the tears stop on their own. They will know when to stop. Place the photo next to the bowl, and let yourself calm down. There is no rushing in this spell, so take all the time you need. Eventually, and inevitably, you will start to feel better, and happier. Don't feel guilty when you cheer up, as this is the spirits receiving your message and letting you know it is time to stop grieving.

Now, after all your tears are shed, and you start to cheer up, concentrate on feeling really good. Let yourself become happy. Think about the gift you got for them and re-live the excitement of giving during the holidays. It may help to wrap the gift before the ceremony, but not necessary. Hold the gift and close your eyes - visualize giving the person or pet the gift and watch their reaction. Feel the warmth of giving - you are giving the spirit a gift for the next world. Let that warm feeling sink deep into your heart. Place the gift on top of the photo next to the bowl.

The charcoal should be really hot by now, so be careful when you are around it. Take the willow or cherry bark and place it on the charcoal. Willow and cherry are known for there principles of carrying messages to the other worlds - even the Native American medicine of the central plains use these barks for the same purpose. As soon as smoke starts billowing up, and possibly a little flame starting up, place the photo with your tears on it and the gift on top of the little fire. As they burn, they loose shape in the common world (our normal conscious world) and take shape in the other world. This is how the spirit of the one being mourned for will receive these gifts. They will see your tears, and receive the gift. Watch the smoke go up, and visualize this transaction in your minds eye.

The charcoal will now burn for a long time - you may want to burn the sweet incense now to cover up any foul smells caused by a burning photo. Close circle by thanking all the quarters and the spirits you called before. Wish the mourned spirits good health and happiness, and close sacred space. The spell is now complete. Allow the charcoal to burn out - don't leave the room until it is cold to the touch to avoid any fire hazards - if you must leave before that, spill a cup of water on it, pick it up, and put it in a glass of water just to be on the safe side. When you are absolutely sure it is cold, you can leave.

This spell should be your closure, and give you a chance to 'make peace' and say your thoughts. You may still feel pain afterwards, but you will know that you have properly grieved. The spell is not carved in stone, and every situation is different, some be sure to customize and change the spell as you see fit.

http://www.whisperingstone.com/information-witch-grief.htm

[windex]

Hmm, the grieving spell that you posted the link for (how's that for a badly worded sentence), I dunno it seems like it's a visualization exercise, like wouldn't it work just as well with a differently colored candle, or even without the candle and the spiritual connotations it carries?

[Flar's Freyja]

:wave: Merry Meet and Welcome, Windex!

Yes. Any magickal ritual or meditation works just as well with substitutions. Often, some of the items recommended are not available. It is also appropriate to use colors and herbs that have significance to you. For instance, while green is the recommended color for money and prosperity spells, it also symbolizes healing to me and I often use green candles for healing spells. White may also be substituted when you can not find the recommended color. The most important element is intent, and anything works as long as your intent is appropriate.

[Flaire-FireStar]

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