Desperate for advice.

[SpikesPet5150]

Hey guys... I need some advice. It's kind of a weird story, so here goes. Me and this girl Mel were really good friends, for years. Then recently, we fell out of touch. We were both just busy with out lives and all that stuff. Then, we had a huge fight. HUGE fight. We haven't spoken for almost a year, though we do have mutual friends.

So today, I get home from work, and my friend Jami (mutual friend) calls. Mel's dad killed himself last night. So... my question is.. what do I do? I want to be there for her, but I don't want to be her friend again. Should I send her a card? Flowers? I'm going to go to the funeral, not for her (completely) but because her dad was a wonderful man and I'm really going to miss him. I want to do something. When my uncle killed myself (a couple years ago), she left a single daisey and a card on my doorstep, and it meant so much to me... I would like to be able to help her out.

Also, some healing energy for her and her mom would be great... I understand what they're going through, and it's going to be tough on them. Thanks in advance guys.
~Bree

[MammaStar]

Bree, I would leave a flower & card for her and her mom. Just so they know that you were thinking of them at this awlful time in their lives.

[)O( ~ Khara~ )O(]

Maybe this is an opening for you to renew a longterm friendship. Death and birth can overcome almost any obstacle no matter how huge! I would look to see if this is where the Goddess is leading you.

If no then I agree with Star, a card and a flower and your condolences.

[Witchy Cowgirl]

Yes Bree, I agree, a flower and a card left on the doorstep just as she did for you would be a beautiful and touching way to let her know that you care and that you remember.

As Khara said this could be a opening to re-kindle your friendship but if you feel that isn't the path you should take then the returned gesture should be the right touch.

((((hugs to you, her, and her mom))))

[gunner]

i notice it's mostly the ladies that have answered this thread, i agree with them, return her gesture just as she did it originally, a daisy and a card. whether you end up reviving the friendship is for the fates but she was a friend and you respected her father so it would be a right thing to do no matter what the outcome.

[materra]

What Gunner said... warm hugs Bree... BB

[Mithrea]

I already told you this in IM but I'll put it here today in case you need reminding. You are a good thoughtful person and it makes sense that you want to help. But sweetie, just because someone's Dad kills themself, it doesn't make them suddenly worthy of your friendship again and you know that's what would happen if you tried to be there for her. Send her a card, through the mail.

**Hugs**

[Old Witch]

What everybody else said....plus hugs for everyone involved..........

[SimplyStrange]

Even if you don't intend to be her friend again, people always need people to be there for them. At least let her know that you're thinking of her or him or whoever, and that she's not alone. If it meant that much to you when she left you a flower and card, then you know it would mean it to her to do it back. At the very least, it's also a respect to her father as well.

:( I hope you get things figured out. {{{{{{{{{{Bree}}}}}}}}}}

[Tammy Sullivan]

I agree with Mith on this one. A card sent to her will let her know that you are wishing her healing, without having to risk any sort of contact that may be embarrassing. The fact that you are thinking of her enough to send a card is a wonderful and touching gesture in my book.

[MistOfTheSea86]

Whatever you do it will be the right decision, as everyone has said here you are a great person and your willingness to hope alone shows that. You're heart never ceases to amaze me, and please give my best wishes to Mel and Hers.