Some new guy ranting...

[Mysticspyrall4]

Just yakkin about nothing, so reading any further is pretty useless.

Why is it that people seem to use affection as a means to use me? I like to help people, it makes me happy, but when I do, it's like, people show interest in me, and then, once I've helped them, they move on. Am I the only person that thinks that's kinda messed up? Is it ok to break up with someone even if you still love them? What if they've forgotten you afterwards? Hmmm, then I'm the idiot for doing it. Have you ever wondered if you were the only actualy person, like say, the main character in a book, and that whenever you hear someone shout or something, it's just some figment trying to gain more space in you book, where it'll read...

And I was walking down the hall, and someone yelled...

and that's all they get? Since you're the main character? Isn't that theory selfish? Why do people assume that there is a god...and if so...why is it assumed that he/she meant to create humanity? To ants we may seem like god, so does that mean that god could merely be someone higher life form, possibly even an evil life form? Why is it that everytime I do something for someone, they seem to think that I want something in return? Am I the only person not attracted to people who look TOO good, because most of them seem to be uptight? Am I the only one that notices the people that actually do look good, but seem to pass below everyone's eyes? Am I ranting about nothing....yes..... Why do people stay with boyfriends/girlfriends that they know suck? Even when they say things like "I shoulda listened to you before" with previous relationships? Why do the majority of americans dislike canada? I like it.... Does true long lasting love exist anymore? If not, what happened to it? What's wrong with me? Why do I ask questions like these? Why is someone inevitably going to post something to the effect of "You're an idiot, stop being stupid"? Does that person not like me? Will that person even appear? Am I tired? Yes...am I going to sleep?

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[Mithrea]

Hi Mysticspyrall4 :wave:

First of all, welcome to Mysticwicks :)

I moved this thread to Just Talk because you raise many issues here that aren't Theology or Philosophy and more people will get to read it in Just Talk. Feel free to pm me if you have any questions. :)

As to your post, I would say, no, you aren't the only one and I think you will find there are many folks here at MW that do see things in a way more similar to yourself. Most of us ask those same type of questions. For me, I can say, that is what brought me to my path and then, in turn to MW ;)

[shnen]

MM Mysticspyrall4! :wave:

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I like to help people, it makes me happy, but when I do, it's like, people show interest in me, and then, once I've helped them, they move on.
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that saounds all too familiar with me. but I figure, you know what, I am glad I helped, I was placed in their life at that time for them, and what did I learn from it. Yes, it does hurt, but we are only human. besides I would rather help people and have them continue happier, then not care about people and be misearable.

[Semele]

Your an idiot, stop being stupid!! Just kidding of course!! Aren't self-fulfilling prophecies fun?!:D

I have thought many of the same thoughts and continue to do so quite regularly. I think it is natural for us to question everything. It is when we stop questioning things that we become placid and in my opinion stop truly living and learning.

[Amemphis]

Welcome to Mystic Wicks.
You bring up alot of good questions that I myself would like answered. Especially the questions about love. *sigh* Love is a mystery that no one will unravel.

imo is not okay to break up with someone if you love them. That causes yourself pain and the other person. Believe me. Im experiencing it.

[Raevyn]

Originally posted by Mysticspyrall4
Am I the only person that thinks that's kinda messed up?

Nope. So be more careful about who you help out - if you want to just help them out with nothing in return do so, but if you expect friendship or something else, keep that in mind as well. You can't protect yourself from users all the time, but you can be more careful about who you help and when.


Is it ok to break up with someone even if you still love them? What if they've forgotten you afterwards?

Yeah sure, love isn't the only requirement in a relationship. Sometimes things just aren't going to work, though sometimes they just take more work to keep it together. That's something you have to decide for yourself.


Isn't that theory selfish?

Not really. A character not having a big part in a story doesn't make you selfish, it means they have a part in their own story. I wonder about that sometimes too, but then if it's true.. so? What can ya do about it.


Why do people assume that there is a god...and if so...why is it assumed that he/she meant to create humanity?

Well people don't assume that necessarily. I don't believe God created humanity, and I personally don't "believe" in God as much as know Gods exist. I've experienced them, you know? It'd be like saying "do you believe in trees" - well I don't, no, I know they exist.


does that mean that god could merely be someone higher life form, possibly even an evil life form?

Yeah.. so? I'm not trying to be rude or anything, my point is that may be true or it may not be, and I'm not sure it matters.


Why is it that everytime I do something for someone, they seem to think that I want something in return?

I dunno, but at the beginning of your post you complain about people who use you and drop you. So it would seem to me sometimes you do want something in return, even if that's just friendship or thanks, or some sort of appreciation or affection.


Am I the only person not attracted to people who look TOO good, because most of them seem to be uptight?

Well as long as you don't think of beauty or attractiveness as *synonymous* with being uptight, I don't imagine it matters. Some not so attractive people have their own problems, such as being uptight, and of course some physically attractive people are unattractive inside.


Why do people stay with boyfriends/girlfriends that they know suck? Even when they say things like "I shoulda listened to you before" with previous relationships?

I dunno, some people probably subconsciously like to be treated badly, or think they deserve to be treated badly.


Why do the majority of americans dislike canada?

The majority doesn't. I actually don't know any Americans who dislike Canada, or vice versa really.


Does true long lasting love exist anymore?

Yep.

You're not an idiot, we all just sometimes randomly wonder about stuff.

[Djiril]

Don't believe in simple introductions, do you?:D

In answer to your questions:

Well, some people are jerks. No. I don't know. Maybe it wasn't meant to be. Yes. Yes, but that's ok. People like to believe in things that give them comfort. I hope not. Some people are just distrustful. Probably not. Probably not. You sure are. Humanity makes no sense to me sometimes. I like it too. I wouldn't know. Did it ever exist? You need milk. Because you're a nutcase. Why shouldn't they? Maybe you should ask them. Yes. No. Brush your teeth first!

[FLipsiDE]

Why is it that people seem to use affection as a means to use me? I like to help people, it makes me happy, but when I do, it's like, people show interest in me, and then, once I've helped them, they move on. Am I the only person that thinks that's kinda messed up?

Here's an observation I have made in the past... it may or may not apply to you, I dunno. :shrug:

It's possible to use almost any social action as a type of emotional blackmail. When you do things to help people, are you using this help as an excuse to try and get them to be your friend? Helping someone with the intent to use that as a platform for getting closer to them is often pretty noticable and can make a person feel just as used as in your example. If you intend to help, do so without any expectation or goal other than to be of assistance. You can be polite and nice and funny... but TRYING to use the help as an "in" can put people on the defensive.

Why spend so much time helping those who aren't your friends? Make friends first with those who want friends. Then if someone else needs help you can help without requiring friendship as a payment and if your friends need help you have an excuse for not helping the others. 'My friends come first.'

Like I said, I don't know you at all, just an observation and quite probably an unwarranted one.

[Mysticspyrall4]

Then if it doesn't really matter then why does it trouble so many? Why is it such a hassle to be indifferent? If I don't say anything, why does that cause other people to continue to speak to me? I was once told that if you don't respond to people messin with you, they'll stop, why'd they lie to me? If I say I like to help people, why is it suspected that I want something out of it? What's wrong with helping people who AREN'T my friends? If a friend and myself play a game, and I haven't said anything, why do they take it upon themselves to talk shit? Why do people do that in the first place? Why do people take imaginary things so seriously? Why is tetris one of the best games ever? =P So if I try to become good at something, and I'm not as good as someone who has been doing it for awhile, why do they seem to get a kick out of being better than me at it? Why is it that people with crap relationships want to give me advice? Why is it that if I'm honest, people either think I'm weak, open, or an asshole?

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