A bit odd

[Corvis Canis Latrans]

Impressions I've been getting from a coworker:

He seems like a nice enough guy and I want to like him, but somehow there's just this "ICK" factor and warning bells chiming. Not a feeling that he's a bad person, but just something...off kilter, wrong, oil/water, something odd and I do not want to be anywhere in his vicinity or in the same room even.

At least I don't have to work directly with him, he's a different department.

But....just...even bad feelings about people, that they really do have malicious intentions, don't feel quite this adverse....I can tolerate maliciousness or ill intent but I don't get that impression from him, it's like he means well but there's something very hidden and...ugly (that's not right either, because it doesn't feel negative) farther down.

Something not wrong, but completely incompatible with everything I am?

I can't quite articulate it. But feel that it's better to avoid him as much as possible, even though he doesn't feel in any way like a threat.

Sort of agitated blech.

Thoughts?

[Corvis Canis Latrans]

I'm not even entirely sure what I'm asking, I guess whether other people have had similar experiences and if they have a theory of why, or experience as to how that person actually turned out to be?

[sleepycat]

Sometimes two people's energy just does not mix. Nothing wring with either of them, they just don't mix.

Having said that, I would be very cautious about being alone with this guy. Alarm bells usually sound for a reason.

[Corvis Canis Latrans]

Sometimes two people's energy just does not mix. Nothing wring with either of them, they just don't mix.

True. I wondered if that were part of it.


Having said that, I would be very cautious about being alone with this guy. Alarm bells usually sound for a reason.


Yeah, given that both our offices are pretty busy there'd be no normal circumstances in which I would be alone with him.

[Corvis Canis Latrans]

One of the interesting things: (requires a bit of background)

I got my MA in Italian Renaissance Art, and usually I'm comfortable with telling people that my academic interest was in those aspects that today tend to be considered occult, like astrology, alchemy, the pre-occult development of tarot and such.

It gives me a good way of determining exactly what people's takes on such subjects are because most people don't feel threatened by an academic interest in such subjects (they might denigrate it as not worth academic study, laughable, etc, or they might cringe and be uncomfortable by the thought of that interest, but because it's academic, they don't typically feel threatened by me, and I can get an idea by their reaction of whether they would or not if they knew my interest was more than academic).

It avoids the mess of the devil-worship freak-out song and dance which I've encountered in the past when I don't test the waters with the "academic interest" first.

With him I had the strongest feeling that it would be a bad idea to tell him. Again, not that he would judge it badly or that he'd feel threatened by it, but just a feeling of Do Not Tell.

And so I haven't. He did ask, in just the usual ways new people try to learn about their coworkers, and that very strong feeling of don't tell came, which caught me off guard and caused me to vaguely stutter about "ah, general interest in the time period and all, no specific interest" :uhhuhuh:.

Something tells me I need to work on my lines for other situations where I might feel (or know for a fact) that it's a bad idea to mention my real interests in the period...development of mythological themes in more secular art, yeah, that's it. :weirdsmil :uhhuhuh:

I might occasionally have the feeling that I need to tread with caution in describing my interests, but that's the first time I got a clear impression of not telling, though not exactly why I shoudn't....

[Æon Flux]

I've had the same feelings, unfortunately for superiors.
They all turned out to be people that I couldn't trust, people who would rather fire me than deal with sexual harassment within the team as well as sexist people who've been accused of abuse of women. One co-worker included in the second job position was a stalker and had been stalking and secxually harassing said people at the company for years.

I've also had said feelings about friends of a friend.... one turned out to be a stalker and heroin addict, another one turned out to be a regular sleaze, some I still don't know what was going on with and some have proven to be unfounded.

Sometimes feelings are correct, sometimes they're not... I usually chose to go by my instincts these days.

[Dio]

Years ago, I worked for a small video rental shop that had one other shop in the city. A new guy started managing the second shop, and for whatever reason, he gave me the irks. He seemed like the nicest person you could know, and no one else who knew him mentioned anything bad about him. I couldn't explain it and I actually felt bad about it. He was so nice and friendly, but I just couldn't help but feel irked over him.

Not too long after he started working there, that particular shop was robbed. Someone 'broke in' and stole the entire safe. That 'someone' turned out to be 'irky guy'. He turned out to be not very trustworthy, and my feelings made much more sense to me. Maybe your new co-worker isn't trustworthy either.

Definately rely on your intuition and don't give him too much information about yourself if that's how you feel.

[Xander67]

trust your intuition corvis..
if your higer self is sending you signals then perhaps it is just protecting you.
I am not saying avoid all together, but untill you know more just keep contact on work basis for now..

some hematite will help ward off negativity as well and you should keep your psychic shield up.

[Cassie]

Yep, when in doubt, trust your instincts.

[AncientFlame]

I've been through that kind of situation before - work and/or otherwise.
And I truly agree with the previous posters: trust your instincts.

[TeamTwig]

It's been said, but I'll add mine to the pot anyway - always trust your instincts, especially when they're as strong as yours seem to be about this guy.

I learned a long time ago, after getting burned a few times, to always trust my gut about people and situations. If you open your mind and listen to what it's telling you, you can save yourself a lot of grief.