Shielding help?

[Newbieoffractals]

I normally keep up a very strong shield, of basically fiery mirrors towards anyone that tries to pry on my mind to find out what I'm thinking, with earth grounding all of it. However, recently, that shield hasn't been working as well, and I can feel when people are trying to pry. The only people that I think could be doing it is a dear friend who is new to paganism completely(I've offered her the advice I know on this, but she's said she'd rather learn on her own) and might be experimenting. Seeing as I'd rather not hurt my friend, any good ways to juice up a shield and REALLY get the message across that it's not welcome(Other than telling her, since it might not be her.)? It's not horrible, it's just when I let people bug into my shield, I end up with a nasty migraine, and I try to avoid that!

[~*Sacred*~]

I have no idea about how to make it stronger, I suck at making them period.

Maybe just jokingly make a comment around her about your shield. If it is her, maybe she'll get the picture?

[Newbieoffractals]

Yeah, maybe politely asking her in a joking manner to lay off might work. But if it's not her, then I'm back to square one. I do know quite a few other pagans in my area who might do the same thing, and some of them might not know how to stop it. Thanks for the tip though.

[Lunacie]

I normally keep up a very strong shield, of basically fiery mirrors towards anyone that tries to pry on my mind to find out what I'm thinking, with earth grounding all of it. However, recently, that shield hasn't been working as well, and I can feel when people are trying to pry. The only people that I think could be doing it is a dear friend who is new to paganism completely(I've offered her the advice I know on this, but she's said she'd rather learn on her own) and might be experimenting. Seeing as I'd rather not hurt my friend, any good ways to juice up a shield and REALLY get the message across that it's not welcome(Other than telling her, since it might not be her.)? It's not horrible, it's just when I let people bug into my shield, I end up with a nasty migraine, and I try to avoid that!

I'd probably turn the discussion towards shielding, and then casaually mention that you've noticed someone trying to poke through your shield recently, and that you find it affects you physically for some reason. Maybe also get a discussion going about whether it's ethical to "window peek" with our psychic senses. Get her to do some thinking about the situation. If she's the one doing it, she might fess up, or just stop trying to poke a window in your shield.

And maybe you could make your shield slippery so that stuff like that slides off it instead of sticking to it and making you feel icky?

[TheWomanMonster]

I'd talk to her directly to be honest.
If she's as open as you say she is she'll understand.

Just say it straight out.

[Weatherlite]

I agree that talking to the friend is the best route. But, what if it's not her? Or what if it is and she persists? You'll still need to beef up that shield. Sometimes it's the type of shield that I envision which changes things up. For protection against some things mirrors work great...but they can do harm if something big bounces back to the sender. I like a fire one as in my mind it incinerates the negatives. So I think you just need to do a little experimentation to see which works best for this sort of thing.

Now, if you just need to boost it, spend a little more time shaping it is what I would do. Tends to give it a little more energy and better "shape".

[Lunacie]

I agree that talking to the friend is the best route. But, what if it's not her? Or what if it is and she persists? You'll still need to beef up that shield. Sometimes it's the type of shield that I envision which changes things up. For protection against some things mirrors work great...but they can do harm if something big bounces back to the sender. I like a fire one as in my mind it incinerates the negatives. So I think you just need to do a little experimentation to see which works best for this sort of thing.

Now, if you just need to boost it, spend a little more time shaping it is what I would do. Tends to give it a little more energy and better "shape".

I like the fire idea as much as the slippery idea (water off a duck's back ya know). Might be fun to start a thread that could be stickied about all the different ways people have tweaked or modified their shields eh?

[aluokaloo]

an ice sphere works wonders. it's simple and effective and because of it's round surface it makes it twice as hard for anyone to get a good grip.

as far as strengthening your shield, a shield is only as strong as you make it.


as far as your friend goes, maybe do a simple yes or no divination first if you are feeling uncomfortable about confronting her.

[Newbieoffractals]

Thanks everyone, I've tried the sphere shape and it seems to help a lot. Same deal with the slippery bit!

I'm working on how to broach the topic with her, since she seems a little confused around me, and has asked me if I'm OK. But, I do plan on discussing it soon, as soon as we end up discussing a paganish topic again. Which will probably be soon.