I want her OUT of my dreams.

[~*Sacred*~]

June 9th 2009 was the last time I saw my mother or talked to her. We cut her out of our lives for safety reasons. She is a walking cloud of negativity and danger.

EVERY SINGLE NIGHT I dream of her. Sometimes they are good dreams, other times (most of the time) it is reliving (in some way) what happened the night of June 9th.

I had a nap yesterday and she was in that too. I am REALLY tired of living through negative stuff in my dreams. Why can't she just get out of my head? I've never dealt with anything like this before.

What could this mean? I'll take ANYTHING anyone has. Maybe there is a deep rooted meaning that I'm working with inside myself because she is my mother, I don't know. I just need ideas and help to get this to stop because I'm DONE with it. I want my dream world back.

[HetHert]

June 9th 2009 was the last time I saw my mother or talked to her. We cut her out of our lives for safety reasons. She is a walking cloud of negativity and danger.

EVERY SINGLE NIGHT I dream of her. Sometimes they are good dreams, other times (most of the time) it is reliving (in some way) what happened the night of June 9th.

I had a nap yesterday and she was in that too. I am REALLY tired of living through negative stuff in my dreams. Why can't she just get out of my head? I've never dealt with anything like this before.

What could this mean? I'll take ANYTHING anyone has. Maybe there is a deep rooted meaning that I'm working with inside myself because she is my mother, I don't know. I just need ideas and help to get this to stop because I'm DONE with it. I want my dream world back.

Most likely you have unresolved issues. Until you confront and deal with the issues that you have with your Mom and her displacement from your life your mind and heart are going to continue to try and find meaning and closure. Moms/Mother figures are a huge part of our being and she has a rather large seat in a persons psyche. Think of Mom as your intro to Goddess. Ultimately, whether she lived up to the archetype or not, she is nurturer, support, strength, guidance...she is a lot of things to the heart and soul of a person.

You may want to find someone to talk to about what has happened between you and your mom. A professional will be able to help you find some understanding and solace with your decisions. A Jungian based therapist will help you peel away at your dreams.

If you can't afford a professional than a confidant who is a great listener and also keeping journal will help. You need to be able to get these dreams and thoughts out of your heart and mind so you can really look at what your issues are and find constructive ways to address them.

My husband had to make separation from his mom and it took some support from his friends and a professional consultation or 4 to help him find a place of understanding why it was better for him to make the separation. He knew what he had to do but didn't understand why it had to come to that.


If you want someone to talk to for moral support or just an ear shoot me a PM.

:hugz:

[~*Sacred*~]

I don't have any issues on the relationship aspect, I have never been close with her or thought much of her except she was my mother so I loved her. It doesn't bother me in the slightest she is not in my life. It bothers me that my daughter loves her very much and was there during that night and remembers what happened (she'll still make comments here or there about it, in fact as I say that I think my daughter made a comment in my dream about her..).

The whole apple doesn't fall far from the tree - I don't want to be like her, I'm thinking that's where my issues are coming from. We'll see.. I still haven't interpreted the last three dreams I've had so I'll see what that say and what the dreams say for the next couple days now that I'm actively understanding that I'm not like her in any of the ways that I'm afraid to be.

[Corvis Canis Latrans]

You might want to take a skim through this thread, "Cutting the Cords".

http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=158966

It's long, but might have some valid insight on what you're experiencing and how to cope.

Even if you don't believe in the existence of the actual cords binding you to another, the visualization of cord cutting I think can function well simply from a metaphoric, symbolic perspective for your subconscious mind.

[aluokaloo]

because your allowing her to permeate your dreams.

[~*Sacred*~]

because your allowing her to permeate your dreams.
I'm not sure I follow what you're saying....? srry....

My husband says I need to let go of her and stop being afraid. I have no problem letting go of her, what I am afraid of is her possible future harassment that will affect my kids. She has already threatened grandparents rights (which any judge would laugh at with how utterly messed up she is), and it's all just talk on her part, but I am still afraid of the repercussions she will have on my children if she tries to make contact with us.

I will read the cord cutting thread Corvis, thank you!

[TheWomanMonster]

Cord cutting will help immensely.
But I'd also take a look at what you might be hanging on to emotionally and psychologically and address those things as well.

[Twinkle]

This may also have something to do with your experience with Hekate , as well.

A friend of mine once told me that she usually shows up at a point of great transformation - and with that transformation comes pain and sometimes loss.

This may be a *huge* time for you, and you are in the process of working through a great many thoughts and feelings in order to reach the other side. :)

[~*Sacred*~]

Cord cutting will help immensely.
But I'd also take a look at what you might be hanging on to emotionally and psychologically and address those things as well.
Yes, I have been. My fear is being like her so I'm working towards changing myself so I can be better for myself and for my family.

This may also have something to do with your experience with Hekate , as well.

A friend of mine once told me that she usually shows up at a point of great transformation - and with that transformation comes pain and sometimes loss.

This may be a *huge* time for you, and you are in the process of working through a great many thoughts and feelings in order to reach the other side. :)
This is also what I've been thinking. In my thread on Hekate coming to me as a Crone, how I said that I think I know why she came to me as that... I have not had a mother figure for years and I think Hekate was coming across as that way for me to look up to her in that aspect. Over the past few years I have had SO many changes in my life, and the biggest ones have been happening in the past year and I'm hoping to have even bigger ones happen this year. I think that is why she came to me, because I am (and have) most certainly been at a crossroads on MANY things in my life.

[aluokaloo]

I'm not sure I follow what you're saying....? srry....

My husband says I need to let go of her and stop being afraid. I have no problem letting go of her, what I am afraid of is her possible future harassment that will affect my kids. She has already threatened grandparents rights (which any judge would laugh at with how utterly messed up she is), and it's all just talk on her part, but I am still afraid of the repercussions she will have on my children if she tries to make contact with us.

I will read the cord cutting thread Corvis, thank you!

it sounds as though you are spending a sufficient amount of time and energy about how she makes you feel, about all the negative encounters you have had in the past and so not unlike constantly worrying about if you have enough money to make it, or having another negative person/encounter in your life it also manifests in your dreaming moments. savvy? :)

[~*Sacred*~]

it sounds as though you are spending a sufficient amount of time and energy about how she makes you feel, about all the negative encounters you have had in the past and so not unlike constantly worrying about if you have enough money to make it, or having another negative person/encounter in your life it also manifests in your dreaming moments. savvy? :)
very savvy baby...:toofless: LOL!

Yes, this makes sense too.

Now I have to watch Pirates of the Caribbean today...

[~*Sacred*~]

I forgot to add, that I cannot remember dreaming of my mother last night :hi5: Not to say I didn't, but I haven't had a night yet where I didn't remember her in it, and last night I have no memories, so I can only assume she wasn't in my dreams.

In fact, the only thing I remember last night was dreaming about being on MW....:smileroll LOL!

[aluokaloo]

bwahaha! now we've invaded your personal dreams! :devil:


:T


right on Sacred.:hi5:

[~*Sacred*~]

bwahaha! now we've invaded your personal dreams! :devil:


:T


right on Sacred.:hi5:
/sigh... yes i am doomed :thumbsup:

[TheWomanMonster]

So what did you change?
:)

[~*Sacred*~]

So what did you change?
:)
Nothing. I think just talking things through on here made me get things off my chest? I'm really not sure. I guess I had "confirmation" that I was allowed to let go. Oh AND reading some of the Cord Cutting thread. I only got to page 5, so I still have a ton more to read... but just reading a lot of what was in there validated that I need to cut cords from her...that I have a lot of baggage from her. I gave myself permission to let go of a lot of stuff yesterday.

[TheWomanMonster]

Nothing. I think just talking things through on here made me get things off my chest? I'm really not sure. I guess I had "confirmation" that I was allowed to let go. Oh AND reading some of the Cord Cutting thread. I only got to page 5, so I still have a ton more to read... but just reading a lot of what was in there validated that I need to cut cords from her...that I have a lot of baggage from her. I gave myself permission to let go of a lot of stuff yesterday.

Good good!!
Well keep healing hun.
:hugz:

[PepperMintFairy]

The only thing i could recomend is something my friend does for her little sister. She takes dream catchers and empowers them to stop specific dreams. you could probably get a small one at the store.

[~*Sacred*~]

The only thing i could recomend is something my friend does for her little sister. She takes dream catchers and empowers them to stop specific dreams. you could probably get a small one at the store.
That's a great idea. Thank you :)