Which Dress is Best?

[Flar's Freyja]

Okay - I had a dress picked out for our handfasting, but when Flar's mom and I were looking at fabrics, we found another, ready-made dress in the site's budget section that Flar's mom was crazy about. Just for the fun of it, I made an offer that I felt was ridiculously low and was shocked when it was accepted! Flar likes the first dress better, but I'm more drawn to the second one.

Just thought I'd give y'all something to do...........

[Flaire-FireStar]

I still like the first one better! :lol:

[Flar's Freyja]

Then vote for it, please! :lol:

[Flaire-FireStar]

I voted after. ;)

[Flar's Freyja]

:D Never mind, I guess it doesn't show the votes unless I vote, and I can't, because I can't decide and that's why I posted the poll!

[fire_Raven]

i lie kthe first one better as well... its pretty and has color O.o

[Mithrea]

Psst Freyja--click the "view results" link beside vote ;)

[Scarlettvixen]

Well i voted for the 2nd URL Freyja
but it really depends on yr colouring and what you want for a wedding

the first one is nice, but to me the second one was special

good luck on yr handfasting

[WtchyChick13]

I like the second one. :D

[WynterWynd]

I really like the first one!;)

[Flar's Freyja]

Originally posted by Mithrea
Psst Freyja--click the "view results" link beside vote ;)

:lol: Flar just showed me......

[st0rm]

I like the sceond one the best

[Witchy Cowgirl]

Second one.:)

[shnen]

I like the second one... :)

[Stacy]

second one

[MammaStar]

I voted the first one. :)

[Mithrea]

I voted 1.

[Flar's Freyja]

Looks like #2 is winning so far......I'm mailing the money today, and will have to decide by the time she receives it! I still think they're both beautiful....Flar is even playing around with the idea of trying to get both of them ;)

They're not kidding when they say weddings are stressful - even small ones. I've been talking about this handfasting with my high priest for six months - and even brought Joe over there to show him the grounds - and last night received an e-mail from him saying that it can't be held there that weekend! This also implies that my friend and high priestess can't officiate, either, and I haven't been able to get in touch with her to find out for sure. And - he offered me another date - March 31 - which doesn't work because Flar's parents have already made their arrangements to get off work, and for gods' sake we picked the date because of the significance of Imbolc AND the fact that it's at new moon.......When I explained that, he e-mailed back and said he'd figure something out, but I'd already gotten snippy and told him to forget it, we'd just do it at our house....

This right after I got an NSF notice from the bank charging me $88 in fees when TWO deposits were made that day......Flar had his work cut out for him de-stressing me last night - but he did a fine job ;)

[WandererInGray]

*puzzled look* Am I just a dork today....there's a couple of dresses on each page I clicked. So is it just the first one on each page?

[Old Witch]

I looked and looked....I like the second one .........:D

[Flar's Freyja]

Originally posted by WandererInGray
*puzzled look* Am I just a dork today....there's a couple of dresses on each page I clicked. So is it just the first one on each page?

The second page is the same dress showing all angles, with and without the wrap, etc.

The one on the first page that we're looking at is the Irish Gown. It's about halfway down. Sorry about that.....some people already knew that because I showed it to them in a few other threads.

[shnen]

is there any way you could add dark accents to #2, or make some kind of cloak ??? :)

no matter what, Freyja will be beautiful :D

[Flar's Freyja]

Originally posted by shnen
is there any way you could add dark accents to #2, or make some kind of cloak ??? :)

no matter what, Freyja will be beautiful :D

Flar's mom loved the cloak on another page, but we really can't afford it right now. Heather, the seamstress, said that the picture really doesn't do that dress justice - and it IS a wedding dress, so all white is traditional. I also love the Irish Gown in blue, and velvet is nice for a February handfasting.

Flar had fun measuring me ;) And if we take the second dress, she's going to have to cut off ten inches of length!

[Cinnamon Girl]

I liked the second one better. :)

[Semele]

I finally decided I like the first one best...after someone else took the plunge and asked for clarification on which dresses we were looking at!!:D

They are both great though!

[WandererInGray]

*chuckles* You're welcome Semele! ;)

I like the second one, Freyja...it's lovely.

[Azure]

It's the seamstress in me - I like the first one for tailoring and construction.

(But they are both pretty Freyja. Either way you're gonna look great).

[Ravens_Tears]

Well, personally I can't pick between them either:D Can you afford both? You could wear the second for the actual handfasting and the first would make a great "let down your hair and celebrate" dress!!!!:D Mind you, I would actually like taking the overdress from the first and wearing it with the second.... But then I've always been a little ecclectic...

[SuperHeroGirl]

ohhh! thyer bot oh-so pretty! I want one!

[materra]

Voted for 2... cuz I am a traditionalist of the most recent century.
You will look lovely regardless....

[Rubi Waters]

Oh so hard to choose...both are extreemly beautiful and both would look very pretty on you. I myself love the white one, but I love the elfish flowy look. either one you chose will be perfect!

[flar7]

Flar likes the first one. Its more pagany.:huh:

[Scarlettvixen]

Flar likes the first one. Its more pagany


Is it a pagan superstition that the bethrothed isnt supposed to see the wedding dress before the actual wedding?

I know my scottish grandmothers were great believers in it

[WtchyChick13]

Originally posted by flar7
Flar likes the first one. Its more pagany.:huh:


Ummm, "pagany???" :huh: :T

[WynterWynd]

its his own word!!!;)

[WtchyChick13]

I'm sorry, it's late and I don't have my "Flar-to-English" dictionary with me. ;) :lol:

[Flar's Freyja]

Originally posted by Scarlettvixen
Is it a pagan superstition that the bethrothed isnt supposed to see the wedding dress before the actual wedding?

I know my scottish grandmothers were great believers in it

I'm not sure if it's of pagan origin or not, as my Italian Catholic family also believed something similar - but it was that the groom should not see the bride IN her wedding dress before the wedding.

[shnen]

I stick with my I like the second one, but if you could get some darker accents added in it would be nice... to make it more pagany for Flar.. ;)

[Faery-Wings]

Now for my two cents... :p

I voted for number two- as a wedding dress it is stunning! So romantic...*sigh*

But number one has some really good features too- you can wear it again for one. I also think it would be more appropriate for a handfasting it you are going for a very Irish/Pagan/Medieval type feel. Sorry I cannot explain that last part better, I hope you KWIM.

I have to second shnen- either way you are going to be absolutely gorgeous!

[Kilia]

I voted for # 2..
Both are nice, but the second one hit my eye more.
However, it's *your* day, so wear which one you like best, no? :)

[Flar's Freyja]

It just struck me that Flar is Christian and it seems he's the one who'd rather have a more "pagany" look :lol:

Shnen - I do have that silver wrap that he bought me a while ago, that might look better with the dress than the wrap that it comes with, so I'd have to see how it looks....

The Irish gown with a velvet overdress is a bit more expensive - Flar's mom has offered to pay for it but I'm not sure I want to let her......we can have it made in royal blue in the cotton.

I want the white one and as much as Flar likes the other one, I think that's what I'm going to go with......I do have some questions that have to be answered first and e-mailed Heather this morning.....I'm wondering if cutting so much off is going to affect where the empire waist falls and if the sleeves may not also be way too long.

I may be posting another thread to get your ideas on how to decorate the house. I think that we will be having the ritual here instead of at Circle.....and if it does turn out to be warm enough out, there is a nice wooded area directly behind the house that we could use.

Thanks so much to all of you for your help :heartthro

[Semele]

Of course Flar likes the "pagany" look...he's into all the weird stuff you know?!?

As for the not seeing the dress before and such...isn't there also something about virgins and white?? I am telling you the first dress is for you!! LOL!!! They are both awesome! I can't wait to see it on you in person!

[Flar's Freyja]

Originally posted by Semele
Of course Flar likes the "pagany" look...he's into all the weird stuff you know?!?

As for the not seeing the dress before and such...isn't there also something about virgins and white?? I am telling you the first dress is for you!! LOL!!! They are both awesome! I can't wait to see it on you in person!

If I didn't know you better I'd have to take your post as questionable :lol: ~ the recommendations for an Imbolc handfasting are that the bride wear white and the groom wear blue. In Christian traditions, white does represent virginity but to me it represents purity of spirit which has little to do with physical virginity.....and this sabbat represents light, so these are the correspondences I'm going by. The blue represents the sky.

Doesn't look like we can afford the first one in velvet and I'm not sure I want to go with the cotton, so it's still looking more like the white gown.

[Semele]

LOL!!! I am of course teasing you Freyja...I know your a virgin!! LOL!

I think the white one is perfect...maybe you can get the other one as a gift to wear somewhere else!!

[Witchy Cowgirl]

Originally posted by Freyja
I'm not sure if it's of pagan origin or not, as my Italian Catholic family also believed something similar - but it was that the groom should not see the bride IN her wedding dress before the wedding.

Weeellllllllllllllllll
Hubby and I had our pictures made BEFORE the wedding so he had no choice but to see me. Our wedding was outside and the photographer needed the light. It's been 16 years!:)

And as far the white dress somewhere I once read that the white was a sign of joy. :D I like that symbolism.

I'm so excited for ya'll!

[Old Witch]

You Are Not A Virgin Anymore?:eek: :eek: :eek:

[Flar's Freyja]

Originally posted by Old Witch
You Are Not A Virgin Anymore?:eek: :eek: :eek:

Yep - I immaculately conceived those three boys.......I plead insanity for being married to their father.......but they turned out well anyway ;)

>sigh< I wish I didn't love both dresses so much. I'm having a hard time conceiving :lol: that the Irish gown with a cotton overdress will be as pretty as if it were done in velvet. But Flar really, really likes that one and so I'm slowly turning that way 'cause when it comes to him I just can't say no......

[Rubi Waters]

Freyja Whichever dress you pick will be the perfect one and Flar will love you in it!!! They are both beautiful (and so are you) so the day will be perfect!

[WynterWynd]

Yeah what Rubi said!!! ;)

[Flar's Freyja]

:heartthro

Thanks, all of you. In the voting, the white Princess gown won - but I can't resist his lil puppy dog face, and we've decided on the Irish gown, in royal blue cotton for the overdress. Flar's mom gave me a beautiful necklace with teardrop stones in light blue and amber and I need to find some amber earrings to go with it. Amber is Freyja's stone..... I think I'll wear a pair of antique slippers that my Granny left me with it. They have almost no heel - Flar is not much taller than me so it's either flats or go barefoot to avoid being taller than he is......So, we have something old, something new, something blue - I'll have to come up with something to borrow......

At midnight Flar kissed me and said that I have one more month of freedom :lol:

Happy New Year to all, and I hope that the year is filled with abundant blessings!

[WynterWynd]

Happy New Year Freyja and Flar!!!! :boing:

[Old Witch]

Happy New Year!! I love you both.........:heartthro

[Rubi Waters]

Brightest blessings to Freyja & Flar
and a Happy New Year to you both! Even though it sounds as if your year has started out wonderfully. :)

[Semele]

Originally posted by Freyja
:I'll have to come up with something to borrow......


How about a 6 year old who loves you dearly?? He is availiable for six month rentals...and you get the special friend discount!!

[WynterWynd]

:rotfl: thats a good idea!!!!!

[Flar's Freyja]

Originally posted by Semele
How about a 6 year old who loves you dearly?? He is availiable for six month rentals...and you get the special friend discount!!

You know he's my special little friend, the special little guy ~ and I hope you'll bring him! We saw some garb in his size in the Ren Store catalog.................

I'm looking forward to the words of wisdom that he will inevitably come up with :T

Okay, friends - the dress comes with braided trim - do I want silver or gold?

[WynterWynd]

Silver!!!!! :boing:

[Flaire-FireStar]

Otay...I'm with VB! Silver! :thumbsup:

[shnen]

Silver! definately silver.. :)

[Siarlas]

SILVER SILVER SILVER!!!

[Old Witch]

Gotta be silver...........:)

[Semele]

Silver for sure!

[WtchyChick13]

Ok, I may be biased here because of the whole jewelry making thing...oh and the fact that I don't wear gold or think that gold should exist ( :lol: ) but I'd have to go with:


SILVER!!!





***This has been one short witch's opinion.***


:T

[Azure]

I just like blue and silver as a combination - it'll be wonderful.

[Lavender]

I'm confused...did you get the white dress or the blue one after all? I love them both too.

[Witchy Cowgirl]

SILVER!

[Rubi Waters]

Silver!!!!!! (if you counting that's 10 for silver :) )

[Flar's Freyja]

Originally posted by Wildchild
I'm confused...did you get the white dress or the blue one after all? I love them both too.

Flar really really really loved the blue dress, so I caved :lol: Seriously, since the white dress was already made, I had concerns about the fit. According to the measurements, it was made for a taller person. When Flar measured me, we found that I've apparently shrunk down to only five feet tall (I used to be 5'2") She was willing to hem it, but I worried that it would change the fit and that the sleeves might also be way too long.

And I ordered silver trim :bigredgri

[WynterWynd]

Yeah for the silver trim!!!! Your getting the gold with Flar!!!!! :cutie:

[Faery-Wings]

This is so exciting! I just love weddings and babies when they are happening to someone else.

This is going to be the most romantic wedding... *sighs happily*

[Flar's Freyja]

Originally posted by chryssi1
This is so exciting! I just love weddings and babies when they are happening to someone else.

:rotfl:

[Lavender]

Even though I voted for the white one, I really like the blue one better. I voted white coz it was more wedding-ish.

Has there been any more news on the online handfasting? :D This is so exciting!

[Flar's Freyja]

Semele is supposed to be asking Mol for ideas about that, if she can catch him relaxing for a few minutes.

Another friend has just offered her home. She has a beautiful Zen garden in the yard where we've done ritual, and if it happens to be warm enough outside we could have the ritual outdoors, and still be able to get into a house quickly. It would be nice to have it at our house, but I can't even sage the place due to Flar's inability to tolerate things like sage and incense. I know that I could cleanse with water and salt but it just isn't the same for me. My friend's garden area has some very good energy.

I also posted a thread over in the Green Room for feasting ideas.