Are You Passive or Aggressive in Every Day Thoughts

[Flaire-FireStar]

How do you deal with negitive thoughts? You know - you feel there's something going to happen, like i'm gonna get sick, get in a fight etc. Basically general worry.

[HuntinOwl]

I say it's not going to happen immediately. To take what energy it has.:smash:

[Scarlettvixen]

lol my option isnt there
my answer is sh*t happens and it always happens to me,
very like Murphys law lol

[WynterWynd]

I say its not going to happen, cause I believe if you think it will happen, then it will! ;)

[Armitage]

Ride with it. Maybe there's something to learn from it.

[Flaire-FireStar]

I'm a worrier.. So I'm worrying throughout the whole time while I wait for things to happen to me. :rolleyes:

[Radocs]

Whatever happens, happens. I try not to worry too much.

[adayinmylife]

Things have happened, do happen and will happen. I know it and live it but I still worrie. I deal with it the best way I can. Family and friends are her for me and me for them. People power all the way.

[HuntinOwl]

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[Old Witch]

I worry about everything all the time...................:rolleyes:

[Nissala]

I have inherited my mothers worryism, I wait to see if it's gonna happen but still worry in the mean time...:rolleyes:

[Raevyn]

I try to be proactive - if a situation is starting to stress me out I exit, if people are getting on my nerves I stay away from them, if friends are being flaky I cut them loose, if I might get sick I sleep more and get more OJ. I even take an Advil if I feel pain starting to come on. It's not that I worry so much anymore as much as that I recognize the possibility for something and act accordingly.

I used to worry about everything - I would spend hours analyzing everything I said and did and worrying about what might happen later. I guess one thing I took from being Wiccan was that I can almost always affect what's going on - I can recognize something and work energy or just do something physically most of the time to change something. I actually find the most frustrating thing to be when there's something I canNOT change - then I just have the choice of how to deal with it.

[Mythrel]

eh...don't worry about it...

[Mystsong]

I know stuff happens now and then... and I tend to worry still about it at least a little... but I try to not worry TOO much... Just those silly nagging thoughts in the back of my head...

[Danustouch]

I'm a paranoid worry wort. But..with good reason. Most of the time, when I feel something is going to happen, or is happening, it IS going to happen, or IS happening. For instance, my health. I can usually "Feel" when I'm going to get sick, before I actually DO get sick. This has been something which has been hard for John, and those around me to learn. Alot of times, I'll feel myself coming down with something, long before I start to develope symptoms. I'll then say that I need alot of rest. If I ignore this feeling, and don't take that rest, I almost always get ill. Once I start to develope the slightest cough, I'll ask John to take me to the clinic, to get meds. He thinks I'm over reacting, and often times, refuses to take me, saying that I'm too dependent on doctors. But..when he refuses, and I let that cough go, for even 24 hours, it developes into severe bronchitis immediately. He's learned to pay attention to my warning signs, because I've wound up in the hospital because he's ignored it.

Other situations I can think of....

There was a girl we knew over the summer, who I almost always had the feeling was flirting with John. Before we started to hang around with her, she always wore loose fitting jeans, and baggy sweat shirts, typical "i'm a housewife with two kids, I have more to worry about then dressing up" type fare. As soon as we started hanging around with her, I noticed her starting to dress in tight fitting, low cut shirts, or worse, tight fitting, low cut dresses, with very short skirts. She would sit in our back yard, watching her kids play, positioning her chair directly in view of our kitchen window..and ALWAYS around the time that John would be coming home for lunch. I confronted her on this, and asked her why the abrupt change in clothing style...and she said.."I'm simply trying to feel good about myself". I didn't buy it..I felt in my heart that something was wrong. But I had no proof. When she started coming up to our apartment, dressed like that, and being abnormally "Close" to John (sitting near him when he was on the computer, nearly bending over and exposing her wares to him, etc.) I confronted her again, and asked if she would mind wearing a little more clothing around him. Obviosly, he was not immune to this. He noticed it as much as I did. But...because she was a neighbor, and going through some difficult times, it was very hard for me to put my foot down, and tell her she couldn't come up to our apartment anymore, unless she toned down her wardrobe, and her behavior. Or..just cut her out all together. It continued to bother me. Eventually, things came to a head, and I wont' get into all the details of how. But after her husband wound up putting HIS foot down, and moving her and her family away... I wound up talking to this neighbors sister on the phone. Who informed me that she and her sister had had several conversations about John, and that Shannon (the neighbor) had told her sister that she wanted to sleep with John. That she'd actually gone out and purchased many of these outfits, because of him, and even gone out and bought lingerie, hoping for an opportunity to wear it for him.

Through the entire time we were hanging out together, I had the distinct feeling that she was trying to get something going with John. And many times, I confronted them both. Many times, when Shannon sought to be alone with him, I placed myself in the way. Had I ignored my gut feeling, I still haven't a clue what would have happened. There were times that John was drinking, and that she was drinking, and had they been given the opportunity to be alone...something might have happened.

Do I blame him as much as her? Of course. But..my point in relating this story, is that i've learned to pay attention to my instincts, the hard way.

Proactive behavior, has prevented the worst from occurring many times in my life.

[Stacy]

I say, it's not going to happen..

I believe in theory of "selffullfilling (sp?) prophecies"..

So the more I think only positive things are comming my way, the more they actually do..

JMO

[Flar's Freyja]

I answered that I ride it out. I recognize my negative thoughts, look at them, make my best effort to reframe it into a positive thought and move on - because I've learned that negative thoughts just attract more negative thoughts and all too often negative actions or events.

If it's consuming me strongly enough, I allow myself to get into the worry, anger, whatever for a little bit in order to get through it, but I don't allow myself to dwell on it for very long. Maybe it comes with getting older, but I've come to realize that no one can take the things that are really important to me away from me, because most of them, like my spirituality and self, are intangible to others.

[Psyche Ague]

Defecation occurs!

I'm completely laid back, although I do tend to worry about important things. The little things of life, however, are not worth worrying about. Sure, little things make up life...but they're not what life is all about.

[Rubi Waters]

I worry about everything first, then if it happens I'm ready for it. If it doesn't happen then I'm relieved.

(the thing is that in worrying about it I've already made myself either sick or angry :( but I still do it that way anyway )

[One Eyed]

Pessimist at heart over here hehe

[shnen]

I try to ride it out... see if I can tell the situation coming up where it would happen and change it. and if that is not an option, then deal with it... if it happens, I am meant to learn something from it.

[treefae]

be assertive when you start worrying too much use that worry energy and put it to something constructive.just like anger management it's worry management.take control of your behavior and channel it to something useful.

[Limey]

I just try not to think about it when that happens and deals with whatever comes when it comes as best I can, in between being antsy and not knowing what to do with myself :D

[Dio]

I used to worry about stuff a lot. But then my life became really complicated and convoluted. When everything is happening all at once...I stop caring. I just get most important things done as they need be done. Deal with the stupid shit as it comes. It is just stuff that happens.....I no longer have the time or energy to worry. Every now and then, something *really* stupid and insignificant will happen and it will set me off. Last straw and all. But that's not worry, that's just anger. :lol:

[LyraDragonStar]

Stuff happens... ya know?

If it's going to happen, I might worry, but I doubt it. I just let it happen. I like the feeling of bein anxious... lol. I'm weird, right?

[merlo]

I prefer breaking stuff. I don't do it often, but it feels GREAT! When I do tedious finish carpentry (beautiful wood craft) for days at a time, I often get a bit discombobulated in my down time. I have to balance out with something that is NOT structured and organized. Throwing a glass occasionally is wonderful.:viking:

[HetHert]

How do you deal with negitive thoughts? You know - you feel there's something going to happen, like i'm gonna get sick, get in a fight etc. Basically general worry.

Try to sabotage it with over optimistic outlook on the negative occurance.

If there is no forwarning or ability for a pre-emptive strike on the negativity one is being beseiged by than I'm all for sabotaging the occurance in the aftermath by playing up the positive outlook on the negative thing. Its my way of flipping off the negative things in life.

[WokeUpDead]

I worry a lot but I just assume it's nothing since that's the way it usually works. It doesn't make me worry any less but whatever.

[Philosophia]

Sometimes I worry, but lately its more "whatever".

[Vincent Verthaine]

Stuff happens.
I never worry about anything,I just deal with what comes along,and if I can't,no sense worrying about something I can't do anything about at the time.I'll just wait for the oppurtunity to do something about it.

[The Lady]

I try to be proactive - if a situation is starting to stress me out I exit, if people are getting on my nerves I stay away from them, if friends are being flaky I cut them loose, if I might get sick I sleep more and get more OJ. I even take an Advil if I feel pain starting to come on. It's not that I worry so much anymore as much as that I recognize the possibility for something and act accordingly.

I used to worry about everything - I would spend hours analyzing everything I said and did and worrying about what might happen later. I guess one thing I took from being Wiccan was that I can almost always affect what's going on - I can recognize something and work energy or just do something physically most of the time to change something. I actually find the most frustrating thing to be when there's something I canNOT change - then I just have the choice of how to deal with it.

Although I am not Wiccan, I am very much like Raevyn. The most difficult part for me is to know when to let it go or ride it out and when to do something myself.

Life is like that though, unpredictable, at least I think so.