What's your opinion?

[Magestya]

What would you do if you wanted to send a blessing to someone who you knew didn't like you anymore? Would you send it?


Blessings,
Magestya

[Radocs]

If I still cared for them, yeah, I would.

[Amulet]

If they didn't like me anymore, I would not send them any blessings - I would just think there was something wrong with them & ignore them .

Amulet

[Psyche Ague]

I definitely would.

I don't care what anyone thinks of me. Like Radocs said, if I care for someone, I will do whatever it takes to make them happy and comfortable, regardless of whether they like me or not. You can definitely love someone and have them hate you...but love them enough to still care...catch my drift?

Bless away!

[Pan]

I, too, would send the blessing. Though I would have to have a good reason. I hold major grudges.. so it depends, really, on if they did something to me. I know it sounds horrible, but I'm big on friendship and honouring that.

[TornadoAli]

Anyone can benefit from a blessing, so if you have the desire to send it to the person, send it!

[Semele]

Absolutely.

[Old Witch]

Send them the blessing.

[Flar's Freyja]

Originally posted by Loki Panwit
I, too, would send the blessing. Though I would have to have a good reason. I hold major grudges.. so it depends, really, on if they did something to me. I know it sounds horrible, but I'm big on friendship and honouring that.

The more I grow in my spiritual practice, the more aware I am of my thoughts and feelings toward others. I constantly strive to reframe any negative feelings into positive ones, and praying and sending blessings to others helps balance those feelings, so yes, I would.

[shnen]

if it feels right, do it.

[Raevyn]

It would seem to me if someone has made it clear they don't want you in their life anymore, the only ethical and loving thing to do is to abide by their wishes.

If the relationship can't work anymore - if the people simply cannot interact or work together, if one has made a point of telling the other to stay away, then it's best for them to stay away from eachother. Relationships end, people grow apart, it becomes time to close that door and move on.

Being positive, forgiving, and loving is all well and good, but sometimes the most positive, forgiving, and loving thing is to abide by the other person's wishes.

Do you think the other person would thank you for your blessings, or do you think they would scorn them? That's the question you should ask yourself.

[Danustouch]

I agree with Raevyn. When a friendship drifts apart, and one party wants nothing to do with the other, the best thing you can do is to honor those wishes. I think that making sure that your own thoughts to that person are not negative, is a good thing. But..deliberately giving a person a blessing, to me, would seem a subtle form of manipulation. In my own path, i've always been taught, that before sending energy to someone, for healing, or luck, or anything else, it is wise to ask permission. For one thing, we can't always see all aspects of the situation. This person might not be telling us the entire story, because of their wish for privacy. So sending energy, without that persons knowledge, might be unwise.

Additionally, I would consider what your intent in sending this energy is. Are you trying to let them know that you still care? If so..no matter what guise that energy takes, it is still a subtle form of manipulation. The intent in the sending, is not "pure". Sometimes, it's really hard to remain "clear of selfish intent" when we send energy to those we care about. If you know that this person does not welcome your friendly attentions, and you wish to send them anyway...it's not for their own benefit, IMO..but your own in some way or another. Sometimes, an easing of guilt. Sometimes, a need to take the "high road" and make yourself seem more loving or forgiving than the other party...and sometimes, a desire to establish a connection with the other party, on some level, which they've already clearly rejected.

I've always been taught that when we send energy to another person, we are in some way, binding ourselves to them in one way or another. If YOU can feel that connection, when you send it, then obviosly, she probably can to. And if she's made it clear that she no longer welcomes such a connection, then you are acting against her will.

So no..I really don't think you should send the blessing anyway. You can concentrate on your own thoughts toward the person, and make sure that anytime anything negative pops into your head, that you "reframe it" into something a little more positive ..such as "I release, and forgive". However, anything more than that...I don't think is a good idea.

I've been in your shoes, and sent the energy, and gotten a bit of a karmic whiplash.

[Stacy]

I would say, send the blessings. I did it so many times even though I knew the person I'm sending to doesn't like me..

To me blessings are good wishes, and to anyone who doesn't like me (BUT never did anything really mean to me) I wish well..

So, I think you should go by what your heart tells you to do..

:sunny:

[Old Witch]

Just in my mind I don't think a blessing and sending energy are exactly the same thing. I guess it would be the intent behind it.....Saying "Blessed be"( over simplification, I know) and some of the intense energy I've sent are not the same.

In the end, I guess it just boils down to individual intent.....If you are going to ground and send this great whomping flow of energy, then by all means, no!! But if you are going to say "may you have all the blessings you deserve" and leave it at that....Why not?

And again I say, just my thought......

[Raevyn]

Hm. I can see what you mean Old Witch. Though, the wording Magestya used was "send a blessing", which I think implies sending energy, not just saying words. Though of course I may be wrong.

I agree there is a difference between hoping the best for someone, or wishing they are blessed in their life, and sending energies.

[Danustouch]

To me..the "Key" word that I picked up on was "Send". This implies a deliberate output of energy of some sort of another. Holding a wish that the person would have all the blessings they wish, is of course, not a bad thing. But..a deliberate "Sending" of any sort of energy to a person, who doesn't wish it, to me, is a no-no in my path.

[Old Witch]

I understand. My reading was that it was nothing more than a blessing. That's a prime example of two people reading the same words and getting different meanings....How do diplomats do it?:)

Edited to say: sending energy without being asked is a no-no to me too.

[Danustouch]

Hmmmmmm..probably before asking for clarification on every word before they make a statement. LOL..something i've never been very good at doing :( lol.

[Old Witch]

:D If we were diplomats, our countries would probably be at war now!:D

[Magestya]

I also told my friend that some people view it as impeding on others energy. I think it's a matter of opinion and beliefs. I don't think someone should send a blesing without anoters 'permission' or 'request', unless it's an 'emergency'. But on the same hand, its out of total kindness. Maybe it just comes down to ethics?But I just wanted to see what everyone else thought, it's a good question and everyone feels so differently about it. Thank you for your opinions!

Magestya