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[Raevyn]

Dealing with the death of online friends - http://www.usernotfound.com/

Might be of interest to some of us.

[Lavender]

Sometimes I wonder about people I've gotten to know here and what's happened to them. I told my hubby that if anything ever happens to me, to log on and let you guys know.

[shnen]

I know what you mean... My roomie would come on for me if anything happened...

thanks for the link Raevyn...

[Faery-Wings]

Thanks. When I was pg with my daughter, a pregnancy/execting club that I was a member of went through this. As a group, it was really hard. We went through the sorrow of a member "dying" as well as the "baby" then the extreme anger when it turned out to be a hoax. :(

And here...I still wonder whatever happened to loopy. One day she was posting a mile a minute, next day...*poof* Did anyone ever hear from her again?

[Danustouch]

I've experienced that feeling of "Not Knowing" what happened with people i've met on the net, who I know were dealing with things such as Cancer. In this case, it wasn't a hoax, as several people had talked with her via phone, as well as speaking to her family, and people had also gone to visit her. She told all of us, that when she got really bad off, she simply would "Drop Out" of chatting, and wouldn't be reachable. She said she would rather leave us with the memory of the "vital" her, instead of allowing us to mourn over her. She didn't want us to mourn. So if we didn't know for SURE that she had died, we would always just remember her as she was the day before she dropped out of chat. One day..she did stop chatting. Nobody could reach her by phone..no answer. The phone number was disconnected. Etc. I still wonder what happened to her.

I would think that if something were to happen to me....John, or one of my close friends in my hometown would log on here to let you all know.

One of my difficulties, is that I have a friend who I am VERY close to, in real life. We met on a computer dating service, and though it didn't turn out romantically, we did become great friends. We used to spend alot of time together, in real life. And while my Parents have met him, and some of my friends have met him, i've only met ONE of his friends, who doesn't have a clue how to get in touch with me. And since his family doesn't even know I exist, and since we don't travel in the same social circles, if anything happened to HIM suddenly, I would have no way of knowing. Every time he goes a few days, to a week, without writing or calling, I worry about him, worry about this. I've tried to communicate my feelings about this to him, and he says I'm being "silly" and "dramatic". I also think about what would happen even if I DID know something had happened to him...would I show up at his funeral, where noone there, but perhaps ONE person would know me? How would this one person explain the crazy woman weeping madly, whom his family has never met? "Oh...well..she was his best friend for X number of years. He just never told you about her. You just never met her. But he spent new years eve with her a couple of times. And used to spend weekends at her place. And he talked to her every night for almost a year. She used to call him at work"..I think they'd be a little overwhelmed by this...this stranger who was so close to their relative, whom they never met... it would be so strange.

I wonder if people who are greiving, take the time to go through phone bills, or email address books, and contact the people there, to let them know....I don't remember people doing that for my loved ones who've passed...and this worries me.

[MammaStar]

If something like that were ever to happen to me. You'd all know. Either through one of the members here or Eshallet or my brother would come on & tell you.

thanks for the link. There are people out there that I'm just a "cyber" friend with. some I haven't spoken to fo r a long time.

[WynterWynd]

My hubby has been told if anything was to happen to me, to come here and tell everyone. I have had other people I knew online, just up and disappear, and I know how much I didn't like it. And it still leaves you wondering.

[Flaire-FireStar]

I don't think anyone here would log on for me.. After all, they don't like me spending so much time on line... *sighs*


I'm just thankful Daniel was there.. Else I'd be in more of a wreck than I am......

[Semele]

I think Mol might let you all know and vice versa. Good link though Raevyn...thanks for sharing.