Spell for getting over someone

[GDA]

Hi all,

I haven't posted much here or anything but I hope some of you will be able to lend a hand and give me some advice. I recently was in a friendship relationship with a young woman and we began to explore being more than friends. Well as is turns out she is no longer interested in exploring any further. Nothing drastic happened, she just doesn't feel anything more than friendship towards me. Anyway I am feeling down about (obviously) but it seems like I now feel worse than I ever have about anything. I feel so sad about this I feel like I am having a breakdown. I am hoping someone could help recommend a spell for me to get over her or one to help me gain inner strength to move on. I am trying my best to do the practical things with prayer and exercise and I am trying to keep as active as I can, but I think I need some more help so please let me know if you have any advice.

Best wishes to you all.

GDA

[AmbivalentMirage]

Ironically, I recently wrote a small spell for this!! Well...something similar. ;)

Like you, I was in a tricky emotional state and having great difficulties moving on with my life. I did consider a "getting over someone" spell that I'd found, but I decided the possible ramifications upon the other person and myself could be devastating. (I'm very paranoid and cautious with my spells. ;)) Anyhow, I wrote an alternative spell. It's a "memory release" spell, created to help let go of the negative emotions attached to memories. I used it a few weeks ago and it worked very well for me. I can't promise the same results for you, but it's worth a try. Anyhow, here it is.

What you need: Paper, pencil, one green candle, one black candle, one white candle, something you can safely throw a burning piece of paper into ;)

1) Meditate and clear your mind of debris. Focus on happiness and joy and allow any painful memories to surface naturally. As the surface, do not judge, comment on, or debate them. Simply let them pass, and with them, the emotions attached.
2) Once relaxed completely, write on a piece of paper the emotions and memories that create this cycle of pain for you. It's helpful to include names, specifics, etc.
3) Light the white and black candle.
4) Burn the paper while chanting, "Verse for verse, rhyme for rhyme, I release this memory into endless time. I call on the power of _____ (enter name(s) of deities/elements/etc.) to answer my solemn prayer. Let no harm come to friend or foe as I am clothed in light to wear." (You can also burn pictures, if you want to. I personally felt the need to burn one, as to symbolize that the other person was no longer present with me and could no longer hurt me.)
5) Light the green candle while chanting, "Perfect light and perfect love, perfect healing from heaven above."
6) Reflect quietly, allowing the same memories to resurface. This time, remind yourself that those things are part of the past and no longer have the power to hurt you in the present.

I hope this helps. =) If anything, it might give you some ideas for a spell of your own.

[GDA]

Thank you for such a quick reply. I appreciate that you take into account the fact that I do not want to put her behind me all together and that I just want to put all my hurt feelings aside and move on - hopefully with her as still a friend and an important part of my life.

Thank you!

GDA

[Chibi-Fallon]

For me what seems to work best is just kind of putting the ball in their court kind of thing. For past boyfriends even if I didn’t really like them afterwards, just kind of a “best wishes and if you still want to be friends that’s cool with me”, sort of thing. I normally feel a ton better afterward, not so much the “I took the higher road” kind of better, just more “hey that was fun, and I’m glad it happened even if it did have to end” kind of happy.
I’m still friends with most of my past boyfriends, and back to dating one again. :rolleyes: I don’t know. I guess it’s kind of a metaphysical olive branch. I think that made sense. :huh: Okay well not really, but I tried. 8O
I don't have anything written out as I'm big on spontaneity when it comes to spells, but I could probably come up with a basic outline (it's been different every time).

[Rick]

Check out Practical Rune Magic I in the stuck thread above... it's called "Help"... one of the specific aspects contained there is help with emotional turmoil...

[Ravens_Tears]

Something else I have found helps is carrying a worry stone. I have an amethyst that I keep in my pocket (that has become very smooth;) ) I find it soothing.

[Flar's Freyja]

I bumped a thread for you that Raevyn posted not very long ago that might be helpful, and there was a good thread called something like "What do you do to move on?" in one of the other forums a while back that might also help.

Merry Meet and Welcome if I haven't said so already :wave:

[GDA]

feel foolish for saying this- but how to I get to the posts and links that some of you have pointed out? I know there is a link "stuck in the thread above" and another one is somewhere else- I realize this is a stupid question, but please let me know.

Thanks!

Dave

[Flar's Freyja]

To find the thread that I bumped - and I'll bump it again, just go to the main link for this forum and check the threads that are listed. They will be the ones with the most recent posts. As to the other thread, just go to search and put those words in and threads containing that topic or words should come up. I think it was actually called "How Do You Move On?" and I think it was in the Just Talk forum.

Our search function still isn't the greatest although Mol has tried to improve it. Come to think of it, you may not be able to find that thread because it objects to words less than four letters :( If I can find it, I'll bump that one for you too.

[GDA]

Thank you!

[Flar's Freyja]

I trust that you found them, then :D