Sharing crystals or tools with your children?

[Faery-Wings]

Do any of you share your crystals, tarot, runes or other tools with your children?

The reason I am asking is that Scott is having problems focusing in school. I thought I would give him some of my crystals to keep him grounded. I would buy him his own, but I have no store nearby. I ended up not doing it because I thought at this point they might distract him further.

So I started thinking... (bad sign!). I know most witches won't share tools with anyone else as their own energy is imbued in them. And to that, I agree. But my kids would be different. I feel that their energy is part of mine as well. As long as they were using the tools with good intentions, i would not mind.

Maybe this is because they are so young and still very psychically attached to me. I am not sure is psycically is the right word to use, but I hope you know what I mean. I don't often have psychic experiences with "knowing" (That will be another thread!) but I feel we have more of an astral bond. As they get older, I am sure that will disippate a bit.

Anyway, what are your thoughts?

[Semele]

I know exactly what you are trying to say about the bond. Its like your kids are so much a oart of you that you aren't sharing with another person at all. Plus, I think the fact that your energy is contained in the stones etc is a good thing for the little ones. It helps you "be there" with them as well.

I would also worry about it being a little distracting too though. I have to be very careful with Trey and what we let him take to school because he will take it out and play with it. Freyja made him a great rune necklace that he is no longer allowed to wear to school because he always comes out swinging it around and I am afraid he is doing this in class too and I don't want him to distract or hurt others. Plus I would hate for him to lose it as it means so much to him.

Trey does have some of his own "rocks" and runes that he uses daily. He has them in a basket with some marbles. He will not leave them in the little sack they came in...they have to be in the basket and he lines them up on the coffee table and then goes about with his daily magnadoodle drawing or whatever else he is doing, but the runes and stones are always there. Mol kind of fusses at him to oput them up though! :rolleyes:

[WitchyMomma]

Would a worry stone be too much of a distraction? Something small that wouldn't be too much of an object of interest? Just an idea.

I share (age appropriate ;)) my things when I can. Our older daughter has a great interest in stones. She just got her first piece of quartz and was so excited that she dropped it and broke it! :eek: :lol: (We'll get her another one next week).

She has also played with my cards and my cauldron. She likes to "cook" in that one.

[MammaStar]

J-man has his own stones. Not many though. He has this one totem animal stone that he picked out himself. He keeps it in his knapsack to take to school with him.

A few months ago, we had a chat about my path and things of that nature. I took him to my room & showed him my altar and tools and explained what each one did, but that he was NOT ALLOWED to touch them. I don't want him thinking it's "cool" to bring my anthame to school and then there's a whole heap of trouble.

He has no interest in my runes & cards though. If he did, I'd probably let him "play" with those.

[Faery-Wings]

Semele, thanks for understanding my babble. You know how I get some days! :p

I liked the idea of my energy helping him, maybe feel comforted and grounded.

Just thinking "outloud," what if we charged the crystal together? Could that work, in blending our energies?

And if we called it a worry stone, it might make it easier for him at school.Thanks for giving me some ideas!

[WitchyMomma]

I think if you did that (charge it together, that is) it could really help remind him of it's function and the comfort of Mommy being there. :)

Glad you liked the worry stone idea, even if it's only called that. :lol: Whatever works!

Sometimes I surprise myself and get those good ideas. Usually I just have "Mommy Brain". :nyah: :lol:

[Semele]

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[Lanna]

wow this is someting that came up yesterday with my son and i........i was doing a tarot reading for a friend and had left the cards out because i needed to collect my son. Anyhow I haven't been hiding these things from him, just using them when he is asleep or not there mainly. He was fascinated with the cards, he asked me what they were and why i had had them out. He even looked at one and asked if it was a knight and he wanted to know what the wands were and he even started asking what things meant.....i was amazed at how intrested he was and how much he seemed to understand. ANYWAY the point im making is, i don't let anyone touch my cards the way i let him handle them and afterwards i questioned it, then concluded that he was still a big part of me and it would be crazy to not share these things with him like that, while he is this age!

[Hope]

a suggestion that may help you ---- I used knot magic to make my son an anklet ---- it was there working --- he could forget about it and not take it off and swing it :) and it's hard to play with your ankle long :)

love
hope

[Lady Tana]

I never thought about this until reading this thread..
My daughter plays with all of my things... her 2 favorites are the silver chalice of bits of quartz crystals which she stands at and runs her fingers thru (sometimes for hours) and my tarot cards..
the cards she loves to lay out and tell "storys" with.
imho there isnt anything wrong with her handling my things as she is learning by them (and i believe she has a stronger affinity with the rocks and cards than i do)

[Oscen Occultus]

Hmm, I like the idea of "blending" energies onto an object. Do you think that could work for best-friends also?

[)O( ~ Khara~ )O(]

I share almost all with my children. My oldest pulls decks from the "tarot drawer" without questioning whose deck it is. I have also used his, but I must say going from the Witch's Tarot to Baseball without realizing it is a little weird. I keep my wands, athame and bolline away from them however.

My children all own their own crystals and stones. I found these cool little treasure boxes at Michael's and gave them to each with a few stones a couple of years ago for Yule.

When my oldest was letting his mouth run and his mind wander and I saw a drop in his grades, I went searching for an answer. I found a citrine shaped like a claw set in silver for a necklace. It is 3/4 an in long. I gave it to him on a chain. His grades went up, his personal behavior improved. The added plus was he had a cool dinosaur claw to show off!

[Alliesky]

My 8 yr old daughter has many of her own things. She likes to watch when I do tarot readings (only for myself). She is also very vocal about her beliefs with the other kids at school. Unfortunately there are quite a few mormon children at her school. And everyone knows that people fear what they can't understand. She has had to learn when to share her knowledge and with who. I have given my teenage sons crystals etc and have been teaching them to meditate. I know it has helped my 15 yr old, as he has ADD and meditation with his crystal helps him focus. I think if I had found my path when I was a "young Mom" it would have been good for him to have something to help him learn how to focus his mind. It is certainly never too early to start that kind of mental exercise, my daughter is one amazing child. I don't think its her "first" time around the wheel of life.

[OakFire]

I feel that it would be good to share or give stones to your children. Their energy should be simular to yours. I know a friend of mine, she teaches her son (who is 3 yrs old) to know the different stones. He is very good at it. Very smart too. I thinking children can learn quickly and would understand about keeping a stone. And, might make him think more about concentrating.