The "One"

[HeavensHope]

no...i'm not talking about the Jet Li movie. =) i'm talking about the "one"...soulmates....etc. Is it possible to "know" i mean actually "know" with all your heart...without a doubt that the person you're with is the "one" you've been searching, and waiting for all this time? even if you guys have just met. I'm not talking about love at first sight...where you fall in love by seeing someone....i'm talking about more then love....a deeper connection...like you've known this person your whole life. Okay now i'm babbling...but yeah..does anyone know what i'm talking about?

[Pan]

I think I know what you're talking about. It's a deeper sort of feeling rather than love in the traditional sense. I felt that way with hubby when we first met over a chess game.. and he beat me.

I knew, deep down, that he was the one I would be with.. though I didn't believe in soul mates at the time. Even now, I feel such a connection with him.. it's like there's a string from my heart to his that will never break no matter how many times our physical bodies do.

[Xentor]

Greetings,

I too think the one is out there. That's because I allready met her and know her quite well.

Unfortunately, I wasn't the one for her, and I've practiced patience ever since. I've never met anyone like her and doubt I ever will. And I'm not voting for second best.

[Dresden]

I'm married to the one.

;)

I met my husband at a website for writers. One of my poems was the first thing he read when he arrived at the site, and we immediately began talking. I was actually going out with someone else at the time, but we established a connection, and he helped me out during the end of my troubled relationship.

We actually had the same dream one night, before we admitted how we felt about each other. In the dream, each of us felt like we were alone in a dark room, but with the very intense feeling that the other was in the room with us, and that we were just unable to see each other.

Anyway it's over a year later and we're incredibly happy and every day is a gift.

Lalala.

[Derry]

Yes, you will know when you have found your true soul mate. It is a love too deep for words to even describe. My hubby and I first met when we were 6 years old...I threw him off the jungle gym for irritating me :lol: He moved away and came back when I was 16. We have been together since. We got married when we were 18. We have now been married for 11 happy years. He is more than just a husband and a soul mate..he is my best friend. We hike, fish and do everything together. It's hard to explain..you just know when you meet that person. Even after all these years if my hubby is away on military training somewhere, he takes the cell phone and calls me atleast once a day to say he loves me. I see a lot of divorce in this world, especially in military life, but there are those matches that are just perfect. Sometimes it takes a while for that special person to appear in your life. I wish you well and applaud your patience.

[Gently Gazing Eyes]

I may have met "the one" last night.. time will tell. :)

[Flar's Freyja]

I'm married to "the one" but there have been other "ones;" some with whom it worked out for a while and some with whom it didn't.

May I suggest some reading that may help you? I know you've been struggling with this for some time now. In the Meantime by Iyanla VanZant is a wonderful book about how each relationship in our progression prepares us for the "one." It's a wonderful tool to help sort through these issues.

I saw a wonderful quote on a pillow today:

"Dream of tomorrow, but live for today."

[Lunacie]

Well, Freya, I was trying to think of the words to say that, without sounding negative. I met "the one" 30 years ago and we were married for about 25 years. We had a wonderful daughter, so even though the relationship is over now, there were many good things that came out of it. I've met other people who may have been "the one" in one of my past lives. (?) And, yes, I agree that each "one" we connect with prepares us to connect with another "one" further along the path.

[Old Witch]

I married the "one" 30 years ago..........Knew it at once..........It took him a couple of weeks........or so he says.........:lol:

[Gently Gazing Eyes]

I'm presently trying to get the person I feel may be the one for me to sign up for this site. An aspiring pagan as well, we share many similar views on many things. We've talked at length for hours and hours, and it was really great. Last night was uber. :D

[SerenityMoon]

i don't believe that there is one person already "chosen" for you, so to speak..but i do believe we feel certain things when we meet somebody who connects with us...and i call that being in love *shrug*

[HeavensHope]

sure a reading will be nice. =)

i think i'm found the 'one' . I'm not sure because i guess i'm not ready to admit it to myself or maybe afraid. He's everything i could dream of and more...and the connection i have with him...is undescribable. I thought it was just a one way thing...turns out he feels equally the same...and was afraid to admit it or didnt know how either. I believe in soulmates....because with each life i feel like the 'one' where suppose to be with was always there...that's why i feel like i've known him my whole life...and feel this strong connection with him....a deeper connection then just love.

[Sabrina]

Greetings:

My husband and I met over 21 years ago.

I'd have to say that he is absolutely the "one"....hehehe

Besides many "issues" we've had over the years together and the number of times we were afraid we just werent gonna make it...we are SO still together in love, sex, happily raising our three girls and
we're together in spirit.

It's all about give and take (you've heard that like a zillion times I'm sure) but the reason people keep saying that old phrase is because it is so true....
but I mean give and take of a different flavor.

If I were to view myself without Jim in my life all these years - my life would have been bleak I think. I'm like a kite and Jim holds the string....he runs and runs and lets me fly....
he's content to watch me whirl around through the wind while he safely stands on the ground and holds tight that string.

Could I have ever found anyone else who might have held that string? perhaps...
but no other face would watch me twirl and fly through the air with such pride as Jim has.

without him....I fear I'd have been a kite - in the box still - never flown...never knowing the wind stinging my cheeks.
The kite is nothing but pretty colors sewen together unless someone picks up that string and runs with it.

When two people can have a mutual purpose and yet seperate tasks and goals....
it is a beautiful thing.

[HeavensHope]

everyone has such beatiful stories to share....gives me hope

[Gently Gazing Eyes]

Me too. :)

[Rubi Waters]

I'm trying to be patient..........but I'm still waiting to find mine!
What's that old saying ....."You gotta kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince". I don't want any more frogs !!!!!!
At least hearing these beautiful stories, I too still have hope :)

[Derry]

Now, now Rubi...what's wrong with kissin' all those frogs. Frogs are great, hence my avatar. But, seriously, the perfect person will show up eventually....maybe one of those frogs will eventually come back as a prince. My hubby was definatley a frog when we first met..well, sometimes he still is, but he turned out great. Hang in there and I wish you luck.

[IsisErin]

I'm glad to see people saying that there's been more than one 'one', if that makes any sense. :) Maybe I will find another one day.

[Dresden]

Originally posted by Derry

Now, now Rubi...what's wrong with kissin' all those frogs. Frogs are great, hence my avatar.

I love frogs. In fact, I usually go by the name Rana on the internet, but someone else on MW already has that name. It is the Latin term for "frog."

Concerning "the one." I do also believe that there is more than one "soulmate" out there for everyone. I have gone out with people before my husband where the circumstances surrounding our getting together were bizarre to the point of being almost supernatural. I think that at times we need a certain person to be there in order to teach us things about ourselves, or about life in general. Or maybe we need to be there to teach them something, or both. Some relationships are more intense than others, but I've had three now where I'm sure that there was something deeper going on there.